Bridal Magazine Rejects, Then Accepts, Ad Featuring Lesbian Couple After Internet Feelingsfest

The women behind Weddings Unveiled magazine have carved out a space (albeit a small one) for same-sex couples in their magazine, ringing in their next issue with the publication’s first-ever advertisement depicting more than one bride. But it wasn’t that easy.


Anne Almasy is a wedding photographer based in Atlanta with a portfolio full of Georgian brides and grooms alike helping to bolster her local reputation. She made the decision recently to begin advertising, and selected Weddings Unveiled for her first excursion into mass media. By now she’s been photographing ceremonies for ten years, and she selected her image of choice – two brides kissing at their wedding ceremony – “because, to me, it says love. It says home. It says joy.” She submitted the advertisement for review on Valentine’s Day.

The response was a knee-jerk reaction: the magazine editor called and asked if she could select another image. “We just don’t feel comfortable publishing an ad featuring a same-sex couple,” they told her. “I’m not saying we won’t ever publish a same-sex wedding,” they continued. “It just isn’t the right time.”

Almasy made the decision not to re-submit with a different image, and instead posted an open letter to Weddings Unveiled on her website:

As I write this, I’m shaking. […]

I’m shaking because I’m so angry. I’m shaking because I’m so hurt. I’m shaking because I was so, so naive.

Are there people who might have been offended or put off by this ad? I’m sure there are. But this ad wasn’t for them. This ad was for people who love black and white photography; this ad was for people who love a portrait taken in a warehouse stacked with bags of coffee beans; this ad was for people who love big puffy dresses; this ad was for people who love love.

My heart breaks because you could not see that this couple’s wedding portrait is every bit as beautiful and valuable as any other couple’s.
My heart breaks because you could not see beyond your fear, and into the warmer, brighter future that WE are responsible for building.
Someone has to be first.
Someone has to forge ahead.
Someone has to march.
Someone has to refuse to move to the back of the bus.
Someone has to see these two beautiful, brilliant women in love and know that there is nothing more right in the world than this couple.

Dear, dear Weddings Unveiled, my heart breaks because you could not find it within yourself to be that someone.

Weddings Unveiled has a national distribution network and is sold in flagship book stores across the country, but is specifically targeted toward southern states. Terri Ireland and Brooke Thomas, the co-founders of the publication, describe it as “reflective of the South’s modern sophisticate.” In its media kit, most spotlighted audience locations are “Bible Belt” states: Georgia, Tennessee, North and South Carolina. (The only city listed that is above the Mason-Dixon line is New York City, where every single magazine that has ever existed probably rents office space.) Same-sex marriage isn’t legal in most of the states Weddings Unveiled targets, and most of those states are within a geographical location where same-sex acceptance is at a national low.


Unsurprisingly, a quick glance at the magazine’s content reveals that they don’t exactly do much to appeal to lesbian or gay couples, purposefully or not: zero of the couples featured in the magazine’s “Real Weddings” section, for example, are those with same-sex partners.

But Weddings Unveiled is also a business, and a magazine that is in a publishing realm constantly searching for money. Brides are niche markets, and you only plan a wedding once (or twice, or three times…) – and for that reason, turning down advertisers seems like, well, a pretty dumb move for a bridal magazine. After all, we know that nationally, people are coming around to the queers in their neighborhood – and that same-sex marriages bring in lots of money. Weddings Unveiled might be centralized in southern states, but national distribution ensures that many of the brides reading it could, in fact, be from regions where same-sex unions are legal, and may even be planning their own (strictly vegan) formal partnership ceremonies. The magazine itself boasts attracting national advertisers because of the decisions of many couples to hold weddings in southern states, be it for scenery or their familial histories.

The bottom line is that turning down a paid advertisement unaffiliated with your publication because it non-politically depicts a happy same-sex couple, in light of all of these opposing facts, still seems dumb. And so, Anne Almasy won, and was issued a formal and public apology on the magazine’s blog. Within it, Terri and Brooke explained that they themselves support same-sex marriage, and that the decision was not based on their own personal judgements:

We are Terri and Brooke, the publishers of Weddings Unveiled Magazine. We hope that you will allow us the opportunity to address an important issue that has angered and disappointed many people. We are incredibly sad that same sex marriage is still an issue in our society. When we were faced with the decision of whether or not to publish Anne Almasy’s advertisement, we acted in a manner that does not reflect our personal beliefs. We truly believe that all love is beautiful and that all people have the right to marry. You might ask that if we feel that way, then why did we make this decision? Honestly, we knew that everyone would not share our belief that all people have the right to marry. The issue is very sensitive and it is also very divided. We knew that it was possible that people would be offended if we published the ad and we knew that it was possible that people would be offended if we did not. We are so sorry that we acted out of fear and uncertainty. We had never been faced with such a decision and we should have acted with our hearts.

