Hey there, salted caramel chocolate cupcakes! No offense, but I prefer muffins. Anyway, welcome to this week’s Friday Open Thread, where we post photos of cats for adoption in various cities. JK! It’s just our weekly Internet party where we spill our guts, post photos of our crafting projects and also loved ones, and share our secrets. And it’s an extra-special week for this lovefest, because it’s Valentine’s Day this weekend! So let me fucking love you.
I’m spending my Valentine’s Day wishing I lived in British Columbia, where my girlfriend Geneva lives the island life and enriches the daily experiences of everyone around her with that adorable face. We’re gonna do our usual thing and Skype while we eat pizza and drink champagne because we’re Marvin like that. I also attempted to send her a very oversize card, but the mail system is irreparably broken and they told me it was too big to mail. So basically, my love for Geneva is too much for anyone to handle and I’m spending this Saturday with hearts for eyes.
Of course, before the last few years of remarkable happiness in this area of my life, Valentine’s Day was a much darker time. I still ate a whole pizza, but I ate it alone. Okay, fine, it wasn’t that bad, but I’m saying that if the day of love fills you with unrepentant angst or rage or sadness, I feel you on that, too. I’m here for you no matter what. Also, did I mention I want to fucking love you right now. Cue kitten photo #2.
So, kitten babes, how are you spending your Valentine’s Day? Whether you’re ordering Chinese takeout alone, hanging with your “gal pal” (or your actual gal pal), cuddling your pet, or having the kind of sex that makes your neighbors complain to the landlord, I’m game to be the one you talk to about it. Plus, when you post photos of your dog I’ll post photos of mine maybe with hearts added to the background! And if you reply to each other, we can all have a loving Valentine’s Day no matter what.
Also, as always, feel free to use this space to tell me what you’re eating for breakfast / lunch / dinner, what projects you’re working on right now, and how excited you are to be alive on this glorious day of our goddess, amen.
Love you, bro.
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YOU GUYS. I purchased my very first harness/dildo, just in time for Valentine’s Day. I looked far and wide for the best of both, read all the reviews on here and other places, consulted my person (ya know, ’cause it’s also for them…) and finally settled on a SpareParts Joque and, get this, a TIE DYE vixskin mustang dildo…SO EXCITED. They arrive today. Ahhhhhh.
I REALLY wanted a not-too-complicated harness and I sure as hell did not want the dildo to be flesh colored. Gross. But I also didn’t want a bright pink thing, either, which were really starting to look like my only options. Saw the tie dye, fell madly in love (or at least as madly in love as possible for someone who REALLY dislikes the D) and boom.
I’ve been out for something like four years now and this is my very first harness/dildo purchase. I finally feel like I’m a legit lesbian. I have arrived.
THAT SOUNDS AMAZING
Also also, purchasing condoms and lube for the first time. Fun times. So very lost.
They make some really nice smell lube these days. The store I went to had a section where you can scratch and sniff the lube sent on these cards they had.
I got the most basic things I could find after standing there looking lost and uncomfortable for fifteen minutes.
Only to get home and realize that putting a condom on is fucking hard. Like, why is it so hard to do? How do you get rid of the awkward bubble thing on top that comes from the condom? Do you just leave it there? Why are they so tearable?!! Are they trying to get people knocked up?
Also vixskin is a WEIRD texture. I assume it’s what a penis feels like which weirds me out immensely but it is WEIRD. Almost gooey and sticky.
Yeah even as a trans person who was born with that equipment condoms are hard to put on(to be fair I’ve only really had one activity partner in my many years alive). Plus, they make so many different condoms that i’m not sure what’s good or bad(and non of them are marketed towards the trans community).
fireworks emoji! thumbs up emoji!
Congrats!!!!
Fun times abound!
For some reason, when I read tiedye, I started thinking military camouflage… but it’s actually really gorgeous (I googled). It’s almost like being told that maybe unicorns are real. Totally worth 4 years of window shopping (which I would normally consider just a really polite version of torture)
HEY HEY HEY HEY HEY congratulations but make SURE you only use water based lube no oil no silicone on your vixskin it’s silicone and silicone or oil lubes will degrade it and male it not-sterilizable
Perfect first comment is perfect.
Today I accepted a job offer in Vancouver and I have just three weeks to pack up my life and move to the coast all by my self. I am super excited for this opportunity and super excited to start a new life in a new city.
As for Valentines day I will be doing renos and getting the house ready for to rent out and then start packing.
You’re not by yourself! Come say hi when you arrive, new friend!
Any recommendations on neighborhoods to live in or stay away from?
East van is where all the queers are at! (Except this one because school)
Where you live will largely be dictated by your budget, but you can message me for help!
Very exciting, congratulations on your Big Life Progress!
OH MY GOD VANCOUVER IS THE BEST THAT’S SO AMAZING! there’s a vancouver ‘straddlers group y’know: https://www.facebook.com/groups/139133849560548/
I just realized I do have valentines day plans. I’m trying to catch a friend up on game of thrones so I have someone to watch the latest season with when it comes out. she’s a little flaky so it’s not written in stone, but the plan is for her to come over and we’ll just binge watch it. possibly pizza will be involved also.
If pizza is involved, it just can’t go wrong. And if you’re flaky friend is not; more pizza for you my friend!
pizza is always such a good plan. APPROVED.
GoT would probs make me happy I’m not getting married
valid point, valid point
Those plans sound like the dream to me, to be honest
Sounds perfect!
Full disclosure: I love Valentine’s Day. I have been single for all 27 V-days I’ve experienced, but I care not. I love celebrating love. Sure, this holiday has gone commercial and is blown out of proportion, but if you get to the heart of it (pun intended), why not love love?
Tomorrow, I’m spending the day in sweatpants, watching Netflix, celebrating my first full day off in two weeks. Then, I’m going to see Chad Michaels. All in all, a good day.
Happy Valentine’s Day to all you beautiful queermos!
this positivity pleases me and so does that gif
I love your attitude. That sounds like an excellent way to spend valentines day.
Tonight I’m going to Janine Brito comedy show with some of the TC Straddlers and tomorrow I am babysitting for friends so they can have the night to themselves!
ooooooooooooooooh enjoy yourself amongst those ‘straddlers, yo! tres jeal.
Autostraddle I am so happy right now! It is my third day of a six day trip to Berlin with my boyfriend and everything has been so wonderful, there’s been a few setbacks but this whole experience has been great and aaah, I just wanted to express that. This is a wonderful city.
Valentine’s day isn’t a thing for us, but Sunday marks the anniversary of my boyfriend and I’s first date so that’s special, and I am still so in love … To think that I was convinced we would never work out, look at us now! We’ve come so far, both individually and as a couple. And right now I am at a vegan pizza place and I am so ready for this good to arrive …
This comment probably makes no sense, never mind, it’s just been a while since I’ve been in such a good mood and I had to share it somehow. Thanks for reading, I hope you’re all doing well!
Let me guess,the setback was the crisper setting refrigerator temperature? I was shaking with cold all morning.
Have a good time in Berlin, eat lots of good food, see lots of art and have good coffee, and most of all:
Happy Valentines Day:-)
Haha, that and the fact that it took us two hours to leave Schönenfeld because we accidentally bought the 5 day WelcomeCard instead of the 7 day travel card on the DB machines and there was absolutely no office to return it so we had to find some tourists to resell it to … Which, we did, after asking 30+ people in the span of two hours and almost giving up!
awwwww congrats and happy love day even if every day is a love day whatever happy cuteness i love you!
I’m kind of indifferent to Valentine’s Day – I don’t hate it, but also don’t assign it great importance – BUT, today happens to be my anniversary and I am thousands of miles away from my partner, which means I am currently caught between feelings of “yay awesome relationship, I am happy” and “ugh why does the US have to be so bloody far away” to an even greater extent than usual. Mostly the former, but… yeah. I know there are a few of us on here who are navigating long-distance love, so I stand in solidarity with anyone who will be extra missing their person this weekend.
#solidarity4eva
Radar Love, by Golden Earring.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zf53Pg2AkdY
I love love love that song!
