What We Love and Hate About Dating Aries

For those who believe in it, astrology can be a powerful tool for introspection and self-knowledge — or you can use it to talk shit about your ex and obsess over your crush. Journey with us as we do both, and then head to the comments to live your truth.

Vanessa Friedman, Community Editor

Aries are so hot because they’re fiery and passionate and goal driven and work obsessed. The downside to all this, of course, is that they’re fiery and passionate and goal driven and work obsessed. I will say that my most important contribution to the Astrology As It Is Relevant To Queer Sex And Dating Discourse is my unflappable belief, which is supported by strong anecdotal evidence, that the people who are most successfully able to fuck their friends without making it weird have their Mars placement in Aries. (Yes my Mars is in Aries – duh.) You’re welcome.

Drew Burnett Gregory, Senior Editor

I’ve only had two experiences with Aries and I wouldn’t want to judge based on that limited experience. I will say while emotionally neither experience was positive, the sex was really, really good, so I’m not opposed to increasing the sample size here.

Stef Schwartz, Vapid Fluff Editor

I have never dated or slept with an Aries which I think is crazy, but my best friend is an Aries and I watched her date a Scorpio so I think I have a vague idea of the kind of messy situation I’d be stepping into if I ever did. When they were good together, they were completely in sync, but when they fought it was terrifying. Aries rage vs Scorpio wrath is a sight to behold. I’ll pass.

Ryan Yates, Writer

As a Virgo, Aries sun signs are one of my worst combos astrologically speaking, and as a masochist, that has me frankly intrigued. Plus it’s not just the sun signs, it’s the rest of the chart, right?

Rachel Kincaid, Former Managing Editor

I love fire signs in general; Aries are the baby of the zodiac, and maybe because of that in practice they always feel to me like they have really fun, straightforward energy, like a golden retriever. What are you up to! Oh wow that’s so cool!! Can you come over right now?? Do you wanna make out!!! And so on and so forth.

Although I’m sure ~real astrologers~ can explain how your Mars sign is probably more complicated than just, like, sex, I will say that my Mars is in Aries and I have had great success dating and being friends with other people with Mars in Aries; it is a Mars sign that is, generally speaking, reliably dtf in really fun, uncomplicated ways.

Positive: literally down for anything, super fun and easy going, VERY good at sex, can go forever

Negative: cannot be still and sometimes you just wanna like, be still u know? also not every Aries but they can be like a fire sign version of a pisces, like they can be baby™ with their emotional bursts and more traditionally that’s rage which is like…yikes.

Carly Usdin, To L and Back Co-Host

I married an Aries, she’s a great balance to my triple Taurus energy.

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  1. As an Aries, I have to say that Rachel’s comment is completely accurate (for me, anyway), especially this: “What are you up to! Oh wow that’s so cool!! Can you come over right now?? Do you wanna make out!!!”
    (Real talk, I’ve gotten a boyfriend and two girlfriends just by saying “Do you wanna make out?!”)

  2. As a Sagittarius who met my Aries nine years ago (and am still not married to her, lol astrology really is real?), I can verify that a couple of intense, independent firebrands who don’t hold grudges is a great combo. When I met Stacy and told her chart to my most astrology friend, she said, “If y’all don’t kill each other, you’ll make each other happier than you ever imagined for the rest of your lives.” True so far!

  3. I just came here to say that the feature image looks like an IUD, but I just googled Aries so now I understand.

  4. I’m a Virgo who dated an Aries for two years, and it did NOT end well.

    Then again, this could also be because the Aries was a man and I figured out I was a lesbian.

    For some reason it’s much more fun to blame astrology.

    • I’m an Aries married to a Virgo man and we’ve been together for 11 f’ing everloving years. It’s hard both because I’m a lesbian and because I’m an Aries but somehow we keep trucking along.

  5. i’m an aries in a long term relationship with a taurus and the last comment made me AOL (awwww out loud)

  6. Can confirm that as an Aries, dating a Scorpio is the hottest but also most infuriating romantic experience of my life thus far. 10/10 recommend.

  7. Chiming in on the amazing sex appreciation for Aries ~ (my gf is Aries rising) but adding in some love for their direct communication!

  8. I am pretty successful at fucking my friends without making it weird, so I had to lookup my mars placement and yup, it’s Aries. So here’s more anecdotal evidence.

  9. Aries rising here – is this why I’m into open relationships? But I am actually a Cancerian. With Scorpio moon.

    Anyway, my relationship life has basically consisted of alternating Aries and Pisceans the entire time. Not deliberately! It’s just worked out that way. Currently, I’m on the Piscean ride, but who knows when the next Aries will pop up. My last long-term partner was one, and it was hard to let her go.

    Thankfully I’ve had one relationship with a Taurus, one with a Libran, an obsessive fling with a Scorp, a long-standing fwb thing with a Virgo, and I’ve shagged everything else except an Aquarian (and only ONE other Cancerian, which was really not great) to break things up a bit in between.

    What someone said in the article about Aries/Pisces being strangely similar in some ways is in fact true. Also, I find that Aries are often into kink dynamics that they may or may not be aware of – they kind of epitomise “brat”.

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  11. Any Sag and Aries stories?!?!? Are Sag’s just TOO independent to date? C’mon, it’s supposed to be the best fire sign combo!! (Full disclosure: Sag here with a big ol’ crush on an Aries coworker).

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