NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Sexplains the Supply Chain

The feature image of Tasha Black and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Here’s how to tell someone you’re only interested in sex without being an asshole:

“If you come right out and say you’re not interested in dating someone, you’re starting with a bit of a put-down, even if you don’t mean to. Start out nicely. There are nice things about the other person, after all. Try this:

‘I’ve really liked getting to know you over the past few weeks. You’re super funny and cute, but I’m not able to commit to a relationship right now. The sex is great, though—and I hope you feel the same—so if you’re interested, I’d like to keep that going.'”

Tasha Black for Mondo Fetiche

Tasha Black for Mondo Fetiche

The new Mastercard policy will hurt sex workers:

“The guidelines are supposedly intended to crack down on the buying and selling of illegal adult content, such as content involving minors or sex trafficking victims.

But advocates note that for many sex workers, the policy change will take away important sources of income, especially during a global pandemic in which internet channels have been a lifeline. Live content streamed on sites like Twitch or Charturbate can’t be pre-vetted as the policy requires, as Mary Moody of the Adult Industry Laborers & Artists Association noted in comments to The Hill.”

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Selene Sun and Dr. Elody Rose for Mondo Fetiche

Here’s how the pandemic has impacted the sex toy supply chain. And here’s a good reminder that “[i]t’s true we’re seeing the vulnerabilities of globalized market capitalism, but waiting a week for your massage pillow isn’t quite the same as civilizational collapse. If anything, I’d say it’s still a ridiculous luxury.”

A new service aims to track down stolen adult content.

What’s the most controversial opinion on Hinge?

Has the pandemic made more people nudists?

Just tell your crush how you feel.

Getting sober can also mean getting horny.

Are monogamous people okay?

What happens when you and someone you’re in a relationship with do money differently?

Amazon Maddox, Francisco St. Laurent

Amazon Maddox and Francisco St. Laurent for Mondo Fetiche

When is it time to take your relationship to therapy? Contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and distance are a few indicators that it’s time, but you can also go before major transitions and before problems start:

“Prospective clients, as well as friends and family, often ask me if a little rough patch in their relationship requires professional help or if they can and should work out their problems on their own.

I usually ask them this: Do you ignore small fires in your home and only call 911 when your house is about to burn to the ground?

Just as we are quick to call the fire department, we should call for help early, rather than let hotspots get out of control.

We should also take a step further. Like how we teach our family fire safety, we must proactively protect our relationship by learning crucial relational skills and improving our emotional intelligence.”


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carolyn

Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Ryan has written 1135 articles for us.

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