Thank you for posting this!
I’m gonna make bra and underwear cookies with my partner (for the second year in a row) and bring them to a birthday party later in the day Here’s an example of what they look like, BUT mine typically are boxers/Rodeohs and sports bras ;)
If that image doesn’t work, whoops. Use your imagination. ha
Anyone who read my post last week about the cute girl in my class who also thinks our class is whack, I have an update for you! We are studying and talking shit about our teacher together this weekend! It’s going to be like when Harry and Cho went to Madam Puddifoot’s on Valentine’s Day and talked shit about Umbridge except hopefully it will go well and she won’t cry and actually I hope it will be nothing like Harry’s date with Cho because that whole chapter was a damn mess.
Also I will definitely be eating pizza tomorrow because melted cheese is my absolute favorite and also I want to see if the heavens will send me a cute delivery girl as a valentine’s day present.
Yay!!! I’m sure your study date will be nothing like Harry and Cho’s date…hopefully y’alls teacher isn’t quite as bad as Umbridge, for one thing.
And good call on the melted cheese. I’m also planning a pizza/quesadillas/grilled cheese kind of weekend.
Ooops I don’t know why my post showed up under yours, but it’s good that it did because I took a second look at those cookies and they look phenomenal.
Wonderful idea! Those cookies are super adorable.
These look AMAZING and i can only imagine how great they’d be with boxers/sports bras. plz post that.
I tried to get a link of my Instagram picture of last year cookies and couldn’t figure out how to get a jpg version. If you feel like typing all of this out, you can see what the cookies my partner and I made look like!
http://instagram.com/p/kYfK-Uo6jn/?modal=true
Oh! I didn’t realize links posted. Welllll ok! Learning something new everyday! ha!
Damnnn those are some hot ass cookies. (ha).
I made vagina cookies once. Pure talent.
um these fucking cookies. holy shit.
right?!
Wow those look very cool. Do they make cookie cutters in that shape or did you have to make them yourself?
look at them upside down. they’re hearts!
oh my god
Those cookies look divine. I saw pictures of some like them a while back and my friends were like “ew who would want to eat boob cookies?” and I said “me”
always me! haha
My and my GF’s last year cookies: http://instagram.com/p/kYfK-Uo6jn/?modal=true
Glory be to the flyest, you’ve combined two sacred thingss into one one thing
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It’s beautiful.
Cute!
This my spouse and I’s first married valentines day! We’re celebrating by spending the day bed watching the best and worst gay movies we can find on netflix- puncutated with reenactments of the best sexy time scenes, then ordering in sushi for dinner
Just in case you were wondering:Ma Fini Fakker is the song playing during “the” scene in “I Can’t Think Straight”.
The whole soundtrack, in fact, is available on itunes.
The song in “But I’m a Cheerleader” should be “Glass Vase Cello Case” by Tattle Tale.
Just in case you were wondering about, you know, a soundtrack, because it’s a lot easier to put songs on repeat.
Happy Valentines Day!
#commitmenttoaccuracy
aw this is so cute! congrats to you and your personnnn!
I have heard that you can’t do better (cough worse) than ‘April Shower’.. Good luck to you.
My fiancee and I usually don’t do anything special for Valentine’s Day because we find it a silly holiday. Although we give kudos to those who have the spirit to celebrate (sometimes we wonder if we have souls). I believe the closest we’ve gotten to celebrating Valentine’s Day was back when we were in college and she came to visit me while I was doing a semester in Washington, D.C. To welcome her visit I got all sorts of Valentine’s themed goodies like a pop-up pirate card and a jar filled with pink and red M&Ms and mini toy dinosaurs. We went out for greasy fast-food lunch, hit up the National Mall and museums, and concluded our night with Cheesecake Factory and “Princess Mononoke” (we watched it in bed, hint hint) : ) Very fond memory.
Hey, I still have that card! But not the jar or the dinosaurs. I can’t for the life of me remember what I did with them. Which is perplexing because that was a nice, practical jar and the dinosaurs, were, well, dinosaurs. Where, oh where did my dinosaurs go??
i’m pretty sure liking cheesecake is a surefire sign you have a soul
Sounds like you guys are kindred spirits :)
Hello everyone!! Hope you’ve had a good week!
Feb 15th is ‘chocolate-goes-on-sale’ day for me. That’s pretty much the only meaning that Valentines day holds to me personally. I’m not bitter about being single – it’s just never meant anything to me because I’ve never been in a romantic relationship (largely due to being closeted most of my life and growing up in a rather conservative environment, but I won’t elaborate because I don’t want to write a novel here).
Unrelated: in a week I’ll be participating in a Women In STEM panel at my alma mater, and I’m nervous! I feel kinda… unworthy, if that makes sense. Like, I’m not where I “should” be in my career (or at least, not where I thought I’d be when I was in college). And I’m worried the students will ask me questions I can’t answer. But the faculty member who’s organizing it seems excited that I’m participating. Anyway, I’m nervous but excited, because I think it’s a cool opportunity and I want to do what I can to encourage more women to join the STEM field!
Crime has hit close to home and it makes me sad. I woke up on Wednesday morning and the first thing I read was the article on here about the anti-gay hate crime against a woman here in Tacoma. Tacoma has long had a reputation of being high crime compared to neighboring cities like Seattle, but it has gotten better in recent years, but then you read about something as disgusting as this, and it’s disheartening. And scary. I still love my city, and most of the people here are wonderful and amazing, despite a few hateful and violent ones.
On a happier note, spring has sprung on some trees. February feels like an optimistic month to me because it JUST the beginning of spring. It has been a weird winter around here. Very warm. And that worries me because climate change worries me, but anyway, here is a happy picture of a flowering tree that I saw (taken with the new phone!):
I’m loving my new iPhone! (For those of you who didn’t read my post in last week’s thread, I just got my first smartphone, hooray!). I got a waterproof pouch for it so now I can take it on all my hiking adventures! So here’s a few photos taken with my new camera, after experimentation with filters. :)
The Narrows
Clay ledges by the beach
The lookout at the tip of Point Defiance
Anyway… sorry for the long post. Happy valentines day to all the cute couples cute singles too. :)
Also – for laughs :) If Netflix were a person…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wu3w0VqS2l
Your photographs are beautiful – thank you so much for sharing them :c )
Thank you! :)
ok so i love these photos but i also wanna give a shout-out because i totally forgot about chocolate goes on sale day
Chocolate is really the best.
The tree! The TREEE!!
I just know you’re gonna kick ass at your panel–when someone is wonderful it shines through in everything they do.
Aw, thanks! You’re so kind. :)
The TREE! It is the happiest tree I’ve seen all week.
I live near a 27-acre arboretum and I’m really looking forward to spring in a couple months because there will be TONS of cherry trees in bloom all over, and it’s beautiful. But right now, it’s still mostly bare.
Chocolate-goes-on-sale day is the best day. I look forward to it.
It’s super awesome that you’re going to be in a women in STEM panel! I’m a woman and I aspire to have one of my majors in a STEM field (science, really) so I think that’s very cool. I am sure you’ll do magnificently.
Also those pictures are stunning, they make me happy.
Thanks! I’m also in the “S” part of STEM (bachelors in chemistry, currently working in quality assurance). Good luck with your major, whatever path you choose! You don’t have to decide right away, of course – take lots of classes and go with whatever excites your brain! :) There are so many opportunities in science.
That flowering tree picture is definitely one of the happiest pictures I’ve seen all week!!! Also the colors in all the photos are beautiful.
The women in STEM panel sounds awesome. That’s a topic I think about a lot, because I also work in a STEM field and I’m always wishing I had more female coworkers to share that experience with. I sometimes wonder how my life/career would be different if someone had told me when I was in high school or younger, “Hey, it’s okay to be a girl and enjoy fieldwork. It’s okay to be into computer science.” Anyway, I think it’s great that you’re doing that, and good luck!
Yes, that flowering tree made me happy. And thanks for the good luck wishes! I definitely agree that we need more women in the STEM field!
I would love to go the places you go in your photos. I really look forward to your photos. Honestly have you thought of giving up your day job if you have one?