We are two women who operate a small business that we care deeply about. We love all weddings. We love all people and would never want to anger, offend or disappoint anyone. We are deeply moved by the outpouring of love and support for Anne. We are so sorry that we have disappointed you and we ask for your forgiveness. If Anne would still like to run her ad in Weddings Unveiled, then we would be proud to publish it.

Almasy accepted their offer, writing to them that she “couldn’t have imagined a better outcome.” She added, “I hope you have recognized the vast community of support you will have for championing what is right and true. I will gladly stand with you in this fight for equality and would be thrilled to move forward with this ad.” Her encouragement and excitement don’t seem, at the moment, to be at all misplaced. The feedback she has received online – ranging from messages of support to her own father’s tearful pride – is nothing if not an indication of times that are finally changing.

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Carmen spent six years at Autostraddle, ultimately serving as Straddleverse Director, Feminism Editor and Social Media Co-Director. She is now the Consulting Digital Editor at Ms. and writes regularly for DAME, the Women’s Media Center, the National Women’s History Museum and other prominent feminist platforms; her work has also been published in print and online by outlets like BuzzFeed, Bitch, Bust, CityLab, ElixHER, Feministing, Feminist Formations, GirlBoss, GrokNation, MEL, Mic and SIGNS, and she is a co-founder of Argot Magazine. You can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr or in the drive-thru line at the nearest In-N-Out.

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  1. I got a little teary just at the photo, what a bunch of cuties, but just openly bawling in front of my dog at this point, whatever.

  2. THANK GOD they’re opening up the gates of the wedding industrial complex to us!! It’s great to be included in one of the most racist, classist, antifeminist industries around — now we can be just like straight couples and enjoy the same freedoms to participate in oppressive systems that they do! Yayyy

    • The good thing about this isn’t necessarily the wedding industry in and of itself but rather the fact that this is a step towards allowing same sex couples to make their own decision as to whether or not they want to participate in it.

    • I’ve thought a lot about these arguments and why I disagree with them, as someone with no personal desire to get married myself. Here’s the thing: marriage as it stands is oppressive in many ways, it’s true. However, in expanding the category of “marriage” to include those whom it had previously excluded, the concept of marriage is deterritorialized and resignified. Institutions are not static, and the semiotic rephrasing of marriage corresponds to a socio-political modification of marriage as an institution. No, gay weddings will not change the institution of marriage overnight, and they will not obviate all its oppressive aspects, but they point towards its adaptibility, mobility, and capacity for further modification. They help us see that the social category of marriage is open to further intervention.

      No, I don’t think state-approved marriages should be the only legally-recognized, “legitimate” relationships. But by the same token, I sympathize with those who assert their right to marry just as everyone else, because they are equal to everyone else, and because in being denied this right, they are made subordinate. It’s a symbolic gesture as well as a pragmatic one, and I don’t blame anyone who wants to make it. There’s a notion I’ve encountered in queer politics that the goal of queer politics is to be at the vanguard of sex/gender politics, and that queer people who opt out are somehow failures or sellouts. To me this is absolutely wrong– queer politics should be about making spaces in society for queer people (however this may be defined) to lead livable lives.

  3. i’m impressed with their response and pleased by this story. thanks for bringing the funday on a day that is not sunday, carm.

  4. Let me be clear: I hate bridal magazines. I’ve been in no less than 7 weddings. I’ve suffered through dress shopping and fittings. I’ve trudged from venue to venue comparing themes and styles. I’ve tasted more appetizers, entrées and cakes than my poor waistband could bear. And I’ve feigned interest as I’ve ooh’d and ahh’d at far too many pages of bridal magazines. I. Hate. Bridal. Magazines. And yet, I happily ordered a years subscription to Weddings Unveiled in support of a small business that has just very publicly supported me. I, too, will “gladly stand with you in this fight for equality..”

  5. I love this outcome. Maybe stuff like this will begin to impact attitudes in the parts of the country where gay marriage is still so unsupported.

    IL is voting on Tuesday for gay marriage, which means my wife and I may actually get to go back to being legally wed!

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