Results for: love is a lie
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My Word of the Year Was “Closer”
For as long as I can remember, I’ve held a silent tradition of closing out each year with a word.
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Top Surgery, Magnolia Trees, and the Trans Art of Letting Go
What’s transness if not a long lesson in choosing which beautiful things are meant for you?
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Autism Is Not a Trend, but There Are Problems With How It’s Discussed Online
Health conditions and disabilities are more than how many views a 20-second clip gets or the number of comments under a post. It’s real-life shit that can affect the core of who somebody is.
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Is There Life After High School?
“I wanted to have nightmares about monsters or mass shootings. It was too embarrassing — in the midst of global catastrophe — to be concerned with something as frivolous as high school.”
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This Never Happened
On family, memory, scar tissue, a 1999 Red Sox game, unreliable narrators, and setting the story straight.
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Learning To Live After My Younger Brother Died
When I unexpectedly lost my little brother to cancer, I had to learn how to close out his unfinished business and live life again without him.
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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In 2020 I Dare You to Be Honest With Yourself About What You Really Need
Commit to your life, babe. Start today.
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Imagining a Neurodiverse Future
What do Courtney Love and Greta Thunberg have in common? They both speak their minds, distrust power, and they’re both autistic. These two vanguards show us the power and political potential of autism while demonstrating how autistic people can shape a fairer and kinder world.
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You Have a Crush on Your Therapist: An Exposé About Transference
Having an hour a week devoted to being listened to can lend itself to a misdirection of feelings. It’s easy to dismiss this as a harmless crush, but it can easily spiral out into an obsession that takes away from the real work that needs to be done.
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The Autostraddle Guide To Queer Mental Health
An epically organized guide to some of our best work on topics including depression, anxiety, grief, eating disorders, substance abuse and other legitimately important topics.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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Bipolar Disorder, Trans Dykes, and Celestial Catastrophe
One patient in the study “Observation of Trends in Manic-Depressive Psychosis” by O. Spurgeon English recounted that living with bipolar disorder “is like opening all my pores on a cold day and subjecting myself to catastrophe.”
I too have felt like a catastrophe of a person, a catastrophe of a star, a catastrophe of emotions. -
Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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A Birthday Party No One Else Was Invited To
The first time someone described Casey as having “stalkerish” tendencies, I defended her. For the most part though, I didn’t talk about it.
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5 Years Sober (Or, the Meanest Lesbian I Know Punched Me in the Face)
“I knew that somewhere along the way, I stopped being sober for her and had started doing it for me — and that realization hit me harder than my own fist.”
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Sad Enough Songs: On Julien Baker and Depression
Depression is not forever because it always ends, and depression is forever because it always comes back. It won’t work if I only want to stay on the days when my brain breaks through the muck. Turn Out The Lights is a meditation on wanting to stay on the very worst days.
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100 of My Favorite Poets For Your Survival Pack
In an unsafe world, we have to make our own survival packs. Carry the words of these 100 fierce poets in yours.
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Thank you, Chester Bennington: The Queer Strength I Found in Linkin Park
“Chester Bennington’s anger was so present and so empathic. It told me it was okay that I had it too— that I wasn’t alone, that my feelings were normal. It replaced my fear, and it helped me survive.”
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We’ll Have Sex Again, I Promise
The joke was that we had to have sex before the election, because if Donald Trump won, I never wanted to be touched again. It was a joke. A joke.