Results for: be the change
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I’m a Bisexual Woman With Genital Herpes — Here’s What’s in My Sex Bag
After my diagnosis, I thought my sex life was over. I was wrong.
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Sex Tips for When You’re Stranded in the Canadian Wilderness Post-Plane Crash With No Rescue Team in Sight
Do you really want to be that person who survived a plane crash and then died from putting a literal stick up their ass? No, you don’t.
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You Need Help: My Ex Got Mad That I Didn’t Want To Have Sex, Now I Can’t Trust Anyone
I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.
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The Gay B C’s of Sex: L Is for Lesbian Bed Death
Why did the term “lesbian bed death” stick around in the queer imagination? Well, it’s catchy. And it’s scary!
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy
After months of holding ourselves back in order to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID, we were chasing abundance.
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Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch
How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that feel and what did it bring up? How do you ID now, and where do you see it as part of that ~ journey ~?
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Muffing 101
For trans women who experience genital dysphoria, being penetrated in the front can be really meaningful.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again
Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]
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You Need Help: I Thought We Were Both Switches, but My Girlfriend Won’t Touch Me
It sounds like your idea of your sexual dynamic with your girlfriend isn’t lining up with the reality of it.
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Anonymous Sex Diary: A Couple Rekindles Their Sex Life with “Intimacy Boot Camp”
We’re both trying to avoid the lesbian bed death trope, hoping to be remembered in history as lovers, not “really good friends.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Explore Casual Sex If I’m Demisexual?
If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?
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How To Negotiate Better Consent: An Asexual Perspective
Most consent conversations are based on the assumption that everybody experiences sexual desire and attraction — but asexual people don’t.
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How to Masturbate Like a Champ
May is Masturbation Month! Here’s your guide to doing you as only you can.
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Sex Ed 2.0: Books on Queer Sex That Answer Questions You Never Got To Ask
Our ongoing adult sex ed requires a little research. These books on queer sex address the questions you didn’t get to ask in health class.
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Oh Duck: The Autocorrect Adds You Need for Better Queer Sexting
A spectre is haunting queer sexting — the spectre of “duck.” Here’s how to fix your autocorrect and what to add to your dictionary for better queer sexting.
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Don’t Let Your Nail Length Stop You From Having Great Sex
1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.
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S L I C K: Duckling
First I became a cloud-woman. Min had always liked watching them as a child, one of her only good memories from that period. I lifted up my skirts, let her lap up my water. Her mouth was covered in dew when I kissed her.
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.