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Issues The Resistance

The Public Education System Sucks (Especially for Queer Black Femmes)

If the Dean positions are largely dominated by men, guess who the most punished group in school is.

By Syd| May 12, 2020 | 2 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Stone Femmes and Coffee Sodas and Other Stories for Your First Day of Summer

Red lipsticks, coffee soda, Sephora’s beauty class for trans women, American Girl dolls, Steph Beatriz, soap operas, Janelle Monáe, Hannah Hart, a stone femme, and so much more!

By Laneia| June 21, 2018 | 9 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Lots of Truly Terrible News for LGBTQ People But Also a Queer Femme Fight Club, So!

We all need this queer femme fight club, the best songs of 1998, a photo project I’m yelling about, the female price of male pleasure, Jessamyn Stanley continues to be great, a Mr. Rogers biopic that no one asked for, and so much more!

By Laneia| January 30, 2018 | 8 Comments
Books

8 Soft Femme Memoirs for Your Femme But Not Too Femmey Needs

The following eight memoirs, which deal with gender, food, writing, relationships and more, reflect soft femmes, tomboy femmes, chapstick femmes, and other femmes who aren’t all that femmey.

By Casey| December 14, 2017 | 14 Comments
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Books Sex + Relationships

“Sex Etc” Is Changing The Conversation Around Femme Sexuality

“One way we can change the narratives around our sexuality and our erotic bodies is by taking up space as sexual beings and celebrating other women and femmes doing the same.” This zine is on it.

By Carolyn Yates| April 11, 2017 | 10 Comments
First Person Gender

What We Mean When We Say “Femme”: A Roundtable

We now live in a world where it is totally possible to claim the same word as someone else and completely disagree on what the word means.

By Cecelia| July 18, 2016 | 175 Comments
Music

VIDEO: GAYmous’s “Femme on Femme” Will Cast A Disco Witch Sex Coven Spell on You

GAYmous’ new video has everything: crystals, spells, tarot, candles, bondage, glitter, and hot femme on femme action.

By KaeLyn| September 25, 2015 | 19 Comments
Music

The Inaugural GAYmous EP Is Queer Synth Slut-Step for You, Me, and A Bottle of Lube

PizzaCupcake and FXBoi just wanna “make queer dance music that’s made for queers by queers.” We review their new album and give you a little teaser about their upcoming music video for “Femme on Femme”!

By KaeLyn| April 28, 2015 | 21 Comments
Society + Culture

Jack Tar 207’s 50 Fierce Femmes List Features Familiar Faces: Mey, Aja and Bevin!

Mey! Aja! Bevin! We love you so much, you fierce femmes!

By Hansen| June 16, 2014 | 17 Comments
First Person

Beyond Definition: On Queer Black Love and My Kaleidoscope Identity

“My queerness was exactly the durable and malleable fabric that brought me here to this love. I am so grateful to finally have this powerful Black revolutionary in my life, I am thrilled about the quickly manifesting potential of our combined energy that nurtures creativity both for ourselves, our kin and our community.”

By KimKatrinCrosby| June 10, 2014 | 12 Comments
Music

Playlist: Getting Ready for a Femme Meetup

No matter what you like to do to express your own personal brand of Femme, this music will help you get there.

By Mey| May 23, 2014 | 18 Comments
First Person

When Do I Finally Get To Belong? On Being Both Native and Queer Enough

How do I move past only feeling Native based on whether I fish or know the traditional ways? How can I push past feeling like my queer identity is tied to how much I listen to Uh Huh Her?

By Kirsten| January 6, 2014 | 53 Comments
Fashion/Style

Spice, Smoke and Other Holiday 2013 Makeup Trends (for Brown-Skinned Folk)

It’s cold outside, so heat things up with warm, spicy colors and dark smokey eyes. Nothing’s hotter than copper, cinnamon and mulled wine or more festive than emerald and cobalt.

By SJ Sindu| December 14, 2013 | 12 Comments
Society + Culture

High Femme: What We Talk About When We Talk About Weed

So consider this a primer on the origins of our most basic weed words, or as I like to think of it, a stoned version of More Than Words.

By Chelsea| December 3, 2013 | 27 Comments
Fashion/Style

Queer Outfit of the Week: Throwback Party with Childhood Friends

Are you ready to see every kid who went to your high school all at one party? You better be because it’s Thanksgiving weekend. Grab your favorite blazer in preparation.

By Lizz| November 28, 2013 | 16 Comments
Straddleverse

Get Involved & Spread the Word: Thanksgiving Day Body Support

This Thanksgiving, we want to make sure that you get the support, resources, and community that you need!

By Bevin| November 27, 2013 | 5 Comments
Society + Culture

High Femme: Holigay Gift Guide 2013

So here, for your careful consideration, are some highly specific gifts for the various smokers in your life. Everyone loves presents, and everyone agrees that candles as gifts are fucking bullshit.

By Chelsea| November 26, 2013 | 21 Comments
Fashion/Style

Holigay Gift Guide 2013: Femme Witch Coven

Looking for the perfect gift for the Spooky Femme in your life? We’ve got all the black dresses, atmospheric accessories and black cats you could ever want.

By Mey| November 26, 2013 | 29 Comments
Straddleverse

Straddler On The Street: Natalie

Natalie describes herself as a completely open book, and she’s not kidding! We talked about her transition, building community, and the pros and cons of living in rural Wisconsin.

By Vanessa| November 25, 2013 | 63 Comments
DIY/Crafting

High Femme: Today Is The Day We Learn To Make Tampon Pipes

Welcome to your newest favorite concept, “There’s A Pipe For That!”

By Chelsea| November 19, 2013 | 25 Comments
Camp

A-Camp October 2013 Recamp #3: If You Wanna Be My Lover, You Gotta Get With My Carnival

We sang, we danced, we laughed, we cried, we bobbed for apples, we got a bear hug, and we lived to tell the tales!

By Riese| November 15, 2013 | 61 Comments
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