You’re too kind! :) I’m lucky that my day job is only 3-4 days/week (12 h shifts), so I have long weekends to spend going exploring and taking pictures. :) Actually, my younger brother is the semi-professional photographer in our family.
Stunning pics! Hooray for smartphone :)
In the morning, I’m volunteering at the community garden (community love!).
Bestie and I happen to be single again this year, so in the afternoon, we’re having a Treat Yo’self Day (friend love!), starting with lunch at this fried chicken and doughnut place that recently opened up, followed by pedicures.
Then we’re heading to our favorite watering hole to indulge in their craft cocktails, awesome jukebox, and maybe a little pool. We also invited all our other singleton (and non-annoying couples) to join us there.
I’ll be having gin for dinner. Probably pie for dessert.
I have a bunch of social BS planned for Sunday. But as it happens, I have Monday off. So I rented a car, and am taking my dog hiking in Sedona (pet love!). He’s 15 and deaf, and probably not much longer for this world, so I want to make these days great for him.
And um, we may have also done a photoshoot for Valentine’s Day.
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This might possibly be the best Valentine’s picture I’ve ever seen.
Seconded
OH MY FUCKING GOD I LOVE YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS
this is the best thing
Wow, this totally adorable. You both have excellent style and taste.
thank you, thank you, thank you for putting this kind of energy out into the world. You are a treasure, your dog is a treasure. I want to frame this and hang it everywhere.
OMG!
I love this picture so much I want it to go viral. Totally adorable.
ohmigosh, you guys, thanks so much, for the kind words!
if anything, the past several months have taught me that non-romantic love is just as important, valuable, and rewarding as the romantical kind.
Even if there is someone you are totally gaga for, love and appreciate your friends, your friends, your pets, your family, your community, and most importantly, yourselves. <3
That picture is one of the singular greatest things I’ve ever seen! I love it!
I feel like I should’ve organized a singles event. Maybe next year. Electrolysis appointments seem to come up at inopportune times!
I just realized my “plans” for valentines day are to finally do all the homework Ive been slacking on this term because of my anxiety. I have a lot to catch up on and it might take all weekend. But I am going to hunker down with good music and lots of blankets and try to get it done.
You got this! I was in a very similar situation (substitute anxiety with depression) a week ago and used a similar strategy to catch up (instead of blankets I hunkered down with a variety of hot drinks). Just do you and be sure to keep in mind self-care : ) Best of wishes!
giving your brain some loving seems apt anyway so GO FOR IT
My first week of classes was taken over by a wake and funeral, so I’m still catching up too. What’s your music of choice? I study well to Beyoncé. gl
My go to study music is anything with a good strong beat. I tend to go with funk or soul. Otis Redding has been my choice lately.
Buenos Días,
Valentine’s What?
Valentine’s Day will forever be remembered as “The one Day a Year my Neighbors Have Sex”.
Their headrest seems to bang against the heater when they, you know, and I only found this out after living in the apartment for over half a year a couple years back.
I tried figuring out that day what was more depressing:
Them having three kids and literally having sex once a year or
me, being single, lying awake in bed, listening to them have sex once a year.
I realized then, that Valentine’s really is a Holiday I have zero relation to, that I couldn’t care less and that all I wanted to do is sleep.
I also realized that I have zero clues about straight sex, because I kept repeatedly wondering what took them so long.
So that said, I am going to start a Paleo Challenge on Ash Wednesday and I’m really excited!
I’m completely overhauling my life now that I’ve gotten out of the destructive relationship that was my job, and so far, it’s slow, but steady going!
Also, I am actually managing to see people, mostly friends I haven’t seen in many months, every other day.
You know, with facebook and what not, we’re under the illusion that we’re a part of, or at least witness to our friends’ lives.
But it’s a distorted reality.
I’ve found out several times over the last weeks, that while I was busy with working myself nobly into the ground, friends of mine were in the very depths of the crappy shitholes of Life.
And I didn’t the fuck notice or wouldn’t have been able to “be there” or help.
So, for this Valentine’s Day, why don’t ye of thee who lie awake lonely, wondering, on the morrow, make it “call a friend” Day?
Happy V Day!
wishing you luck on this the weekend of “the one day a year your neighbors have sex.”
Palentine’s Day!
Hey at least it’s only once a year! When I was living in a micro-apartment in Seattle with paper-thin walls, it was a regular occurrence… :/
Are you aware that, with the resignation of its current Governor today, Oregon now has a bi woman Governor, Kate Brown! Go Kate.
GO GO KATE BROWN!
This is like… reason number five million why I want to live in Oregan now. That’s so friggin rad!!!
Oregon* damn, I can’t spell today
Yes ! I just heard about that on npr. Congrats Oregon!!
I’m going to host a pretty gay valentine’s day event with the group of youngsters I work with here in Colombia. Invited some brilliant people from the local LGBT community to come speak, ordered a ton of heart-shaped cookies, and made a very (very) cheesy playlist. Excited about it!
Apart from that, probably gonna spend the night on Skype with my partner who lives in a different city, wondering whether they have a clue it’s even valentine’s. Doubt it. Like it.
aww yisssss happy #skypeday!
I generally don’t give a shit about valentine’s day. BUT THIS YEAR I’m feeling all sad and pathetic. Like, lonely stereotypical single feeling worthless cat lady with no cats level of sad and pathetic. That’s a bad level, guys.
I also have too many proverbial balls in the air right now and I’m overwhelmed and freaking out ALL THE TIME. I have so many lists of things I have to do on the go, it’s ridic. You’d think one list would suffice.
ANYWAY. I’d post a pic of my dog but I’m lazy. Just visualize it into existence.
Ughhhh me too. I’m single, and usually I don’t care, because I just hang out with my other single friends and watch tv or go dancing or something else fun. But THIS year I was trying to think of which single friends I could hang out with on Valentine’s Day, and I realized, I DON’T HAVE ANY. I do not have any friends that I am close enough to want to hang out with that live in my city that are single. I even went so far as to invite a friend of mine from out of town to come stay with me for the weekend, and that would have been AWESOME, but then he had to cancel on account of a lack of funds :(
SO INSTEAD I plan to use the day to catch up on all the things I have been avoiding – vacuuming, job searching, memorizing my lines for a play I’m in, etc. Oh, and probably watching all of season 3 of Happy Endings, because, let’s be honest, I’m going to be eating ice cream in my sweatpants for most of the day.
I soooo feel you on that. Thankfully I now have a good group of single ladies to commiserate/give zero fucks about v-day with but this is a recent development, usually I’m surrounded by people in relationships and it’s actually painful sometimes :(
I would totally join you in ice cream & sweatpants day if I could! It sounds perfect.
I totally feel you on that. I was trying to think of friends I could hang out with this weekend and they are literally all in relationships or live in a different state. I’m happy for them but it can definitely get a little lonely at times!
Soo..what I sort of got out of this post is, food(!), sex with landlord (this sounds so weird, like can it be thing, all my landlords have been 50+…their daughters though!) and FOOD! Eating a pizza alone has gotta be the best valentines ever. (Do you spell valentines with a capital V? So confused, sounds way serious). Not surprisingly my dinner was a bottle of wine, and some watchammacallit-in-english…dry, thin bread? So much better than it sounds.
And, this is the best part, a picture of my dog! Sorta embarassed, but i have very few pictures of him on this compiter, but then one I found is super fitting! *tequila bottles crossed that his will actually work*![source: imgur.com](http://i.imgur.com/r1oFpyD.jpg)
Going to a friends a “forever alone party” tomorrow, and it will be awesome, with homemade ice cream and brownies, and this is how single people get fat. Happy valentines to y’all!! (Woop, go Hannah-Montana-childhood-slang!)
My jealousy and liver just made me sign up for a silver membership, ’cause how can you resist those colored circles?! My liver is so happy I’ll now be economically forced to drink less each month. Go good almost-Valentines-decicions!
oh god you’re just THE BEST. welcome to the a+ club!
i love dogs, dry thin bread, and also people who say y’all. jsyk.
