Results for: queer parenting
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Four Transracial Asian Adoptees on Body, Place, Family, and Race
I believe my queerness makes my Asian-ness and my adoptee-ness stronger. I am more myself when I hold all these truths together than when I try to compartmentalize them.
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The Illusion Of Safety
I don’t want to be caught parading around in last generation’s false sense of security. I’m kicking off Autostraddle’s first Asian Pacific Islander American (APIA) Heritage month by exploring the values my own South Asian and Japanese American parents and grandparents imparted to me, to learn to carry them forward.
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Throwback to Shakedown: LA’s Black Lesbian Strip Club
In Los Angeles in the early 2000’s (I’m talking 2002, 2003 when J Lo released her Glo perfume) and long before social media could tell you where to go out, Shakedown was a famously hot party for the Black lesbian community. Even after LAPD shut down Shakedown in 2004, we came out and supported Leilah Weinraub to finish a documentary on the scene and carve out a piece of history.
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Year of Our (Audre) Lorde: August’s New Spelling of My Name
In my own myth, New York has been the cornerstone of what shaped me, finally allowing myself to be in my queerness. While the New York I inhabited and the one of Audre Lorde’s life looked radically different, Lorde’s relationships and the women she loves and lusts for each leave her fuller than before.
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Lost and Found in the Fish Sauce: How I Cooked My Way Back Home
Through my mother’s recipes, I’m reminded of the resilience that flows in our blood. Instead of disconnecting from my body to survive, I nurtured it. Like me, cooking is hella queer and fluid. Every time I reimagine a dish, it can taste different depending on my mood.“How spicy do I want this dish to be today? “How sweet do I want this dessert?” It’s never fixed or prescribed. That’s what makes these evolving recipes — and the queer experience — so delicious.
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Mud Wrestling Showed Me How To Want
Our thighs slapped against the tarp as we threw each other across the floor. Our eyes and ears were painted in mud like two casts of the human form. The thing that pulled me into the ring that night was desire itself.
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Stepping Out Of Silence
When love is a matter of desperation, how do you even begin to know what it is you desire? It doesn’t matter what shape love takes. Or does it?
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The Quiet Lesbian Biography of Lorraine Hansberry
There is sufficient evidence, both from Lorraine Hansberry’s own hand and from those with whom she interacted socially, that she was a lesbian. But the how of it all — that we have to piece together in fragments.
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“The Chi” Season Three: Easy on the Eyes as a Queer Woman, Hard on the Heart as a Black Woman
With a total of five lesbian, bisexual, queer and trans Black women characters in the main cast, Lena Waithe’s “The Chi” certainly made history this summer. But did making “The Chi” gayer turn it into a better show?
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The Dyke Kitchen: Diaspora Co. Queers Your Spice Cabinet
Sana Javeri Kadri brings her whole queer life to Diaspora Co., her company that’s decolonizing the spice trade, supporting Indian small farmers, and delivering banging spices to your kitchen.
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Six Queer Asian Artists on “The Half of It” and the Future of Queer Asian Cinema
Alice Wu’s “The Half of It” has been for out less than a week, and it’s already become a classic. We brought together some of Autostraddle’s queer and trans Asian editors and writers — along with some of our writer friends and Generation Q’s Leo Sheng — to talk about the film, Alice Wu, and the current landscape of queer Asian media.
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Six Black Trans Women on Sending Abundant, Overflowing Love to Zaya Wade
I pray that all my little trans sisters receive this love, this support and that more broadly in the black community we can make sure all of our children grow in love and kindness.
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Nine Queer Writers of Color on “Generation Q” and The L Word’s Legacy of Whiteness
The L Word: Generation Q featured 12 new queer characters of color in its first season, but media conversations about the show have largely remained driven by white points of view. So, we set out to change that.
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23 Black Queer and Trans Femmes to Follow on Instagram This Black History Month
Honey, these glorious embodiments of black femme magic are about to sweep you off your feet.
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“I Am the Terrorist I Must Disarm”: An Interview with Staceyann Chin
I was in high school when I first saw Staceyann Chin perform, barefoot and incensed. She was fearless in her rage, her sexuality, her eloquence. Now, I feel the same reading her as I felt watching all those years ago — as if I’m being granted permission.
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The Drag Kings of Taipei
I moved to California from Shanghai at fourteen and threw myself into learning how to be an American. It’s a lot like doing drag.
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What Can Black Queer People Learn From the Lost Queer Joy of the Civil Rights Movement?
More than anything, this year, I wish black queer and trans people JOY. Martin Luther King didn’t fight that damn hard for us not to have a quality of life that comes with celebrating our joy and humanity first.
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Always In The Middle: On Being Biracial & Bisexual
Perhaps my identity oscillates at times but in a world that attempts to force me to choose one side of a binary, I remain firmly in the middle.
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The Invisible Addicts: Addiction and Treatment in Black LGBT Communities
In my own struggle to get sober, I would spend days telling myself that my bottoms were “not that bad.” That the next day I would drink lighter, drink less, have water between glasses. For black gay addicts, we’re pressured at both ends. One of the reasons I’m sober today is because people around me talked about it, they extended their hands and hearts to me without knowing it.
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Anatomy of a Mango: Flesh
It seems contradictory to say I learned how to view my body as my own by sharing it with strangers and friends, but it is a truth that I revel in. What I love and learn about these encounters are the parameters of my body, its strengths, and boundaries, what pleases it.