You Need Help: Here Is A Worksheet To Help You Talk To Partners About Sex

Worksheet content by Ali and Dani , graphic design by Geneva.

We answer sex questions on this here website. And let me tell you, as a person who sometimes answers them, the number one piece of advice I give out is to open your mouth. And not in, like, a sexual way. What I mean by that is you have to talk to your sex partner or partners about the same issue you just talked to me about. And that can be scary, especially if you’re not clear on what exactly it is you want out of sex or a relationship. If you’re not clear about it in your head, it can be harder to verbalize things.

So that’s why at A-Camp 2014, we did an entire workshop on how to talk about sex with your partner. Now it’s certainly something we’ve covered before, but we’re also interested in helping you clarify what exactly you want to talk about. Not just the act of having the conversation, but the content of it too. Do you want to be doing different things in bed? Do you really want to tell your partner about a fantasy you’ve been having? Do you want to test drive some new language to refer to genitalia? Gender? Where exactly do you and your partner(s) intersect?

We made you this worksheet, the three of us. It’s full of suggestions, helpful things to think about, creative ways of looking at things we want in the sack. We hope you like it and we encourage you to deface it. If you want to talk about something you don’t see on here, well then add it. Draw all over it. Download it, print it out and go bananas.

And please, do talk to your partners if there’s something you want to change about your sex life. Also talk to your partners if they’re doing everything right (believe me, everyone wants to know they’re fabulous).


Here are some previews of what the worksheet looks like:

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And here’s a downloadable PDF, just for you.


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    “…the number one piece of advice I give out is to open your mouth.”


    “And not in, like, a sexual way. ”

    Awww. Maybe I should have read that point in its entirety first.

    All seriousness aside, I really like this. It’s also food for thought (literally, if you’re into that) about other potential new things you can try in bed with your partner(s), if you haven’t already.

    Me, I might all data for this into a spreadsheet. That makes it super-easy to quickly organize!

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    I asked my Roomate to print me out a list like this once, I sent him the link in an email and he didn’t even read it, just printed it for me. At his job. I’m, uh, told his co-workers had an informative discussion that day.

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    My wife and I are still doing the first page, we’ve been answering questions etc while doing face time so it’s also fun to see her reactions live. LOL. I’m sure it’s the same for her. You guys were awesome at camp!!! ♥

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