Your dog is way cute and also dry thin bread = crackers maybe?I don’t know but wine and crackers is one of my all-time favorite meals.
I plan to be spending time with family I think. I personally don’t believe in the holiday as it’s a commercial holiday based on a Saint who is martyr. I’m a single Jewish queer, and I never really had connections with the holiday. I know people who have spent $400+ on the day, not to show off, but because of societal pressures that was on the person on both people in the relationship. My friend kind of regrets it now as he’s not with that person anymore, and the fact he over paid for half the stuff he bought because of the mark-up(it’s not like you can get 3 dozen roses 2 week in advance and then give it to them in person on v-day). Maybe my tune will change when I’m dating?
I;m starting to realize while I love my parents. I can’t wait to move out neither of my parents really understand how America really work, and our dirty past.
I too this the other day/ It’s one of those here today gone tomorrow art work(it was gone the next day).
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have fun with your family! also, let’s all hope anyone who spends 400 bucks on one day is in the market for a professional priority straightener.
Well they said they are now more realistic about the day and always have had their priority way straight, it’s just they felt pressure to impress or something.
Come to think of it, I may for V-day become a cannaqueer, and wine and dine myself with a burrito.
That monkey on your back image was powerful. How are you?
Other than shvitzing from the weather, I am pretty good. How are you?
I don’t mean to brag, but my Valentine’s Day plans are lookin’ pretty saucy…
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A pun so lame the image didn’t even want to show up.
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I LOVE YOUR PUN. and this is adorable / delicious. happy valentine’s day to a fellow pizza celebration enthusiast!
Love it!
y’all I just wrote a very intellectually charged comment about my dog farting herself awake and then somehow signed myself out of autostraddle when I pressed submit. I feel like maybe this was a sign from the universe that i was oversharing but I really truly felt that it was something I needed to share with you guys
so are you gonna retype it in its entirety or what, just SAYING
that sounds like something I want to read
well if you INSIST! basically my dog was fast asleep on the floor looking cute as fuck and then she farted something fierce and jumped up with terror in her eyes. so obviously i cracked the fuck up and spilled my beer everywhere and ran on here to inform all you queerios of the miraculous event that i had just witnessed and then lesbian jesus (or maybe my shitty internet connection) went ahead and censored me!
dogs farting themselves awake are a gift from the humour gods…always makes me laugh when mine does it, it’s the fear and shame in her eyes. :)
Thank you for the re-type. :) funny animal stories are always worth hearing.
My relationships never make it until V-day. It’s okay because lately I have been trying to practice radical self-love that is genuine and makes me a better person. It is not easy but at this moment, this very moment, I would love for some churros because the craving is just too powerful for me to handle right now.
Today I am working on wedding/event/invite stuff with my mum, and it is really nice. Some days we are running everywhere and moving shit and constructing huge things, but today is just stationary busywork–my mum’s punching tags and I’m cleaning up vintage illustrations on the computer while we listen to music, and later I’m going to punch things out and she’s going to glue things together while we watch tv! We actually refer to this kind of work as Wallander Work, because a few years ago we binged both the BBC and the Swedish versions of the Wallander series. It was amazing, and we both love crime dramas–the darker and more fucked up, the better! We;re currently watching The Blacklist, which is fun but like, also kind of terrible? because patriarchy/racism. Sigh. Any of you have show recommendations?
On the subject of patriarchy/racism, this week’s been rough, but also I feel like I’m getting hardened to all the awful stuff that keeps happening. I’m trying not to let it feel normal; I don’t want to let myself think of this as common because I don’t want it to become unimportant? blargh.
Have some roses because humans are terrible but flowers will never hurt you unless they’re pointy or poisonous and you fuck with them, I guess
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I touched on Valentine’s plans last week: dinner with Holly at this cool little fusion place and then bowling with the OC Straddlers! I am excited! I have a cute gift and a homemade card/little painting for Holly, and I’m making gal/pal/valentines for everyone tomorrow, too, so no one’s left out of the cheesiness :) Mostly I’m wondering what I should wear? I had an outfit picked out but it looks like it’s going to be too hot to wear it–the high today is 89 degrees and it’s supposed to be kinda hot all week and I do NOT like the heat and I don’t want to be sweating and covered in heat rash all night :/ SOOOO what do I weaaar? High waisted shorts with flowers on them+black tights+t-shirt? Some sort of dress situation? High-waisted jeans+crop top? High-waisted jeans+cute sheer light pink button up? TOO MANY CHOICES but also not enough choices, obviously. These are the hard decisions of our time, people.
A couple more flowers! And errands to run. Love you guys!!
alstroemeria in cellophane
this is what I call a workspace!
I wish I could bring a bouquet to each of you!!
‘The Bridge’ is a Danish/Swedish crime drama and it’s amazing amazing amazing. I’d also recommend ‘Spiral’ (french). Both have female leads and are just so well made. I’ve heard that ‘The Tunnel’ (french again) is good too but haven’t had a chance to see that yet. Enjoy!
I love those flower photos almost as much as I love crime dramas!
Ohhh! The Bridge is on my list, but I haven’t heard of the other two! :)
Wear the shorts so that those of us who have possible snow and sleet in our 10-day weather forecasts can live vicariously through you!
WElll, I ended up wearing a jumpsuit that I’ve been lusting after that finally went on sale, so no shorts this time. I’m wearing sandals and sending you warm thoughts today, though!!
You sound kinda run down, doll. What’s hardening you to the world? Try to think of your hardness as starched clothes rather than stone. You, Jane, are soft and warm. Sometimes you need to be more uniform, a little more clipped and crisp than you’d like to be. It sounds like you’re working on creating a temporary armour that needs to be reapplied. Starch, not scotch guard. It is more work, but then your fabric will never change. I think that’s awesome, and maybe I need to do the same. You can’t absorb anything if it all beads up and rolls off. Good with the bad and all that jazz, eh? :)
Oh Lolau, how are you so wise??
Seeing all these lovely flowers really brightened my day – thank you!
Happy to oblige!!
The bouquets are especially lovely. (Also 89 degrees I’m jealous I think where I am we’ve been 100 degrees less than that often enough.) I hope things are considerably less rough for you next week, and have a happy Valentine’s Day!
As for TV shows, I’ve been watching a lot of Firefly recently, but that’s only one season and it’s not really a crime drama. I shall have to think of some.
I’ll send you some of our heat!!
I think I’ve seen firefly…6 times? So many times haha
It’s weird that cellophane is making something already beautiful even prettier and I lurve it.
right?? something about how it reflects/and overlays at the same time; it just looks so ethereal!
I second the recommendations for the bridge! Amazing. Stunning flowers as ever. I love the idea of Wallander work, I long for a job like that. Have a wonderful valentines.
Anything can be Wallander Work as long as you pretend to do it while actually just being completely adsorbed by crime dramas
I’m sorry to hear about the patriarchy woes. But, I hope the dinner and all the rest make up for it.
The flowers are amazing. You’re amazing!
I swear, I need to see if I can find a job in California and get out of the Midwest. But it would be so hard to leave my friends. Enjoy the heat, if you can. I freezing! : )
Damn the patriarchy!
Dinner was lovely, and bowling afterwards was so so fun!
YOU’RE amazing!! Come join us in CA–it’s a pretty good time! :)
Beautiful flowers, as always. Are those purple ones tulips? I love roses, but I love tulips even more. They just make me think of spring and home. In skagit county p north of me, there are beautiful fields of tulips which come into bloom in april or so, and they’re just brilliant.
Your valentines day plans sound fantastic!
*up north
I live in Skagit county, and it is indeed beautiful when the tulips bloom! The daffodils have already started,what with all the unseasonable warmth. Tulip time may come early this year!
I’ve definitely spotted some little daffodils at the market!
Ah! The purple ones are actually alstroemeria that haven’t quite opened yet. I can’t wait for more tulips to come in!
Tulip fields sound absolutely perfect!!!
Sooo jealous of your 89 degree weather! I’m so done with winter; snowmaggedon in Massachusetts is getting old real fast.
