NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Turning Sex Into Art

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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

+ Larissa Pham asks, “Why do we like BDSM?” by talking to a selection of people who do:

“‘I think one of the reasons why I like BDSM and kink is because it opens up a whole world of conversations that don’t really happen with ‘vanilla’ sex,’ wrote Sofia, a queer Asian woman. ‘Consent is important, but so is understanding limits and listening to your partner and their needs.’ […]

I’ve always thought of BDSM as an intensely psychological practice, but it’s also one intimately entwined with power and problematics, privilege and access. It’s a practice reliant on self-discovery and self-exploration. More than whips and chains or gear, BDSM is a space to examine, push boundaries, and transform in unexpected and thrilling ways.”

+ In the Ecosexual Bathhouse, a performance art piece by Pony Express, you can fuck the environment in a good way instead of a destructive one:

“Comprised of transdisciplinary artist Loren Kronemyer and theater-maker Ian Sinclair, Pony Express created the bathhouse to humorously speculate on how sensual interaction with the environment may help secure the future of the planet. In their own words, ‘Sex sells, and if humans can learn to love the environment, maybe they can learn to preserve it.’

The project is premised on ‘ecosexuality’—a nascent queer identity that considers the environment an erotic partner. Ecosexual Bathhouse imagines a world where this identity is on the brink of becoming mainstream, and the project offers its audience a safe place to really get in touch with nature. It draws heavily on both the queer and environmentalist movements—updating their activism with a touch of post-human hedonism for the 21st century, for when sustainability has reached its limit and the brink of environmental apocalypse looks close enough to jump.”

+ Sex toy makers have a lot of trouble with online marketing, since they’re limited from Facebook, Instagram, some crowdfunding sites, and Amazon. Many have had to find workarounds:

“Klinger, like other sex toy manufacturers, couldn’t get the word out on Facebook and Instagram. They also can’t raise money on Kickstarter, and struggle to sell their product on Amazon, thanks to those sites’ rules about sexually explicit material.
“Vibrators — even vibrators that are positioned as a sexual health discovery product, as opposed to something that’s pornographic — have a really hard time” selling online, Klinger told BuzzFeed News. Which is why she, along with a handful of other savvy sex toy slingers, decided the best way to deal with these rules is to break them.”

+ There have been a lot of “guidebooks for single girls.”

+ Sex and masturbation are good for your skin.

+ Women! Some like porn, who knew.

+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen writes about what is sex anyway. (We have a flowchart that will also help.)

+ What’s the difference between buzzy and rumbly vibrators?

+ Legalize sex work.

+ Vagina shape affects orgasm, according to a new study that sounds like it focused on straight cis women.

shot by Anne Barlinckhoff for C-heads Magazine

shot by Anne Barlinckhoff for C-heads Magazine

+ Sex lessons from queer feminist porn director Courtney Trouble:

“I think the best thing you can do to inspire a relationship is to know what you want — and to be honest and open about it. There’s so many ways to approach sex and sexuality, and as long as they are legal activities and you have consent, none of them are wrong. (Of course, good sex can be illegal in some places — gay sex and the help of a sex worker come to mind.) It’s important to cultivate your sexual fantasies and to seek out sex that works for you. Where to start? Exploring pornography, erotic writing, and sex-positive how-to books are my favorite ways to learn about sex. Once you figure out what gets you hot, share it with your partner. Remember, openness is key. If your partner isn’t into what you want to try, maybe they can support you trying it with someone else!”

+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: five (more) Crash Pad episodes, because it’s still Masturbation Month.

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1077 articles for us.

5 Comments

  1. I truly loved the discussion of “buzzy” vs “rumbly” vibes ! I was on pins and needles to the end … because I know what works for me and I wondered what the author would think of *my* fav vibe??? No worries, apparently she and I are in agreement :)

    Tango rules !

  2. Now that I know the difference between rumbly and buzzy vibrators, two things come to mind: 1. the ones I own are already on the rumbly side of things (yes!), and 2. I need more and now I know what to look for.

    Anyone want to help me try them out? ;)

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