NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Can’t Stop Squirming

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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

+ At the Toast, Katie Klabusich writes about solo poly — which for her is “a few romantic relationships happening at a time that work a lot like friendships with an intimacy bonus. I tack on ‘solo’ and call myself ‘solo poly’ because I’m not shopping for a roommate; I like my own space, freedom, and ridiculous work schedule” — and being seen as two-dimensional, personal agency, mono-normativity and how everyone should just stop making assumptions:

“The more I have to explain my intimate life to others, the more I daydream about a culture that doesn’t demand I — or anyone else — do so. What if we didn’t have any assumptions at all? What if, when we went on a first date, we all had to ask the other person what they were looking for and where they’d live if they could live anywhere and whether they want marriage or kids or days full of surfing and golf or knitting and gardening? What if, when we asked someone out, we were actually asking out that person and not shopping for someone to fill a predetermined role we’d imagined for them? Dating shouldn’t be like hiring an assistant or a pet sitter.”

model Ysaunny Brito via

model Ysaunny Brito via aetsogard

+ Queer girl pick-up strategies, in haiku:

“Perfect the art of
leaning on things. Once mastered,
hook thumbs into jeans.”

+ A new illustrated alphabet aims to help normalize sex and disability. Artist Pâté told Refinery 29:

“I loved the idea of an A-to-Z of sex and disability that takes a raunchy and light-hearted approach to debunking the myth that disabled people don’t have fulfilling sex lives and relationships, when nothing could be further from the truth,” he tells us. “I hope people enjoy it on a visual level and that it makes them smile. I think irreverence and humour are great persuasive tools, they have a way of making people relax and listen.”

Tiffany Luce by @von_jackson

Tiffany Luce by @von_jackson

+ More sex can lead to more happiness — but only to a point. (The point is “once a week.”) According to a recent study, there is:

“‘[A] linear association between sex and happiness up to a frequency of once a week, but at higher frequencies there is no longer an association,’ Amy Muise, a social psychologist at the University of Toronto Mississauga who led the research, said in an email. ‘Therefore it is not necessary, on average, for couples to aim to engage in sex as frequently as possible.'”

The caveat, though, is “what emerges from the group doesn’t trump your personal experience. You can go on doing what works for you and your honey. The take-home message, Muise says, is that it’s “important to maintain a sexual connection with a romantic partner, but it is also important to have realistic expectations for one’s sex life (given that many couples are busy with work and family responsibilities.)”

Our own Lesbian Sex Survey produced similar results, although we didn’t see a big shift in relationship happiness until we got down to once a month or less.

+ Vulva emojis vulva emojis vulva emojis. (Update: plagiarized vulva emojis.)

+ What’s the difference between nudity and porn?

+ Sugarbutch rounded up the best queer sex blogs.

+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen wrote about genitals and how boners are for everyone.

IG @ohwawa via curves in color

IG @ohwawa via curves in color

+ The best way to prevent harm and discrimination against sex workers would be to actually protect them.

+ Chlamydia, syphilis and gonorrhea had an “alarming” rise in 2014, according to a new report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: Let’s talk about sexting:

“For me, sexting feels like something between a private smile across a crowded table and the best conversation and full-on banging. It makes me feel closer to my person, keeps the sexual tension high, is more tailored than any published erotica ever could be and lets us both come because of each other no matter how far apart we are.”

Also remember that time a reviewer tried out the Mustang Royale? Also Neon Moon’s recent lingerie campaign fights body shaming and transphobia (update: Neon Moon is actually the worst.).

remedyriot and traptastictasha via fyeahcutetranschicks

remedyriot and traptastictasha via fyeahcutetranschicks

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1090 articles for us.

17 Comments

  1. Neon Moon says they’re fighting transphobia. Their actions tell a different story. They’re stealing work from trans authors and refusing to communicate with trans people. They’re even deleting the comments of trans women.

    I’m disappointed that Autostraddle is still promoting them.

  2. Will the update about Neon Moon’s harmfulness be added to the top of the actual article as well, or will the article be changed or deleted and replaced with an explanation/link about that harmfulness? I believe that it’s very necessary, since there’s a good chance of that article being widely shared to people who aren’t regular autostraddle readers or don’t read this column and won’t see this.

    • “One of the reasons Tobey was able to identify the art is because one of the vulvas that Flirtmoji produced is a reproduction of Tobey’s own anatomy. “I took a photo of my own and illustrated it,” she says. Because that picture isn’t available online, Flirtmoji’s designers couldn’t have worked off the original.”

      /THAT TIME I DOWNLOADED VULVA EMOJIS AND RECOGNIZED MY OWN

      I mean it’s bad that that happened, but that’s the most badass way to realize/prove plagarism I’ve ever heard of

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