Also, creative time with mom sounds so lovely : ) I have a lot of fond memories of being my mom’s little helper when she spent weekends doing crafty things. The bouquets you made are beautiful; great work!!
Yeah! We’ve been crafting together for a long time; it’s nice to get paid for it now hahaha!
GOOD LUCK WITH THE SNOW
Today was Pre-Valentine Festivities Day at school, so I wore my very finest:
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Tomorrow I have a study session at the library and then a date with Downton Abbey and a big bowl of popcorn. I’m more or less single by choice right now, so I think I’ll just have a dance party to Beyoncé and Janelle Monáe and do my thing and be happy.
Oh noooo I followed the rules I pasted the link in the right place in the handy little box in the original post and everything but it isn’t showing up for me what am I doing wrong. Is it showing up for anyone else?
It’s not showing for me, but I’m certain you rocked it, as always!
jane i’m not sure what’s happening up there but I can’t look away
My girlfriend is planning a surprise date for me so I am pretty excited. This is my first time i’ve had a Valentines <3
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A great reason to wear my bowtie
I did not know you had a girlfriend. Does this mean I should stop using your bow-tie selfies as background images? I mean…. Ahem… Congrats! ;D
Any suspicions about her surprise?
LMAO! You can keep my bowtie selfies :). Mosly fancy coffee date
Lolau, you’re perfect, never change
I hope you had an awesome time!! :)
But let’s be real, pretty sure you don’t need a reason to rock a bowtie!
Happy Ellen Page day everyone!
This is my first valentine’s in a long time without a “gal pal” but I will be spending it with some of the finest gal pals a gal could wish for, and I haven’t seen them for ages so I’m so excited!
(gal).
*whispers* pal
Today has gone bad quick.
Hugs, please?
hugs
I hope things get better soon.
more hugs
I wish they would.
Thank you <3
hey listen this might be super out of line for me to say since we don’t actually know each other, but I know you live in my city and if you ever need an actual physical hug and/or someone to talk to in real life I’d be happy to meet up with you. I understand though if that’s not something you want or are comfortable with. anyway I really truly hope things get better for you.
Aw no, it’s not out of line at all! We really ought to meet up sometime, especially since the Baltimore page is so dead quiet. :)
Well just let me know when you feel like meeting up, no pressure.
I will hug the shit outta you!! From over here, even!
Eee, yay <3 /has shit hugged out of
brace yourself, hugs are on their way. some there-theres too.
Yay hugs :) thank you <3
All the hugs to you!
Thank you <3
Thank you <3
thank you ; 3 ; <3
You guys. We could have an actual three-way Baltimore hug. An alterna-hug.
I’m up for it! Or down for it? Do they mean the same thing?
Big hugs! And positivity and peace being sent your way. <3
My girlfriend is working two shifts in the ER this weekend, 7am-7pm, so we are postponing Valentine’s Day for a week so that she can get her mandatory partnership hours done to graduate from nursing school this spring. She had a little sadness about not doing anything on v-day for the second year in a row, but all I want to do is see her achieve her goals, no matter how many holidays we have to extend into the next week.
Hope you all have a happy valentine’s day! Sending good vibes from Subway, where I’ll be serving up some sandwiches all weekend!
As a nursing student myself:
I was kinda grumpy about Valentine’s Day until I got home this afternoon and saw that my grandparents had mailed me a Valentine’s card with a $100 check. I don’t particularly enjoy eating chocolate or the color red, but I’m totally gonna cash that check and buy myself a cheeseburger.
I’m not at all celebrating the holiday with anyone but lucky for me both my roommates went to Mardi Gras this weekend so I have the next best thing: the house to myself! So I’m gonna do whatever weird shit I want to around the house that will probably involve drinking whiskey in my pajamas with my music turned up really loud!
That sounds like a bawlin’ v-day. Buy a good bottle of bourbon with that $100!
That’s a great idea!!
money + weekend in pjs + loud music sounds like a wonderful holiday. :)
Hot damn! I hope your weekend’s been as awesome as it sounds :)
Voice Recorder >> is me being very, very peaceful and happy.
SO many happy things this week, you guys! That is the sound of me being very, very peaceful and happy!
I helped my best friend conceive a plan to safely exit an abusive marriage, and put the intention out there to the world (we talked about her moving in with me), and today, my roommate gave me notice that he wants his own place and will be moving out. :)
I also put another intention out there, to have work for the 15th. I started my new (third) job this week, and I love it…. Furthermore, I am leaving a client I love, but will make more hours and be able to focus my attention on my recovery more consistently because my hours will be consistent. YUSSSS!
ALSO, celibacy count restarted Thursday morning aaaaaat 4 am? So worth it. *hums*
I wanna put out there that everyone reading this has had such a hand in my recovery, to the point where I can honestly say that I feel you helped me save my own life. There was a while there where I was hanging on from one Friday to the next, living for the next thread. If there’s any Autostraddle staff reading this, pass it on that this thread is absolutely vital, and it must always be here. :). Thank you, too, for all the sharing, because I’ve learned more through the shared experiences I’ve read here in the lives of my fellow lesbots and lesbros than anywhere else outside the rooms of AA. You guys are bawlin’. Love you.
I am so happy for you because you are peaceful and happy! Sending a the warm positive vibes your way. And loads of hugs. <3
(And I totally agree about the importance of this thread)
I listened to your sing in the next comment. Amazing! Just incredible! I really love jazzy lounge type singing!
Glad to hear you are doing so well : )
It sounds as though your breach in celibacy was a positive thing, hopefully on your own terms.
I saw your sweet comment on my post last week. Thank you! : )
Happy Valentine’s Day!
awww yeeeaaaaah grrrrl fraaaand!
<3 <3 <3
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1SSARvjjx5B
Hopefully this one works! I wanna share and also show off a little, even though I am too shy to sing to anyone outside of a dementia unit.
yooo this made me feel things. still impressed by you but in a new way.
I love making people feel things!
I can’t wait to get home from work and finally listen to this!!
Oh damn, Lo. It’s beautiful.
Gonna brunch with the husband before he goes to work. It’s tax season and I only see him 1 day a week, so the extra few morning hours eating bacon will be worth it.
Kinda bummed I won’t even get to see my new lady interest, since she’s dealing with some messy life stuff and that’s putting a damper on our dating/texting/interacting-in-any-way-but-facebook-likes.
I invited a chronically single friend of mine over to drink beer and possibly bake valentine’s cupcakes. As long as my kiddo behaves somewhat well, I’ll call the day a success!
cupcakes make most days better!
I’ll be going to a queer women’s dance party in the Twin Cities. :)
Don’t mean to be all depressing and stuff but I just broke up with my boyfriend who I’ve been with since high school… I know it was the right thing to do and I already live in a different country than him so I guess that makes the whole thing a bit less painful, but I’m still kind of in shock. We never really celebrated Valentine’s day anyway, because it’s not really a big thing where I’m from, but I’m pretty sure I’ll remember this one. I didn’t really mean to break up with him the night before valentine’s day, but I’ve just been going over this in my head for a long time without really getting anywhere, and now that I actually had the clarity and determination to have this conversation with him I just knew it was something we had to do right now. Luckily we were able to talk it through properly, and I guess we both sort of knew this was coming, but I know it’s still going to hurt so much once it really hits me… It’s also kind of weird to think that this is the first time in my adult life that I’m actually single, so that will take some getting used to.
Sorry for pouring out my heart here, it’s just pretty late at night so I can’t really call anyone to talk right now or anything. On a positive note though, I have a trial shift for this new work place tomorrow! So I guess I should probably try to get some sleep…
So much <3 to you. Good luck with the work thing and with the life thing!
*hugs*
Valentine’s Day is not big here in New Zealand. I guess I try everyday to do something nice and attentive to my loved one, with some days being jackpot and others a little warm fart coming back into our faces in a cold windy storm etc… which makes us laugh so we win even when farting..
I made a quinoa with vege stock, anchovies and bay leaves, fresh sage and thyme, fresh mushrooms and sundried tomatoes in stuffed peppers thing for my lady and I and it was good!! I made it up myself which is even more of a win because I am about a two out of ten most days for creativity.
