Girl-in-Sydney, Australia: Crystal Does Lesbian Nightlife, Discovers They’ve Got Their Own “Chart”

Today’s Girl-in-the-World feature comes from our regular writer Team Autostraddle Member Crystal! Here she is …

dykes-on-bikesI used to be a regular in Sydney’s gay scene but then dropped off the grid a few years ago. I’m not sure why, exactly. Maybe it was because I married my job, or bought a TV, or started falling for straight and closeted girls. Whatever the reason, I’d left and never looked back — until a few weeks ago, when I began my preliminary research for this piece on Sydney, Australia’s Girl-on-Girl culture. It’s been an interesting exercise in passing off drinking and befriending girls as “reporting” and though I couldn’t get to every girl bar and event in town, I hope to give you a look at the things that occur in the city every week. That way, when you travel to Sydney (and you must!) you’ll know exactly where to go and when. Or where NOT to go, depending on how well I sell this in. Part One will cover “The Bank” in Newtown.

For those of you aren’t familiar with my hemisphere: Sydney’s gay culture is quite prominent and on par with cities like San Francisco, Paris, Barcelona and Amsterdam. Sydney hosts one of the largest Pride events in the world, the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, and this queer-loving city fits in quite well with our relatively queer-tolerant country. Well … tolerant unless you want to get married. Of course there’s always the option of having a commitment ceremony, but it would be as legally binding as the weddings I used to throw for my Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles figurines. Australia isn’t perfect, but I still feel fortunate to live here.

Going into this adventure, I did wonder what’s changed since the heydey of my sparkling youth. Nervous about being around lesbians en masse, I called my friend “Roxy” (alias used upon request) to see if I could tag along to some girlbars with her “crew.” That’s what the kids are calling their cliques these days. Roxy’s a scene regular, a young, bright-eyed and less cynical reminder of myself a few years ago, except more hip. Thankfully she obliged, and now I’m going to take you there.

For the ladies in Sydney, most of the girl-on-girl action happens in or around Newtown, an alternative inner-city suburb where I’ve lived in or near for most of my adult life. Its draw card is King Street, a busy strip lined with cafes, pubs and all the vintage clothing, record, art and book stores that you can handle. I was drawn to Newtown as a teenager because it was one of the few places I could go where I could just be me. No-one ever judges in Newtown, no-one ever looks twice.


Velvet Wednesdays @ The Bank Hotel – King Street, Newtown

Many years ago, The Bank hosted the first girl-on-girl event I ever attended — unintentionally. I was meeting my straight friends for drinks on a Wednesday night, unaware that there was a weekly girls-who-like-girls party happening in the upstairs space. After twenty minutes of watching hot girl after hot girl pass by my table, I abandoned my group and headed upstairs to join them. I kept going back.

Sure enough, Wednesday nights at the Bank are still thriving.

the-bank-exteriorTwenty pairs of eyes follow me as I walk through the door, giving me a quick once-over before moving on to the next newcomer. It feels somewhat predatory, I half-expect David Attenborough’s voice to replace Beyonce’s over the PA system any moment now: “With fresh prey in their midst, the predators’ senses are heightened. They’ve been playing the waiting game for several hours.”

When I first walked into the Bank as a slightly cocky 20-year-old, I liked the feeling of being stared at by so many girls at once. Now it just makes me feel self-conscious.

Upstairs in the Velvet Room (“where out is always in”), my senses are assaulted by Everybody’s Free (To Feel Good) and equal proportions of Hugo Boss and CK Eternity. The place is jam-packed except for the very centre of the room, which is occupied by the few girls who were not prompt enough to have secured a piece of wall or a railing that they’ll casually yet pointedly lean on for the remainder of the evening.

I scrawl in my notebook: The Lean. I love the lean. You know who has a nice lean?


Roxy and co. scatter, and honestly, I try to blend in but this place is kinda cliquey. There are clear divides: there are thirtysomething women in power suits sipping wine in booths, the Shanes standing sulkily in the corner with skinny jeans & skinny ties appropriately hanging from their skinny frames. Jockish looking girls with popped-collars are standing by the bar, chain-smoking model types in designer denim & stilettos are out on the balcony, and indie girls are decked out in their cowboy shirts & faded jeans are standing along the back wall. Here and there in between are the strays, girls of all descriptions standing alone, trying to look busy with their iPhones while their friend/s hook up nearby.

I’ve been there, I feel for them.

Charlie, a straight girl from Roxy’s ‘crew’, points out that this scene is like the high school dance, but instead of girls on one side and boys on the other, you’ve got girls and girls and more girls and a whole lot of space in between them. She’s bang on. As we stand there we observe each girl sticking to their own group of friends or piece of wall, but throwing come-hither looks to other girls across the room. Here, being able to hold a conversation while looking over your friends’ shoulders is a must-have skill. I point this out to a girl named Mel, who laughs and agrees, “We’ve been having a conversation for about ten minutes, but the whole time I’ve been looking over your shoulder.” She points behind me, to one of the Shane girls in the corner. I’m not at all offended, I was too preoccupied with checking out one of the power suit ladies to even notice.

Charlie, a straight girl from Roxy’s ‘crew’, points out that this scene is like the high school dance, but instead of girls on one side and boys on the other, you’ve got girls and girls and girls and a whole lot of space in between.

I’ve only been here for an hour but I’ve been quick to acclimatise; I’ve stuck to my clique, I’ve found my wall to lean on, now I’m no different than any other girl here.

My notebook says: When in Rome.

