Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.

Lately I’ve been joking that I am everyone’s lesbian aunt (or grandfather, depending on whether or not I am offering encouragement or once again scolding half of our team for not having flashlights in their apartments!). And so I thought, what if I just embraced that vibe and put it to work.

That’s right, we’ve got a BONUS EPISODE for you today and are gonna be doing a LIVE episode tomorrow! We are soothing the pain of departure, like how Jenny fell into a pool.

Advice for the cis, presumably het parents of a trans kid, Zoom dating while in the house with your parents, an urban legend and gay panic, gender feelings, squirting ALL of the time, and understanding your expectations in a relationship with someone who is not nearly as out!

“I too have attracted more quality human beings since I came out. Also quality cats and dogs but I am not sure it’s related.”

Plus updates on: All American, All Rise, Nancy Drew, Legacies, and Charmed welcomes trans actress Mareya Salazar as the Charmed Ones’ new cousin, Josefina!

Thomas: I remember hearing that there was a trans character named Max, and that he gave birth and that possibly he was inspired by my actions.
Riese: A hundred percent, he was inspired by you.
Carly: A thousand percent.

I don’t think it matters much whether Avatar: The Last Airbender is “respectful” of Asian culture. I think the show is racist, and also I like it. I’m interested in what we do with the sense of agency it gives us, how it allows us to critique the structures that exist and envision our own worlds.

Purgatory’s Trivia Night turns into a competition for who has the tastiest brain and Waverly learns why Nicole has been too afraid to show her face in town.

Grief is not linear, finding help for your top surgery recovery, ways to alleviate feelings of isolation while staying home, and more!

Instead of a standard matchup preview, because that’s not really my thing, I thought we’d recap some of the out players on each team and what to watch for from each of them.

On Friday, December 11th, the Taylor Swift gay subtext industrial complex sprang into action when she dropped another surprise album during quarantine.

There’s a reason forbidden romances like this spoke to me as a closeted person!

Plus, an All-American episode that gives Bre-Z some of the best work of her career, biphobia rears its ugly head once again on grown-ish, and a hilarious and spooky episode of Nancy Drew!

The AS team tackles advice for entering your 30’s (and we’d love to see yours in the comments), as well as advice for a member who’s found their sex drive has disappeared shortly after moving in with a partner, advice on coming out and labels, untangling trauma while exploring sex with your partner, finding boots that don’t make your feet hurt, and more!

If we’re going to reexamine The Matrix through the lens of the Wachowskis’ transness, it’s time we do the same here. Bound is ready for its estrogen shot.

As a lesbian, there’s nothing I love more than camping. It’s the only time you’re allowed to eat a plain hot dog on a stick!

If you think all the buzzer-beating action happened in the NBA this week, it’s probably because you didn’t have access to WNBA games.

Plus, the Season Two trailer for Never Have I Ever looks great and gay. Also, updates on All American, Legacies, Betty is back and we couldn’t love it more, everyone got high on shrooms on The Bold Type, and a surprise lesbian witch pregnancy on Charmed.

“Even once the surprise of it has been lost, I find myself returning to it time and again in my memory. A truly perfect moment of acting, of cinematography, of television. Easily the best of the year.”