Work has tired me out this week. I have felt kind of to my limits with being in a job that does not challenge me in my strengths enough and smiling and being nice with people, (im in nursing), and I am knowing that if I was doing a profession that was in line with my character more ie scientific, experimental, exploratory, and interacting with people to compare notes, I would be winning at life a little more. As it is, I kind of rationalise my current existence and work because I am mainly good at the technical side of nursing and enjoy it, but I get drained and pulled/stretched out of my hermetic/solitary/aspergersish comfort zone by being so interactive/social and supportive each day. I joke sometimes that my nursing badge, time piece and stethoscope are props from my local theatre group. I have a strong sense of duty also towards others, and professionalism, so this keeps me from getting too tangential with “grass is greener” thoughts. Also a mortgage.
On the valentine’s day front I intend making another delicious vegetarianish meal, and a rbsrb pie (rhubarb pie), and I want to go on a lovely walk in the sunshine here while it lasts. Self love has to come first no matter what.
Hi Annalou – I can completely understand your sense of frustration at not quite being in the version of your job that you would like. Without knowing the details, can I suggest that you maybe investigate a couple of the universities who offer graduate programs in your field? The point being that Masters and Doctoral students are often looking for research sites. I’m not sure if you are able to offer your workplace, or your self as a possible research ‘site’, but if you are, that might be one way to get connected with research. If you can’t or don’t want to be the principal researcher (ie the masters or doctoral researcher), then being the ‘thing’ researched can be a close second.
It’s just an idea and without more details about what you do, I’m not even sure if my suggestion is appropriate. Thought I’d put it out there anyway. Finding people and sites to participate in good research can be difficult at best, and frustratingly maddening at worst.
Hi Marianne,
Thanks for your suggestions, in my current field of nursing there are few options for research, however, if I changed my specialty to ward/ER/ICU nursing, my postgraduate options would increase. I am constantly investigating my options and am keeping an eye on opportunities to transfer over to another specialty which will initially be a major move. I appreciate what you have said and you taking time to share with me :)
For Valentines Day, my parents bought me a bottle of whiskey and books on histories of African queerness.
It’ll also mark two weeks since my girlfriend broke up with me. I’m not feeling good. You know the feeling of walking on a foot that’s gone to sleep? It’s like that. I’m limping along, numbed but also hurting so damn bad.
In the long term, I know it’s possible to let go of something while still honouring it and cherishing it. But now, in the moment, on the jagged edge of it? It’s painful. I can feel things dying in me, connections withering, no blood no air no light, and I know that they need to die–but it hurts so bad and I keep struggling against it, resisting it, scared of all the pain and desperate to save the parts of me that love her.
I know, I know: let go, let be, don’t fight it, ride the waves. –And I also know: it doesn’t matter if I let go or fight; it doesn’t matter if I’m ready or if I cling; it doesn’t matter if I accept the pain or reject it, because *I can’t do anything to stop this*. These processes of change are gonna sweep through me, whatever I do, whether I’m ready or not, willing or not.
And in the meantime, I got some whiskey and I got some books about Igbo female husbands. Plus supportive parents who get it, and I’m fucking grateful for them.
Your parents sound awesome. Also I’m so sorry to hear about your break up (but holy crap you are super eloquent and a great writer).
sending you good thoughts!!
My only date for valentine’s day is this beautiful gal:
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(Phoebe for the uninitiated)
I’m still recovering from my electrolysis appointment last week, and haven’t been able to get dolled up to hit the town. Plus, it’s really cold out there! Come on spring!
Last valentine’s day was a bit triggering, being fresh off of the divorce. I’m feeling better this year.
Much love to all straddlers!
<3
Ok, Valentine’s Day so far looks like it will be just another day. No date. No steady girl. No one to call ‘my own’. I tried taking some of your advice and signed up for OK Cupid. It worked! The past week or so were spent pleasantly messaging with an attractive local woman that initiated contact. She said she was “looking for friends, maybe more”. Yay! I asked if we could meet in person. Her reply: “Yes, that would be wonderful, but I feel I should let you know that I have a girlfriend, but I’m always looking for more friends. People tell me I’m a great friend”. Someone, please correct me if I’m out of touch here, but the only thing I could think of was, “What the fuck?!!” Of course, I politely declined. I have zero dating experience since my divorce, but I’m pretty sure normal women don’t troll the dating websites looking to add more girlfriends to their stable.
I think it depends. What are your OK cupid settings? Some people do seem to be on there to meet other queer friends, some are in open or poly or all variety of non monogamy and adding to their relationships that way. To weed those out, I’d put that it’s really important under the monogamy section and maybe add something in your profile about looking to date, not just looking for friends. She might be in a non-monogamous type relationship and looking for someone else, hookup or otherwise, and it’s at least good she let you know at the start, rather than after making out with ya.
My Valentines update in that I broke up with my best friend of six years who I’ve been dating for a year. We’re still friends, and I know that I’ll have to do some work to keep our friendship healthy.
I also know that I want to start seeing other people, and that means creating an OkCupid account and maybe diving into Tinder. I’m just wondering how soon is too soon. I do know that Valentines Day weekend is A dangerous time.
Sorry to hear :( Gotta do what you have to though. As to when it’s too soon to get back on the dating scene, my advice (that I often give to friends in the same situation) is to take it slow and perhaps give yourself some solo time being stepping back into the dating scene. Solo time can do wonders for helping you digest a recent break-up, reevaluate yourself post-breakup, and move forward with the things you learned from your last relationship and the things you want in seeking a new relationship. Also, a nice app that a friend told me about recently is Coffee Meets Bagel. It’s a well-paced dating app that seems to cut out the rapid fire messages and connecting and overwhelming flow of matches coming at you on a daily basis. Best wishes to you!
I’m spending Valentine’s Day with my amazing lesbro I met at camp, and we’re going to a burlesque show. So I’m pretty stoked on that :)
I am currently trapped by a purr, trying to type with one hand because i am apparently a sucker for our new cat. She is little and a bit of a nut but also cute and makes me laugh really hard when she plays Attack! Escape! with the mesh collapsible laundry basket. We adopted her from the spca and she is 2 years old and she seems to like it here :)
For Valentine’s day I’ll be chilling behind the till at work, but afterwards I’m going away to visit my family and I can’t waaaait.
In other news this week I went on my first date with a girl and whilst I don’t know if there’ll be a second it was fun and good and most importantly I was just really fucking proud of myself for asking her out aha. Especially as this time last year I was sad and afraid and sooo uncomfortable with myself, it was a mess. My goal for 2015 was to work on myself and I’m really trying. I got a couple of weeks of counselling to help clear my head a little, I’m working on valuing my own needs, I came out to another of my best friends and I’m getting ready to talk to my family. Just got to work on pulling it together academically and maybe 2015 will be a really GOOD year. Fingers crossed.
I hope everyone on here has a great day tomorrow, whatever you’re up to! You all deserve it :D
You got this!! :)
Cheers <3
HELLO!
Usually I miss Friday Open Thread because it falls on Saturday here and I’m sleeping and then working… but not today!
So, LIFE UPDATE.
The last time I wrote I was talking about a Western 25th birthday I was having. To recap, it was a bootscootin’ hoot involving coordinated dancing to force all of my and my twin’s disparate groups of shy friends to interact as they tried to do semi-complicated partner dance moves directed by my dad with not much space. The band I play with did a set and I walked around all night wearing an excellent Western shirt.
That same shirt features tonight but for a totally different reason- I’m drumming for a KD Lang cabaret show (so gay) which I’m part of for this year’s Fringe Festival, Adelaide’s premier arts festival that brings our sometimes quiet little city out of its shell. It’s the best time of year to be here.
Tonight’s show is the first one- it’s sold out and we’ve got various reviewers and an interstate producer for another festival coming so I have to pull out the stops and play my absolute best! It’s gonna be cray.
So in short I spent Valentine’s Day tuning drums and listening to our singer Ali croon about a Trail of Broken Hearts.
On a separate note, I was in NZ last month for my friend’s gay wedding, which was lovely. As well as enjoying experiencing the commencement of holy matrimony led by a minister who reminded me vaguely of the one from Princess Bride, I also spent time hangin’ in NZ and went bungy jumping (glad to do once wouldn’t do again), white water rafting (would definitely do again) and trying to find Auckland friends via the NZ Autostraddle Facebook group- through which made an excellent new friend and we ate Mexican and went out dancing whilst talking about human rights issues + escaping bushfires using the power of Grindr and it was all lovely and nothing hurt.
So in short, stop being so smart and cute and funny and lovely all of you. I would like you to all be my valentine. Thank you and good night.
*spend .. Australia isn’t THAT far ahead!
Glad life is sounding good for you!! And proud to be part of the collective AS valentine haha :)
wait kd lang cabaret show hold up WHAT THE WORLD IS SO GREAT
Okay I know that I’m late but YOU’RE SO GREAT
thankyou.
For valentines me and my gal pals are going skating :) I’m assuming we’ll see a bunch of cute couples, which doesn’t actually bother me. I love seeing people in lovee.
Then we’re going back to my friend’s house to watch sappy romantic movies on netflix while eating pizza and chocolate. I’m pretty happy about this.
:)
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Tea, Netflix (and/or DVDs), and a ton of homework is essentially all my V-Day will entail.
I hope you didn’t hide one fart! That video is amazing hahaha
My friends and I are going out to see some movies later into the night, hopefully the chance of wintery mix won’t hinder anything. I believe I’m sleeping into Valentine’s Day for once, considering I got about eight hours of sleep for the past two days due to the first organic chem test of the semester followed by a physics lab that took a lot longer than it should’ve. But! Friday has finally been reached and the weekend has begun! It is time to recuperate with Buffy the Vampire Slayer and tons of music and bum wear. And then pick things back up again little by little in between.
Tomorrow I will be making donuts. Because Valentine’s = feelings = heartache = chest pain = fried food = donuts. QED.
Omg yes this is perfect/my new spirit animal.
My Valentine’s celebratory eating food together time was today, it was pizza and it was good. There was caramel cheese cake and it was cheese cake, but I got to scrape all the caramel off the plate as well as the crust. Annnnnnnnnd got discounted caramel chocolates at CVS cause that’s what Valentines is for, discounted chocolate.
Tomorrow is Endymion Saturday, this weekend is Mardi Gras week and I am one with the holiday spirit.
Some things I learned today are: my “leather pants” paired with my suit jacket be a lethal combination, two leather gloves plus suit jacket equal “hitman” and leather glove on one side and finger armor on the other plus suit jacket equals vampire.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
that outfit sounds AMAZING
It is.
I am perpetually single on Valentine’s Day. So my mom is taking me out to dinner tomorrow. I will spend the rest of the weekend studying, listening to sappy music, and eating chocolate. I’m sorting out some really awkward feelings from being semi-out, so it makes Valentine’s Day kind of a strange trip this year. I am super thankful for a bestie who supports me in the midst of my chaos. Also pictures of cute puppies who are dressed up for Valentine’s Day make me all kinds of happy. Please post more of those.
i really wish i had an outfit for eli that was essentially him as cupid right now
Oh man, the past few weeks have been absolutely nuts… Where to begin?
I’ve basically gotten my fill of Valentine’s day this week. A lot of the teachers and students I work with gave me candy and notes of appreciation and I’ve never felt so loved before, it was wonderful!!
I’ll be spending my Valentine’s day working my other job for the majority of the day. which is cool because I’m single and 100% okay with it, but it’ll be nice to stay busy and not hear my roommates having sex with their boyfriends.
In other news, I came out to a guy friend of mine and it ended up okay, but there was a lot of confusion and miscommunication. I was trying to be funny about the whole situation, but he thought I was cracking a gay joke and got upset because he thought I was making fun of his brother (who is also gay)… so I had to really slowly and painfully spell out that I was talking about myself, not his brother. But when the confusion was resolved, everything was really cool.
Coming out is exhausting you guys! I feel like I’m never gonna get the hang of it…
Oh, and wish me luck as I try to survive the next couple weeks of school and work. I feel like I just can’t catch up with either. Spring break can’t come fast enough!
i promise you’ll get the hang of it! also, hears to hoping you in fact did not overhear a lot of sex on valentine’s day.
hahaha–glad you got that misunderstanding worked out!!
I’ll be doing homework and labwork all day tomorrow. I mean, I guess this just means that I need to accept that I’m in a committed relationship with my research.
I’ve never had a date on Valentine’s day, but whatever. It doesn’t bother me generally (because chocolate sales the next day), but it’s getting to me a lot this year because so many of my friends are dating. Or like, have dated and can get dates? And all of my friends who have graduated complain about how much harder it is to date outside of college because you’re not interacting with a ton of people close in age and interests all the time, and like, that scares me as a senior? Like, I’m bad at making friends, let alone trying to find another human to go on dates with. Being single doesn’t bother me, but the prospect of being single forever does, and it’s just starting to feel like being single forever is a (pretty likely) thing that could happen. Which is just a spiral of SADS and I think 90% of this is coming from Valentine’s day sads.
<3 <3 I’m pretty sure you won’t be single forever. :)
*hugs!*
I’m currently at MBLGTACC in Illinois! It’s amazing! I just saw Laverne Cox speak, and she is amazing and beautiful and I nearly cried throughout her whole speech. This is my first time at MBLGTACC and I just know it’s going to be great!! Anyone else here? :D
Today I celebrated Galentine’s Day with my sister and roommate. We went out for brunch at DeDutch. Then went home drank some mimosas and watched movies (Kill Bill vol.2, Charlie’s Angels, and All The Boys Love Mandy Lane). Tomorrow I have to work and will probably spend the day watching sappy movies and eating pizza. I’m single but I love spending time alone.
#pizzasolidarity
We’ll be cleaning the house, which has been in a state of disarray for the past month. And probably running some errands. Netflix will probably come into the equation at some point. #soromantic
To be fair, we just had a nice, chill, sweet 10th anniversary last weekend, so we are not feeling the strong desire for the all-day romance-fest. And we have a super fun vacation together coming up soon, which we’re super excited about!
this all sounds like perfection, kaelyn!
I just joined A+. :D
My dog is my valentine. :)
Wooooo!!
WELCOME TO THE WONDERFUL WORLD OF A+! and happy puppy love to you.
Hello Kittens!! Happy Valentines day!! I’m so happy I get to spend today with my wife. Last time we spent it was 6 years ago!! Heading out to dinner in a bit so I thought I’d pop in and say hello and wish you all well. We don’t have pictures yet because our phones were dying over lunch plus she said she wasn’t as dolled up yet. LOL. To be fair, I wasn’t either so. Be back post dinner. ♥♥♥♥♥
Enjoy! <3
:) :) :)
AHHHH THIS IS SO CUTE / SWEET /AMAZING
This Valentine’s day I am on my way to a city close to where I live, where I give private language lessons to this married lesbian couple (i swear it’s a coincidence) and they actually rescheduled to make it ealier today, so I wonder what they’re planning, I hope it’s something good. Then I have to find a place that sells flowers before my girlfriend arrives! I tend to think it’s an awfully capitalist holiday and we’ve taken it from the US and whatnot, but I’m also a gross sappy romantic so there’s that.
A while ago, my buddy’s 2 mini lion head rabbits escaped and had a wild night of fuzzy passion, and TA-DA! she was gifted with 8 adorable little cotton balls. They are finally old enough to find new homes for, so obviously I am taking two. I will pick them up today/never put them back down. Pictures soon to come. Does anyone have any name ideas? It is a boy and a girl, the girl has a cream coat and the boy has a brown coat. Oh, and happy Valentine’s day all you lovely people! Please enjoy my computer kisses. Xoxoxoxo
more like a /hoppy/ valentine’s day for you, eh? ehhh?
OOHHHHH, Jane you just blew up Valentine’s day.
honestly if you posted photos of the bunnies i would probably faint so please do that when you have them in your hands!
