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You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.
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We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy
After months of holding ourselves back in order to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID, we were chasing abundance.
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 206: Celebrity Crushes
Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.
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Blush and Bashful: How One Fat Femme Bought Her Dream Wedding Dress
The reason I wanted to write about this experience is explicitly to say to other fat brides that buying a dress does not have to be a negative experience.
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Intimate Geographies: An Old-Fashioned Lesbian Melodrama
This is a story where I’m not the protagonist.
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 204: Partner’s Pets
Animals, like people, have their own personalities and should be taken on a case-by-case basis. (AKA wherein Drew bravely says that snakes are maybe a bit sexy thanks to a certain pop star.)
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Tarot, Sex, & Hoodoo: A Black Girl’s Guide to the Underworld
An exploration of summer, desire, and the senses through the lens of tarot and trans womanhood.
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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again
Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]
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What The Pandemic Taught Me About Healthy Queer Love
To live out a love that is healthy, queer, non-mongamous has been a source of deep personal transformation.
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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Misses Sex Parties
What it’s like to go to a queer sex party for the first time, why go on a break when you can just break up, how to find a way through conflict gridlock and more.
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Four Months
“This was after that night, when I moved into the guest room with the little bathroom, when I moved my toiletries onto the shower floor, when I moved all the books I was reading, and my perfume bottles, my department-store boxes filled with eyeliner and lipstick. And I texted my spouse that we were separating and that I had moved into the guest room, and they called me and wanted to come back to the house and I said, ‘No, no, don’t, I don’t want you to,’ and then sat on the front porch smoking, waiting, as I had set the stage for another cinematic moment to happen. And my spouse did not come home.”
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 207: Hygiene
Ah, bodies. These sacks of meat, bones and skin that we must drag around until we come up with a better way to get through this thing called life. We knew we needed to dig into this and who better to do it with than the one and only Samantha Irby?
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 203: Dating Men
Whether you’re a lesbian who dated men as a teen or a queer person who dates lots of genders, our community is far too mixed and gender is far too complicated to leave men — cis and trans — out of our discussions.
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Yes, Some Of Us Use Dental Dams (And They’re Hot)
I attended the Chicago Pride Parade, where safer sex advocates tossed dental dams in shiny squares of plastic from a float. Thrilled, I swept them up, put them in my bag and promptly put them to use.
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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Nihilistic Slut
85% of queers met their partners by being friends first, how to slow date, how to hide nudes on your phone and more.
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Unlearning Shame, Relearning Pleasure: Resources on Healing From Purity Culture
Reflect on the ways in which you’ve internalized purity culture’s messages about sex, love, and what is “good” and what is “bad” or shameful in your own life
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Allison Moon’s “Getting It” Is the Casual Sex Guide You Didn’t Know You Needed
Allison Moon’s Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex is about more than scissoring strangers — it’s about cultivating self-awareness and sexual self-esteem. Hookup culture might look different right now, but communication and boundaries are perhaps more important than ever before. The skills outlined in Getting It will help you navigate virtual slutdom in this challenging new era of distance. And if you want to gracefully transition into a post-pandemic world of IRL sexcapades, then you better start studying up now.
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You Need Help: I’m Disabled — Will I Ever Find Love?
Disabled and chronically ill people are powerful and sexy and worthy of love, and that means you’re all of those things, too.
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8 Podcasts to Get Started With Polyamory and Non-Monogamy
We released a list of books to read at the end of March for those interested in getting started with polyamory and non-monogamy. These resources go beyond books to blogs, podcasts, movies… so here are eight podcast episodes to get you started on polyamory and non-monogamy during this lockdown!
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Season Two FINALE: Long Distance Crushes with Elise Bauman
Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called… a season finale! And to celebrate that ending, who better to come on and discuss the joys and successes of a long distance crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman?