Results for: be the change
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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You Need Help: Getting Kinky On A Budget
You’re in luck — kinky sex requires nothing but two (or more) bodies and a little imagination.
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Tempted to Check on Your Ex? Check on Someone Else’s Ex Instead!
More than a few people have been tempted to reach out to their ex as social distancing measures have ramped up. More than a few have acted on that temptation. That impulse might be coming from the right place, but, friends, it’s time to knock if off.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?
Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.
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You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself in a New Relationship After Early Attachment Trauma
Possibly your trauma history is being triggered out of context in this relationship – but maybe it’s not. YOU are the expert, no matter what your trauma history is.
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You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?
It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a different world.
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You Need Help: Is My Friend Flirting With Me? Do I Want Them to Be?
“Should I initiate a conversation with them about our relationship to see if they want more than a friendship? I’m afraid of embarrassing myself/making it awkward/losing the friendship.”
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There’s No Right (or Wrong) Way to Go Home for the Holidays
No matter what happens, this is a firm truth: You deserve to be seen, affirmed, and loved for exactly who you are.
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You Need Help: Why Am I So Tempted to Cheat?
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #10: Is She Straight or Into You? Can You Dress Gay? and More!
Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!
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You Need Help: Rebuilding Desire and Confidence in Your Partner
“How can I help her feel confident and in the mood again without sacrificing any more of myself?”
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Sexual Confidence Back?
You’re at your most vulnerable when you describe how afraid you are of never being desired by another again. Own that vulnerability, because really owning our soft parts is part of what confidence is.
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You Need Help: What Does My Crush on Someone Older Than Me Mean?
“I have recently grown attracted to someone who is older than me. Not too much older, but enough to make me question where I’m coming from.”
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Into the A+ Advice Box #8: Coming Out to Your Kid, Casual Hookups Galore, and So Much More!
This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #7: Gender Neutral Parent Names, So Many Questions about Crushes, and More!
Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!
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You Need Help: Closeted Girlfriends, Pregnant Butches, Straight Weddings and More
Our fundraiser perk super special You Need Help is here!