Happy Valentines day gals and pals and galpals… I’m working today and am always destroyed after a long Saturday so my missus and I are having a delicious Marks and Sparks dine in for two meal…such British. But seriously it’s the best £20 dinner I have ever seen, unfortunately I may have to pay another £50 as I got a parking ticket whilst I was buying it. The ticket is bogus, I was within my time so I’m fighting it, damn you Friday 13th!
So….my lady got me star wars vans for V-Day because she is awesome!
Have a great Saturday what ever you are doing, be it with pals, gals, galpals or with yourself. Take it easy folks :)
Star Wars Vans?!!! A+ gifting, lady, A+! Also no shame ever to good food situations where you don’t have to cook.
BEST SHOES EVER
THOSE SHOES
I’m spending Valentine’s Day going to Seattle Meowtropolitan’s pop-up cat café! I’m going to take lots of pictures, and maybe write up a thing for work! Or at least take pictures, so someone who is actually on the Content team can do the writing. *shrug*
Either way: KITTENS! KITTENS AND COFFEE!
quality plans
Guys, this year for Valentine’s Day I wrote my girlfriend a choose-your-own-adventure “novel” (it’s really only 20 pages). Remember those? Where you get to decide what you’re going to do next and then flip to the appropriate page? I had a Goosebumps book like that.
Anyway, that’s what I did, but it’s erotic. So, we’re the main characters, and she gets to choose how we have sex and where (in the book). (And in real life.) I’m worried that my erotic writing is less than spectacular, but I’m hoping that the subject matter distracts her from any poor word choices.
I’m sure it’s great! that is an amazing idea.
Pretty sure that is an amazing present, no way a few silly words could ruin it!!
um this is an AMAZING idea
I work up in northern Canada as a geologist, which means that I’m not going to be home for Valentine’s this year. To make up for not being there, I left my wife a scavenger hunt with a small gift for each day I was going to be gone, leading up to a bigger present today.
Cold work, but warm thoughts!
ohhh! You’re warming my heart! Stay warm yourself :)
The wife and I actually get to have alone time! My mom offered to watch our adventurous two year old, to get some valentine shenanigans in. I think we are going to have an awesome adventure. Thinking about painting some pottery maybe some yummy food and of course some heavy petting in the car by the ocean, or some sappy stuff. Have a lovely day ya’ll :)
i hope it was wonderful!
Here’s a happy, happy, joy, joy Valentine’s Dance Video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VC4otkf1ViQ
FUCK that’s so cute. is that you? being so goddamn cute? jesus.
YESSSS SO GOOD
EEEEeeee I just had the most wonderful Valentines ever so I just have to share!
Background: I work 8-5, my gf works evenings, so most weekdays we don’t get to see each other awake :( So weekends are rly important to us! Also it’s taken me 3 months since moving back to NZ to find a job, so with only her income money has been really tight. My first pay came through 2 weeks ago, so while we still have a lot of debt on our US credit cards to deal with, we finally have a little bit of money to spend on us. Also gf hates cooking, so I normally cook us dinner every night.
Valentines: Friday night when she got home from work she gave me the most beautiful flowers (I’m a plant biologist, and these had some of my fave plants (ferns! pH-sensitive hydrangeas!) and also chose colors with the exact anthocyanin pigment that’s my favorite). <333 We ate dinner together while catching up on this weeks Agent Carter and Parks and Recreation episodes, then lay in bed for hours just talking about fandoms and shipping :D
Saturday morning she made me french toast for breakfast, and I made her hashbrowns for second breakfast. Then we got all fancied up and went out for High Tea at a french patisserie/tea house. Which was friggin AMAZING so much deliciousness. After that we went back home, hung out on our computers, got reaaaally good indian food delivered, then drank scotch while watching The Philadelphia Story. Followed by boutique chocolate, followed by RIDICULOUSLY mind-blowing sex, followed by falling asleep in each others arms.
Arrrghhh like we'd been looking forward to this day for ages and it was even better than we'd hoped and that like never happens, right?! Anyway, just had to share with y'all because it was literally a perfect day.
Ohhhh yay yay yay!! So glad you had such a wonderful time together :)
Spending the day cuddling with my puppybear because I got the flu!
hello chickens!
my vday was okay. I flew home from road trip, came home and found a valentine from my out-of-town-gf (chocolate and flowers and origami dinosaurs-cute-) and just got home from thai and seeing some like it hot on the big screen with my cutiepie friend. pretty good all around!
origami dinosaurs!!! omg!
Valentines Day this year for me was almost disappointing because my city’s queer festival [Out in the Park] got cancelled due to weather BUT THEN my super anti-Valentines Day girlfriend gave me this massive teddy bear. I named her Lady Bearsten Stewart.
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I actually haven’t commented here in a while but I hope that everyone’s having a great February. I’m having a great Valentine’s weekend with my girlfriend. We live two hours apart and this time she came to visit me since she has the weekends of from grad school. Our weekend has so far included velveeta mac and cheese, sugar cookies, netflix, chocolate chip pancakes (which she was adorable and made into heart-ish shapes when I was sleeping in :P) aka perfect.
Also we went out to lunch on Valentine’s Day when she came into town, which was fine except the middle aged lady sitting at the table next to us gave us the dirtiest look when my girlfriend touched my arm. So over that bullshit.
Anyway, sorry, I had the most cheesy/stereotypical Valentine’s Day story. At least it was not spent watching 50 Shades of Grey (which I have absolutely no interest in seeing).
GUYS, I went out on Valentines Day/night and kissed a girl and it was great. Then I basically ran away from her like a twelve year old, which was not ideal. But I am still so pumped to have made the shift to practising bisexual it is unbelievable. WHY did I wait 1,000 years to take this step???!
fgf
this is so mysterious…what does it mean??
Pedicures, barbeque take-out, and Fried Green Tomatoes with my honey. We considered paint chips for future nesting and split a bottle of champagne while our toes soaked; it was heaven on earth.
Awww!
GUYS! I celebrated Valentines Day for real real. 1st time having a true Valentine in my 25 years! I /finally/ started dating a lady on New Years Day, and while I have no idea what I’m doing, it’s awesome.
We cliche’d it up! She cooked me a lovely Italian dinner and picked out the perfect wine. She got me 1 rose (since I’m still partially closeted so it wouldn’t prompt too many questions, which was very sweet & thoughtful at the same time). We dipped strawberries in chocolate, spent the night cuddling & watching movies and being bugged by the cute dog children.
Once we finally pulled ourselves out of morning cuddles we had Greek food w/her friends. Kitchen dancing, make outs, McFlurries, & a quickie back massage.
26 hrs later- a V-day for the books, complete.
And, I swear, if you’re reading this I’m so embarrassed, but also don’t care. :)
eeee cute!
Not on topic re Valentine’s Day, but Mara Keisling (of NCTE) has reported that another trans woman has been murdered, this time in Akron, Ohio. The killer was her father, who first blamed her death on intruders who belonged to a “cult.”
The only news story so far makes no mention of the victim being trans, and misgenders her:
http://www.cleveland.com/akron/index.ssf/2015/02/akron_father_accused_of_fatall.html
Here’s a story with more details that gives the victim’s proper name and has a picture of her:
http://www.pghlesbian.com/2015/02/22-year-old-ohio-trans-woman-stabbed-to-death-by-father/
That’s at least seven murdered trans women in the U.S. so far this year.
fuck calculus, man
:(
RT
like wtf is a difference quotient and why are h’s being thrown around like who fucking invited you, you piece of shit
i think my brain is melting
The weather forecast for Mardi Gras day is terrrrrrible, but I ain’t even mad that is how great this weekend has been.
-pizza date
-discount chocolate
-fatal outfit combo discovered
-Endymion with my grandmother in tow
-Bacchus with lebanese leftovers
-Bacchus beads in the shape of wine barrels in like all the colours
-ridiculous light up swag
So go ahead weather be nasty on my holiday, I’ll just chill at home and cover things in chocolate while costumed and dancing like a fool to Mardi Gras tunes.
You can’t rain on my internal parade this time.
yessss YESSS I am so glad you’re having an awesome time!!