The Comment Awards Need a Lesbian Aunt Like Heather Hogan

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This week, Grease Bats was sexting!

Jojo Siwa and her girlfriend, true to form, are twinning and very much in love!

In You Need Help, Vanessa cheered along a monogamous, kinky queer person who doesn’t want to be alone forever.

If you want to believe in love AND THE ABSOLUTE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP, read this perfect thing: Your Lesbian Aunt Who Loves You Writes Your Dating Profile.

Once upon a time, Heather wrote a five-point plan for her big gay life. It all came true. <3

In big, big casting news, Rose Rollins will be playing the coach on a “gay women’s basketball drama,” and Jasika Nicole is going to play gay on the Punky Brewster remake!!!

In this week’s Foolish Child: It’s Black History Month. Dickens is on a break.

And then there were your comments!

On BREAKING: JoJo Siwa Reveals Her Girlfriend’s Identity, Is The Happiest Person Alive:

The Full Circle Award to Chloe:

It just hit me that they’re around the same age I was when I started reading Autostraddle which is really something!!! I can’t imagine being that age and having extremely famous people my age coming out and celebrating their love when I was secretly reading Glee recaps on the family computer.

On Your Lesbian Aunt Who Loves You Writes Your Dating Profile:

The Mashup Award to Chandra:

I am overwhelmed with fuzzies from this, so I took one line from each of these profiles to make a Valentine’s found poem about how you all come together to make Autostraddle what it is. *** I have big beautiful eyes that make you want to never lie to me; you’ll be overwhelmed at the generosity of my gaze. My voice sounds like a song, but that doesn’t make me sweet. That ciphered smile I give you in a crowded room because no one else has been there, knowing what everyone’s not saying. There’s bliss in a well-told love story. What can I say? I love to be a fan of things. I cup them in my hands and tend to them with such precise affection, in such strong and warm and specific ways, sitting in the coldness with you and reckoning. I will listen to you in a way you’ve never been listened to before. It costs a lot to love this much, and I choose to do it anyway. Hold it up to the light; every part of everything informs every part of everything else, sent out into the universe specifically for you.

On FYP: Stud 4 Stud Love Is Actually All I Care About:

The Wilowah Award to alchemille and Shelli Nicole:

Alchemille: Ok a poll, how to people prounounce wlw? Shelli: officially i am now saying “wilowah

On Also.Also.Also: GQ Declares Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird “The Most Beloved Power Couple in Sports”:

The There’s Always an Aunt Eleanor Award to Ava:

Molly's Aunt Eleanor was the original American Girl lesbian aunt. I'm just saying.

On “Go On a Real Date, With a Real Gay Woman” A Letter On Finding Queer Community from Heather Hogan:

The Highest Bidder Award to Sally and Whovian13:

Totally misread this title and thought that actual real dates with real gay women were going to be auctioned off for the fundraiser

I volunteer to be one of those real gay women to be auctioned off. If it leads to another year of AS, sign me up.

On Jasika Nicole’s Cast in Punky Brewster as Cherie’s Girlfriend! Your Rainbow Gay 80s Childhood Is Back!

The Besties Award to April A.:

Punky Brewster was my IDOL as a queer kid with ADHD (neither of which I knew at the time). I made my mom put my hair in pigtails every single day even though it hurt, and I had high-tops with her name on them even though my family didn’t buy name-brand shoes, *ever*. I’ll probably watch the show, even though it looks like a normal sitcom (laugh track and all) about a “quirky

And on Pop Culture Fix: Rose “Tasha Williams” Rollins Will Star in a Gay Women’s Basketball Series on BET:

The Gifted Award to shamblebot:

The face I just made at the news that Rose Rollins is getting her own show can best be described as “kid on Christmas morning”!!

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  1. i missed Chandra’s tribute/Heather’s “love” letters, so i’m glad they were noted here. i was not in doubt, but feel more certain that love is not a lie, though perhaps finicky and truant…

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