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Against Dating Around the Holidays

Holiday dating has a glow to it, the way everything looks better under low light. It’s easy to mistake that…

Titeänyä Rodríguez

Dec 22, 2025

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The Bittersweet Magic of Falling in Love with My Best Friend During the Pandemic

“As wonderful as this time together has been, as close as we’ve gotten, we both know that once the world opens up a bit more, we’ll finally get to have…

meg

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Apr 12, 2021

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is An Erotic Fairytale

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is An Erotic Fairytale

An erotic witch comic, the new hot dating app keyword, why asexuality should be part of sex education and more.

Ryan Yates

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Apr 11, 2021

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15 Robes for Gay Divorcées

Although not everyone is lucky enough to be a hot gay divorceé (yet! Life is long, stay positive!) everyone can get into the staple of the gay divorceé wardrobe: the…

Rachel

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Apr 8, 2021

A black-and-white photo of Michelle Tea seated in a room full of books with a large-format book in her hands, leaning back and laughing; the photo is juxtaposed with the cover of the book This Is How We Come Back Stronger

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Four Months

“This was after that night, when I moved into the guest room with the little bathroom, when I moved my toiletries onto the shower floor, when I moved all the…

Michelle Tea

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Apr 6, 2021

A young woman with her hair in a bun and wearing a college hoodie leans up against a window at night, staring at the screen of her smartphone with a serious expression

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You Need Help: Is It a Crush Or Am I Just Lonely in Quarantine?

“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Apr 6, 2021

sex

#PolyamoryProblems: How to Approach Safer Sex with Multiple Partners

Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen.…

DaemonumX

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Apr 5, 2021

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Reading Horny Ship Fanfic

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Reading Horny Ship Fanfic

Why people are bad at discussing sex, meeting up with internet folks you met in quarantine, how to make small talk when you do, and more.

Ryan Yates

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Apr 4, 2021

A light-skinned person wearing sleep shorts and an oversized t-shirt sits on the edge of a bed, hands clasped over their crotch protectively. They might have vaginismus?

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Is Vaginismus Making Penetration Painful? Here’s What It Is and How to Treat It

Vaginismus can get in the way of essential practices and pleasurable activities, like penetrative sex, penetrative masturbation, inserting tampons or menstrual cups and receiving pelvic exams. But with the right…

Ro White

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Apr 2, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

What I Learned From 3D Printing My Own Sex Toys

The idea of a machine that can make stuff in my house has stuck with me since my earliest exposure to sci-fi.

Summer Tao

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What a Sex Toy’s Color Says About It

The vibes have vibes.

Summer Tao

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Dec 4, 2025

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You’ve got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

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Feb 8, 2024

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

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Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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