“Amazingly, neither the training bra nor my actual boobs magically solved my very typical and very sad self-image issues.”
“My favorite thing in the world is when people ask if it’s a mood ring so I can say yes.”
We’ve packed and unpacked these items through several apartments, hung them up with care, and regularly touch the sleeves contemplatively although today could be the day. Reader, it’s not going to be the day! The day is not coming. Yet we can’t let go of these garments. Why not!
“I’d actually never even seen a woman in a blazer before. Like a men’s cut blazer. It really was like Fun Home. Inside I really did feel like I KNOW YOU!”
“I’m adult and I’ve never cried over a haircut before and I don’t usually call my mom when I’m sad or frustrated or mad. She asked to see a photo of it. I sent her one and she asked me if the man hated queers, because this was clearly a hate crime.”
“Ultimately, though, no one really wins, because to have won you’ve had to scream ‘peel’ on repeat until everyone hates you.”
These are the things that are gone from our lives now but we still think about and miss all the time.
A reader requested a roundtable where Autostraddle’s fat staff talk about how fatness, diet culture, and body positivity, relate to our queerness, identity, and gender. We aim to please, so here we are!
Forgiveness may be an attribute of the strong, but we also have the memory of an elephant.
Raise your hand if you will buy all the school supplies whether or not you’re actually in school at the moment.
“I never went into it planning to be a monster, and I think that actually always made it worse.”
In tribute to Lena Waithe, a few Autostraddle staffers got together to share the moment when they decided to cut their hair short.
“I think I’m willing to do this because I’m constantly aware that death awaits us all and I’m more inclined to want to heighten an experience if I can.”
“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”
“I like to think I’ve put my talking-back skills to great use as an adult who enjoys proving points and getting the last word and being right.”
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
“The thing is, if the people in your life respect you, they’ll give you the space to figure out where you’re comfortable. It’s YOUR name. You’re the person who has deal with it every second of your life.”
“A bold lip is my femme secret to instant confidence. I could be wearing day-old sweatpants and bed head and a red lip makes me feel READY TO BE SEEN.”
“I had two stuffed animal bear friends as a child. Pretty tight crew, I know, but two bears was enough as I also had an imaginary friend who was an adult woman that I had to entertain. I was only one child!”
Have you ever experienced bed death in your relationship? If you did move past it, how? Has bed death ever signaled the end of a relationship for you? Has a fear of bed death ever made an impact on your relationships? Do you think bed death isn’t a big deal and we should stop talking about it?