Also.Also.Also: Mary Lambert’s Wedding Is Giving Gay Autumn Splendor

Feature image of Mary Lambert’s wedding, by Darling Photography, via Mary Lambert on Instagram

Well friends! This Tuesday sure as hell felt like a Monday. I have some take out Thai food waiting for dinner (pad see ew if you were curious). Bring BG Home.

Queer as in F*ck You

We also briefly mentioned this in yesterday’s Pop Culture Fix, but I love Mary Lambert. She wrote the first song that has ever made me cry big fat queer tears (and that I still play when I need to cry, because I’m a Cancer or whatever). I hope that her partner, Wyatt Paige Hermansen, keeps her warm forever. I truly wish them nothing but happiness, and — call it a little editor’s privilege — I wanted to give them center stage! I don’t know man, Mary Lambert finding a forever romance just means the world to me, you know? Ok byeeee

Wait but first you know I had to link the song right? RIGHT?

The Stories Behind 9 Gay Ghosts — and Where to Find Them. But of course.

How Cozy Queer Icons Frog & Toad Inspire Me and My Home, this is such a dream!!

Queer/Women-Of-Color Owned TPK Brewing to Be First Tabletop Roleplaying Game Brewery in Portland (there are a lot of words smashed there together that I think you’ll enjoy!)

Saw This, Thought of You

This makes me so happy, I do not have the words to describe how happy it makes me. ‘What Stupid A–hole Babies’: Fiona Apple Claims Maryland Officials Blocked Access for Court Watchers Over Pretrial Detention Suit — Beyond this outstanding headline, the big Fiona Apple is a court watcher, which is a really excellent way to make a direct difference in our often fucked and unjust “justice” system and you should also think about it! It’s an important way to be an active part community care, and one we don’t talk about enough abolition (yes, blow it up, but what are we also doing right now to help people while it’s still here?) Here’s where you can learn more about getting started.

What if Fiona Apple makes court watching cool? What if all the cool kids start to do it? What then??

Political Snacks

Rishi Sunak Will Make History as the First Person of Color to Be Britain’s Prime Minister. The conservative and Tory leader, at 42 years old, is also the youngest PM since 1812 and the first Hindu at No 10. He’s also the third Prime Minister in just four months. Wanna dig in? Himani says that this is required reading, Why Indians Everywhere Feel So Weird About Rishi Sunak, and listen, I always take Himani’s suggestions on what to read.

As Republican Campaigns Seize on Crime, Racism Becomes a New Battlefront (and if you missed this from the weekend, you should read it first, for full context: Attack Ads Are Darkening the Skin Tone of Black Candidates)

This isn’t not related: Curtis Yarvin Wants American Democracy Toppled. He Has Some Prominent Republican Fans. “The New Right blogger has been cited by Blake Masters and J.D. Vance. What exactly is he advocating?”

Why “Inflation” Is Really about Housing—and What Democrats Need to Do About It (and I’m going to suggest reading that with: this excellent reporting from ProPublica, Rent Going Up? One Company’s Algorithm Could Be Why, and this realistic, grassroots level, shot of activist joy, The Rent Revolution Is Coming from the NYT, both are from last week)

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Carmen Phillips

Carmen Phillips is Autostraddle's former editor in chief. She began at Autostraddle in 2017 as a freelance team writer and worked her way up through the company, eventually becoming the EIC from 2021-2024. A Black Puerto Rican feminist writer with a PhD in American Studies from New York University, Carmen specializes in writing about Blackness, race, queerness, politics, culture, and the many ways we find community and connection with each other.  During her time at Autostraddle, Carmen focused on pop culture, TV and film reviews, criticism, interviews, and news analysis. She claims many past homes, but left the largest parts of her heart in Detroit, Brooklyn, and Buffalo, NY. And there were several years in her early 20s when she earnestly slept with a copy of James Baldwin’s “Fire Next Time” under her pillow. To reach out, you can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram, or her website.

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  1. Out of morbid curiosity, I read some of Yarvin’s substack, and it’s honestly kind of astonishing how much of his belief system comes down to ‘I live in a constant state of low-grade existential terror, leading me to perceive the world as a chaotic and scary place, and therefore want a big strong king to protect me from the things that I’m afraid of, which is basically everything.”

    (It’s also darkly hilarious that, if you go and read what his ideal system of government looks like, there’s already one nation that’s essentially put it into practice: North Korea)

  2. Okay but Mary Lambert got her rings from the same place my partner and I got our rings and her partner and my partner both got suits from Bindle and Keep, AND our partners are both from Western Mass BUT i got married 3 years ago. So what I’m saying here is that Mary Lambert is copying me.

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