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Against Dating Around the Holidays

Holiday dating has a glow to it, the way everything looks better under low light. It’s easy to mistake that…

Titeänyä Rodríguez

Dec 22, 2025

Chappell Roan as a plumber, construction worker, lawyer, dentist, and detective in promo art for The Giver

sex

How I Learned To Enjoy Receiving (In Honor of ‘The Giver’)

If a stone top likes “The Giver” and it resonates with them, I think that’s beautiful. But to call Chappell a stone top and the song a stone top anthem?…

Reed Motti

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Mar 19, 2025

In one image, a white man is steering a yacht, in another image two people are holding hands in formal wear.

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How Should We Deal with My Fiancé’s Trumpy Dad on Our Wedding Day?

You’ve both got dads, but only want one of them to be involved on your wedding day, but like, without drama. Also, a reader wonders about sharing their erotica too…

the team

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Mar 14, 2025

One image shows a pregnant person alone, another shows a group of people hanging out.

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Can We Make Sure This New Baby Doesn’t Torpedo Our Friendships?

How can you make sure you don’t under-prioritize your friendships after having a baby? Also, recommendations for wax play!

the team

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Mar 7, 2025

person carrying flowers

first person

I Forgive Myself for My Past Situationships and I’ma Keep Having Them

I’ve known for a long time that my mom’s lack of emotional availability was a setup for my romantic relationships.

Fatima Kay

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Mar 4, 2025

One image shows a person smoking a joint, another shows two people arguing

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Newly Sober Girlfriend Is Harshing My Mellow

You’ve compromised for her, but she still judges you for smoking weed. Also, is this out-of-state queer wedding worth the PTO?

the team

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Feb 28, 2025

two fingers going into a papaya

sex

Are You a Two Fingers or a Thumb Lesbian?

At the end of the day, being a “two fingers” or a “thumb” lesbian isn’t just about physical technique; it’s about preference, pleasure, and the way you connect with your…

Carlo

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Feb 26, 2025

"I've never had sex with a girl before and I'm highly insecure about my body."

sex

‘I’m a Sexually Inexperienced Stud Afraid of Doing It Wrong’

“Honestly I know I’m straight up lesbian ( stud ) and I’ve been in a few relationships with girls and I always ended it when things were about to get…

Summer Tao

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Feb 25, 2025

One image shows someone walking down a city street in an expensive looking outfit, another image shows a hand going into a purse.

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My Girlfriend Has Money to Spare, So Can I Ask for a Loan?

She knows you can’t afford the thing you need, but hasn’t even offered to help?! Also, we settle a debate about bookshelves!

the team

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Feb 21, 2025

Sex Toy Reviews

What I Learned From 3D Printing My Own Sex Toys

The idea of a machine that can make stuff in my house has stuck with me since my earliest exposure to sci-fi.

Summer Tao

3d printer

sex toys

What a Sex Toy’s Color Says About It

The vibes have vibes.

Summer Tao

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Dec 4, 2025

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You’ve got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

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Feb 8, 2024

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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