NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Knows What Kink Is

Feature image of Sal Marquez and Vivi Marie in Crash Pad Series episode 310. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Stop using “but it’s kink” as an excuse for non-consensual situations. As Avery Trufelman says in a discussion on what “kinky” is (I know) at the Cut:

“Kink can’t be an excuse for abuse. In order for us to understand where lines actually get crossed, as a culture, we’re going to have to engage with the ideas of kink much more fully — for all of its richness and deep, deep complexity.”

Mistress Tom deFun and Blair

Mistress Tom deFun and Blair in Crash Pad Series episode 311

I want a love that lets me stay clear eyed. One that lets me hold onto my identity. And stay grounded to the truth.”

Here’s how to make yourself squirt.

Here’s your love language, based on zodiac sign.

Come As You Are is still a classic.

Porn is old.

There are lots of lies about kissing, for instance, that French kissing comes from France.

Here’s what’s up with a sexual energetic cleanse.

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305

Give sex workers the covid vaccine:

“‘The systems that operate in our society have roots in white supremacy and patriarchy, and I never expect them to let me in,’ [Solana Sparks] said. ‘I think the best that we can do, the best my ancestors could do, the best that my community of sex workers can do, is try to get the most information we can and try to keep ourselves safe.’

‘We now need the backing of vaccination departments to be able to protect ourselves from COVID and gain more bargaining power in our work,’ Sparks added in an email. ‘We have to take what we can get right now—and work maskless—because we don’t have any labor protections or public health backing.'”

Chocolate Chip and Emperatrix

Chocolate Chip and Emperatrix in Crash Pad Series episode 278

Dating apps’ policies are even less transparent than Facebook’s, writes Spandana Singh at Slate:

“Stories of hate, harassment, sexual assault, and downright weird encounters both on apps and during app-facilitated dates have gained notoriety. Many of these anecdotes underscore the opaque process users have to go through when trying to report an offending account and platforms’ lackluster responses to user reports. Despite this, dating apps provide very little transparency and accountability around how they handle safety and content issues on their services. For example, very few of these platforms currently publicly publish clear and easily accessible copies of their community guidelines. These policies are essential for understanding what kinds of content are permitted on a service.”


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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1121 articles for us.

2 Comments

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