Hello friends and countryqueers, how the hell are you? I hope good, but also, if you aren’t I get it. It’s heartbreak season, you know? Like maybe you bought your new partner a bunch of cute holiday presents and then they dumped you! Or maybe you’re just remembering that one really good relationship you had seven years ago that ended messily but you still sometimes secretly think could work. I don’t know, these are hypothetical, definitely not things that I have done this month, but you know, if you have, it’s okay.
Here’s the thing: yes, I went through a breakup a few weeks ago, and yes I think love is a lie, but I also know that it isn’t. And I also know that love isn’t the way it happens in the movies, but damnit, sometimes your queer tender heart needs to snuggle up with your cats, watch 27 Dresses, scream “WHY ARE STRAIGHT PEOPLE LIKE THIS” while stuffing your face with popcorn, and then weep when the two leads finally get together at the end. Sometimes that’s the way you remember that if these boring heterosexuals who’ve done no work and never communicate until they have to can find love, then gosh dangit, so can you.
My December has been spent watching Nora Ephron movies, mostly. There’s something about the fast talking WASPs of the 1980s and 1990s that has always soothed me – it’s similar to the reason Chekov called his plays comedies I think, because their problems are so trivial but they’re taken so seriously – and honestly, the woman wrote/directed/produced the best romantic comedies of all time. My favorite, obviously, is When Harry Met Sally, because young Meg Ryan is a dream come true in every way. But there’s also Sleepless in Seattle, with Rosie O’Donnell’s random appearance, and how could we forget the last moments of You’ve Got Mail???? When nothing makes sense, I crave these stories because everything wraps up neatly, and doing the right thing always gets you what you want.
I’m also obsessed with the holiday themed rom-coms. Hallmark movies are an obsession of mine, even though I scream “MAKE IT GAY YOU COWARDS,” every time the protagonist and her “best friend” interact with one another. I’m thrilled about the prospect of there being a gay holiday rom-com starring Kristen Stewart next year, and I can’t wait for Holiday Help Desk from Beleeve Entertainment to come out on Christmas Eve. And of course, Love, Actually gets watched at least once a holiday season, even though the jury is still out about whether or not it’s a good movie.
Okay friends, what are you doing to heal your heart this season? How are you turning your blue Christmas around? What romantic comedies do you turn to year after year when you need to be reminded that love isn’t a lie? I want to know your faves! Especially if you think Jerry Maguire is a better romantic comedy than WHMS. I also want to know about your week and your life and your pets and your job and anything else you want to tell me. I’m very glad we’re here together this weekend, and I can’t wait to see what you’ve got to say!
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