Mel claims she doesn’t come to the Bank very often because she’s not really into the scene. She won’t elaborate, and I get the feeling I’ve just been humoured. But she does clue me in to one highly amusing fact: the girls in Sydney have their own Chart. Yep, like the Alice Pieszecki Chart. None of the girls would hand over the web address, but some intensive computer searches eventually produced it. I’m not going to link to their Chart for (probably) the same reason they wouldn’t have wanted me to see it – it’s an invasion of privacy, no-one asks permission or fact-checks before adding names to the list.

I move to the balcony and start talking to a group of tall blondes who are visiting from New Zealand. When a lone male approaches, they all clap and cheer enthusiastically.

My note says: Unexpected! underlined just as enthusiastically.

I venture out to the balcony to relocate my new crew and I’m surrounded by girls making out with reckless abandon, including my pal Roxy, who’s being auto-straddled by a girl she met approximately one hot minute ago. In the far corner, two young baby dykes suck face like they still live at home and they probably do. At the table next to me, an overly confident girl struts up and kisses one of its occupants, her friends’ shocked reactions quickly morphing into audible sighs. Heartbreaker.

I should probably note that I’m not drinking or even really talking to anyone tonight – I’m just sitting and observing and scrawling like a weirdo.lesbian-bar

But no-one cares, because as cliquey as this place may be, it’s full of good and accepting people and it always has been. These people allow you to create an atmosphere that is exactly what you want it to be. Exciting. Relaxing. Strange. Sleazy. Fun. Sexy. Trashy. Classy. Dirty. It’s the thing I love most about this place.

It approaches 11pm, the time that all the girls from the Bank migrate to a pub called The Sly Fox, in the neighbouring suburb. I seek out Roxy, who is now at the bar making out with a new girl in exchange for shots. When she comes up for air she declares we need to “gather the crew and bounce!” before charging off towards the door.

My note says: Drunk is more fun than sober.

As I’m about to exit, I see Kendall. She’s a musician who I used to hang out with here, and I notice her walk in because it’s impossible not to. Like so many girls, we met because we had either made out, dated, dated each others exes, or all of the above. I follow Roxy out the door but not before telling Kendall that I’ll return later in the night to catch up …

… and the rest of this story  — as well as our trip the next night to the uncomfortably-titled Snatch ‘N Grab — will have to wait for Part Two …

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!


Founding member. Former writer. Still loves Autostraddle with her whole heart.

Crystal has written 320 articles for us.


  1. sounds EXACTLY like Slacks in Toronto. I guess they (lesbian bars) are all the same.

    • Is Slacks a ladies bar? I’ve always wanted to go to Toronto – maybe you should be our next Girl in the World…

  2. I just think this post is really lovely. It’s a story about a subject — facts, locations, quality of fun — and it ends up being about truth and who we are relative to the crowds we associate with, and that’s really awesome. And I’m happy to have it here. That being said, I have unsuccessfully googled “the chart” in Australia. Dammit.

  3. Haha I thought about googling the chart too.
    “My note says: Drunk is more fun than sober.” Wee! Your notes are awesome. Can’t wait for part 2.

    • I’m going to be honest here – the quote was originally “Drunker is more fun than sober”, but I edited it so that it looks like I have a better grasp on the English language than I probably do.

      Ah, yes, you won’t find the chart via Google. A social networking site, on the other hand…

  4. Yep, that’s the Bank. And everyone (guilty as charged) says “Yeah, I don’t really do the scene that much, I don’t really like it”.

    • A Sydney reader! Yay!
      It’s good to know that it’s common practice to deny doing the scene. It’s an interesting thing to deny, although it does explain a lot of odd conversations I had.

    • i wanna go with my friends in a lesbians bar…do you think th ebank is not good???tell me some good place to go…in oxford street is just for men!!!!ufffffff

      • The Bank is good! It’s easy to poke fun at it, but I do recommend you check it out. I suggest you also check out, they maintain an events calendar that is good for finding out when and where there are events happening for the ladies specifically.

  5. I really loved this piece. Makes me wanna go survey the scene w/ Crystal and the koalas.

    I have to ask, did she write that ‘lean’ line, or did you add that Riese? Either way, it made me giggle. Esp. the graphic.

    So so good all around.

    Keep the goodness coming, ladies of the future.

    • Thanks! I don’t have design talent like yourself, however last month I leaned how to use Microsoft Paint and since then I have been UNSTOPPABLE. Making screen shots of people from the TV speak is my new favourite trick.

  6. Great piece there :) I’ll be sure to check out newtown nightlife from now. the city’s getting a little same old same old. lol.

    • Thanks for reading. I highly recommend Newtown as a place to hang, no matter which night of the week there’s a really good vibe in all of the pubs and bars.

  7. I’ll be in Sydney in a month or so – thanks for the info! Looking forward to part two…

  8. classic! it’s funny to read about a place I hang out at a lot. and being in NYC at the moment, I can tell you that yep, the lesbos and their bars are pretty much all the same, right down to the music. the only difference is here, I don’t know every second girl so I hang out by the bathrooms like a creep cause i’ve arrived too late and it’s the only place left to lean.

  9. i’m going there tonight! I’m just visiting sydney for a quick 2 week holiday, super random, jumped on my friend’s trip basically and ended up here. this chick that she knows said she’d take me out so i could experience something other than west hollywood’s truckstop. so excited to see it!



  10. Hello from Brisbane!

    Have you checked out Gurlesque yet? I’ve heard awesome stuff about it and I really want to go, but don’t have the resources to go to Sydney just yet.

    Let me know if you’re up here sometime :)

    • No, I haven’t heard about that one – I admittedly don’t know too much about nightlife in Sydney for girls who like girls. The only girl-oriented event that I enjoyed (Snatch & Grab) recently ceased operating and I’ve taken it as a sign that it’s time to quit gay bars.

Comments are closed.