Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
You want to read some links; I’ve got some links for you to read. SYMBIOSIS.
“Instead, I jump back into the mind of the girlish woman I was at 28, the one who didn’t know enough about the consequences for unacceptable motherhood to plunge headfirst into the fire. It has taken me much longer than my mother to see the gift of my own naiveté.”
“Keeping abreast of the passersby, the evidence of our intimacy was in the way we carried our hands. They were strategically placed so when they touched, it could be disguised as a perpetual accident. In honor of our silent dance, those near us were careful to walk around us instead of in-between.”
Topics include the closing of The Toast, layoffs at Vice and The NY Times, preparing for last-minute interviews, Buzzfeed’s shift towards video and so much more!
Lindsay Amer is the cool Queer Big Sister you wish you had when you were a wee tot and she’s changing the landscape of kid-friendly content for ages 3-7.
I wanted her. I dreamed about her, daydreamed about her, wrote love notes to her all day long, wrote erotica about our sex life. We weren’t together all that long, but she taught me so much about dominance.
“I’m going to be a single, poor, gay, mom, and it’s going to be fine. It’s going to be amazing. I mean sure, I might date sometimes, but I don’t need a partner. Partners just get in the way. And what are the odds that I would meet a woman I would want to be with who would also want to have children with me? I can’t even picture it!”
“Sometimes I turn to Waffle and randomly exclaim, ‘This is happening!’ I should probably stop doing that as we get closer to, like, the possibility of me going into actual labor.”
It’s your Monday link roundup! Happy Monday! Best Mondayyyy!
People bring wine into movies. It’s fine. We’re all adults.
Texas has made a huge (and hilarious) mistake, two girls in Tallahassee were elected prom king and queen, Zoe Quinn won her lawsuit, Trevor Noah dropped some truth bombs about bathroom bills, Australia’s Labor party wants someone to tackle LGBT discrimination, and more good gay news!
The most common safe words, how to win at online dating messages, sex and sadness, a vagina kayak artist update, how we think about obscenity and more.
T-rex lips, sleeping trees, Cameron Esposito, being a queer girl among straight girls, ‘pussy whisperers,’ US military is a dumpster fire re: rape, ADHD, temporary tattoos and invisible disabilities, midwifery stuff, Chloe Sevigny, and so very much more!
“Gender self-determination is vital and I can feel great about who I am when I am at home. But I live a life where I engage with other people and doing what feels good for me is a lot more challenging when I step outside the door. With pronouns specifically, it’s hard not to feel like you are dependent on others to ‘validate’ your gender, or rather, it’s hard not to feel like your gender is not valid when people use the wrong pronoun.”
“I didn’t get any funding until year three and it came from a member who truly believed in me. Now in year six, funding opportunities are coming from multiple places, thank you baby Jesus, but all of those opportunities are coming my way from relationships I have formed, not from banks or investors.”
Tarot is an awesome tool for projects and planning…especially when you have a gazillion ideas flying around in your head. Here’s a guide to how the court cards represent the different stages of a project.
As far too often happens, she was misgendered in death, with news reports using her birth name and incorrect pronouns, even when reporting that she was a transgender woman. Misgendering trans women like this continues and supports the violence that so many of us face.
It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.
Because the world sure as hell isn’t telling me my body matters. And having nondisabled friends who do, who affirm me precisely for standing out, means I don’t have to accept pity masked as kindness.