High Femme: You’re On a Smoke Date, Dandelion!

Calling all Homoganjas! Let’s talk about anything and everything Marijuana related, from legalization to pop culture to how to make your own bong using a box of Diva cups and a broken lamp.

Whether you’re a newbie who doesn’t know a blunt from a joint, or you’re planning your gay dream wedding to Mary Jane, this column is for you. Puff, Puff, Pass.

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It’s Friday night. Or Monday night. Maybe it’s Tuesday afternoon. I don’t know your life. But that girl you’ve been swooning over is on her way over here. You know, the one who makes you hear strains of “Closer” in your head whenever you look at her? She’s coming over for a hangout. And she’s bringing an eighth of OG Kush. Time to put on a clean shirt and rinse that bong, because you’re on a smoke date, Dandelion!

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So excited about this Taco Bell run
Via fanpop.com

Smoke dates can have many advantages. Obviously, you’re relaxed enough in each other’s company to partake in semi-illegal activities together (unless you live in a progressive state and are a card-carrying medical marijuana user). Also, she doesn’t mind spending long periods of time with you. There’s no such thing as a “quick weed break.” Toking up is, by definition, a time-intensive process. You have the awkward small talk, the first spark up, the passing around of the goods before they are cashed out. Then you have the high itself, which will usually ground you for at least an hour, depending on your strain/tolerance. Then of course, there’s the procurement of munchies, and the eating of said munchies. Then probably another joint/blunt/bowl. We’re talking a good four or five episodes of Futurama here, so get comfortable. This might take awhile. But another human being wants to spend that much time with you! High five!

Music

First, turn off the Bob Marley. This isn’t Freshman year. We all know who shot the sheriff and the deputy too. Just play something mellow in the background or spin Carmen’s mix for smoking.

Talk About

+ Smoking. What you are smoking. Where you got it. How you are smoking it. What your preferences are.

+ ANYTHING pop culture related. Feel free to expound on your theories of Leisha Hailey’s Yoplait commercial, the tragic cancellation of Bomb Girls, or who the fuck A is. Because it’s gotta be Aria, right? I mean, come on.

+ Conspiracy theories! High people are drawn to conspiracy theories like moths to a dubious flame. Is Area 51 an alien think tank? Are the Illuminati running American Apparel? Are Tegan and Sara Quin THE SAME PERSON?

Do Not Talk About

+ Complicated geopolitical problems. Can you really be articulate about the global financial crisis when you’re tripping ovaries? Unless you’re an Aaron Sorkin character, the answer is no. It just took you twenty minutes to figure out how much to tip the pizza delivery guy. Slow your roll.

+ Sad personal stories. It’s awesome that you want to open up to this person. But now is not the best time. Serious stories are for sober moments, and you want their full attention to make sure you’re in a safe space. Also, nobody wants to harsh their buzz.

Recommended Viewing

Too Cute! Puppies is a real show that exists because America. It’s just puppies running around. It’s basically what plays in my head on a constant loop when I zone out. It’s possibly the greatest thing that has ever existed ever.

Cartoons: Simpsons, Futurama, Family Guy, Bob’s Burgers, Archer (Pam!).

Youtube videos of cats. EASY ENOUGH.

Honorable Mentions

The greatest Beyonce fan video of all time.

I love this video so much I want to marry it. I want it playing in the delivery room when I birth my children. I want it playing on a fixed loop on my tombstone like an eternal flame. This video completes me.

The Only Party Trick You Need

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Shotgun Kissby Megan Allard
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Ah, the time honored tradition of shotgunning aka the blow back. It’s silly, it’s sexy and it gets your mouth in very close proximity to her mouth. Shotgunning is a gateway drug to making out. Your basic shotgun is where Person A inhales and breathes the smoke into Person B’s mouth. Pretty simple.

Now for the advanced smoker: Person A takes the joint (WARNING: this only works with a joint!) and puts the lit end in their mouth. Person B then sucks on the other end while Person A blows. This has the effect of making Person A seem like a fearless, fire-swallowing badass. Just don’t lick the burning end, kids. Some of us learned that the hard way.

And Finally

Make sure to stay safe. Smoke within your limits. Don’t pressure your date or feel pressured to smoke more than you want to. Cannabis consent is sexy. And make sure everyone has a safe ride home and a soft place to crash. Because stoned cuddles? The best kind of cuddles.

Chelsea Steiner was born and raised in New Orleans, which explains her affinity for cheesy grits and Britney Spears. She currently resides in sunny Los Angeles, where she works as a screenwriter/blogger/sex educator. She's the writer/director of Thank You Come Again, a queer sex positive web series based on her experiences working the Pleasure Chest, which you can follow on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. She’s obsessed with dachshunds, Buffy, 90's dance parties, and roller derby. She loves the word "Jewess" and wishes more people used it to describe her. Follow her ramblings on Twitter and her cute puppy pics on Instagram.

Chelsea has written 46 articles for us.

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