First Rule of Boycotting Club Is No Gays Allowed

Boycotting is a practice older than America itself; even back when we were still a colony of Britain, we were refusing to buy things from people we disagreed with. You may have heard of the Boston Tea Party, in which colonists tried to send three shiploads of tea back to Britain in protest, and when they weren’t allowed to they threw it in the harbor instead. Even if that doesn’t ring a bell for you, you might think that it would at least mean something to THE TEA PARTY. But given the flak that queer activists have been catching for boycotting efforts, it’s apparent that the loyalty to the founding fathers’ mythology stops at their being unrepentantly upper-class, white, male, and privileged.

Earlier this month, Focus on the Family complained about gay activists who were upset about corporations’ (like Toms or Starbucks) ties with anti-gay organizations, claiming it was an example of “a growing trend of activists putting pressure on companies to be pro-gay.” Essentially, they claim that corporations like Target are being bullied by the queer community.

Now, the Family Research Council has gone on CBN News to discuss how gay activists “urge retailers to discriminate against customers who hold a traditional view on marriage.”

Joe My God puts it best:

When anti-gay Christianist hate groups call for nationwide boycotts of LGBT-friendly companies, that is a righteous use of the free market in order to preserve morality, marriage, family, and the American way. But when GAY groups use or threaten the use of a boycott, THAT is homofascist intimidation, intolerance, bullying, and an attempt to deny the freedom of speech.

What nationwide boycotts of LGBT-friendly companies? Well:

+ There’s the 2004 “pro-family” boycott of Procter & Gamble by the American Family Association and Focus on the Family because of its support for “homosexual marriage.”

+ In 2005, Focus on the Family and the AFA boycotted Kraft Foods for its proposed sponsorship of the 2006 Gay Games.

+ In 2008, McDonald’s cut ties with the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce after a five-month American Family Association boycott.

+ Just this month over 540,000 people have committed to boycott Home Depot because of its “support of homosexual activism,” again courtesy of the AFA.

+ And this year, many GOP groups and politicians (as well as Focus on the Familyboycotted the Conservative Political Action Conference because GOProud was cosponsoring it — aka making sure it happened. 

 So, it seems fair to say that referring to value-based boycotts as “discrimination” while your own community doing the exact same thing is “pro-family” is a little hypocritical.

Boycotting any organization or company is an option that’s always there for anyone; it’s a hugely important tool for social change in a democracy that often doesn’t represent the needs of many communities effectively. For example: in 1965, the Mexican and Filipino farmworkers of California were at an extreme disadvantage, and their employers were free to deny them basic rights and protections with no consequences. After negotiating, agitating, and even hunger strikes failed to convince employers that workers deserved basic rights like a 40-hour workweek, organizers Cesar Chavez and Dolores Huerta initiated a nationwide grape boycott and strike.  Supported by a fiercely devoted group of union members and sympathizers who put together “picket lines and marches, signed petitions, supported labor laws, lobbied elected officials, distributed educational flyers, produced documentaries, penned songs, performed plays, [and] held teach-ins,” the grape boycott finally succeeded after five long years and many lives lost, when workers won a union contract.

The story of Chavez and Huerta’s campaign may seem unrelated, but it’s not just important for labor history; it’s an important and inspiring lesson about how economic power can be harnessed by otherwise extremely marginalized groups when the primary power structure in place can’t or won’t meet their needs. When the queer community does successfully draw attention to an issue via a boycott, like we did with Target, or makes a major corporation like General Mills sit up and take notice, it’s an activist workaround to address the fact that our elected officials don’t advocate for us. It’s one of the most effective ways we have to do it for ourselves.  And that’s really why Focus on the Family and the Family Research Council are in a huff about it — it’s not because it’s discriminatory, it’s because it’s working.

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  1. Not only is this a complete and blatant hypocrisy, it doesn’t make any sense. How does demanding that the only change be made be one of equal treatment of a group discriminate against another group? Nothing at all changes, they have their rights as they always have and none are taken away.
    Nonsense. Why is it always nonsense with these people?

    For Women.
    For the Love of Women.

    • I think “Why is it always nonsense with these people?” pretty much sums up everything I feel about them. They are always so ridiculous and hypocritical it would be funny if they weren’t so hateful.

      • The first thing you need to understand is that conservatives are constitutive hypocrites. Once you realize this, you will never be surprised, only disgusted.

      • Re: Why is it always nonsense?

        Because they have nothing else to back up their viewpoints EXCEPT nonsense. Like how they always just make shit up when fighting against gay rights in court. It’s nauseating.

  2. It’s true. This is so absurd, but unfortunately not surprising. It reminds me of the logic my girlfriend’s 5 year old niece used during our last board game. The moment she wasn’t ahead anymore she quit and exclaimed “If you’re winning then you must be cheating!!” Since she’s 5, we thought that was funny, however, “grown ups” using this logic is so far from humorous. :/

  3. Homofascist is my new favorite word. It makes me think of beautiful gays in military-inspired fashion.

  4. Can’t we just tell Focus on the Family to fuck off? Surely, they’ve done enough harm to satisfy themselves by this point.

  5. “corporations like Target are being bullied by the queer community”
    “gay activists urge retailers to discriminate against customers who hold a traditional view on marriage.”

    I… wow. That is just… malarkey.
    I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.

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