Also.Also.Also: Dana Fairbanks Goes #Mamming While Wanda Sykes Follows Around Her Wife’s Vagina

Hello, goonies! I’m proud to say that since returning home from A-Camp I have only cried a couple of times and only one of those times involved a police officer! Everything is going so fucking well you guys! To prove it, I’ve got a bunch of stories we missed this week and only about 75 percent of them involve fucked-up stuff.

Love Yr Body

Happy Love Your Body Day! I hope someone is loving on your body right now.


Autostraddle Rules

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Keith Haring Lives

Haring’s ’87 mural in Philly is being restored, which fills my heart with a unique, rainbow sort of joy.


Gay Marriage Goes On

+ In North Carolina, another rogue county clerk is taking matters into his own hands. And those hands are making sweet queer love possible.

+ Reading about Utah’s gay marriage debate makes me want to bang my head against a table until I lose consciousness and forget what I was reading.

On one side, the state argues it has the right to set as policy an “age-old and still predominant” definition of marriage as a union of a man and a woman. On the other, the three couples say the choice of a marriage partner is a “fundamental right and liberty interest” protected by the U.S. Constitution…

The state argues the case is “really about who decides, not who is right in this important policy debate.”

+ Paging Chris Christie: JWoww hates your gay marriage problem. She told the New York Daily News she’s “coming after” you, and that “if you have a problem with two people being in love, and you’re against gay marriage, I have a problem with you.” Those are fighting words, and I watched some of The Jersey Shore. All I can say is: fall back.

You Should Give

322 Jefferson Street is “a short film that reckons with queer identities, the intersections of race and class, and what it really means to be a twenty-something striving to define oneself in a radically diverse city.” And the team has mere HOURS left to fund their dreams! Go save their butts, grasshoppers.

F*cked Up Shit

+ This Florida Republican thinks lesbian moms are kind of like drug abusers. You know, because… nope, still waiting for that one to make sense.

+ “Virginity Testing” is still a thing. Guess where? CANADA. My entire sense of the world is shaken.

+ Malala, the smartest sixteen-year-old girl of all time probably, recently dissed Obama for his use of dronesYou go, girl.

Celebrity Roundup

+ Melissa Harris-Perry recently tackled the sad state of media representations of black women.

+ Wanda Sykes will follow your vagina wherever it goes.

+ Tina Fey and Amy Poehler will be making your dreams come true at the Golden Globes for two years! But not the dream you have where they make out. That will most likely not occur. But then again, what do I know. Kids these days, y’know?

+ Laura Prepon went on Arsenio to state the obvious: that girls are soft, fun to kiss, and really awesome to shower with. DUH.


+ Dana lives. And she’s #mamming. And she wants you to do it, too. (Also, Stef spotted Kate Moennig on a plane AND in a grocery store. Coincidence? Fate? Only time will tell.)

Vanderbilt Gets Gay

Vanderbilt Divinity School in Tennessee just appointed Emilie Townes, an openly gay black woman, as their Dean. I’m not even fucking with you. HALLELUJAH.

The ordained American Baptist, who previously held administrative positions at Yale, is being described by the school as a “pioneering scholar in the field of womanist theology.”

“I am excited about becoming part of this slice of God’s cloud of witnesses as we shape ourselves into being responsive to holding traditions and the future together,” Townes said during her convocation address, as reported by Christian News.

“Not out of a sense that traditions are static but with an appreciation for the fact that they are dynamic and actually morph and change, though slowly at times. And also not out of a sense that the future is some magic potion that allows us to neglect the work we must do today.”
Townes’ partner, Laurel Schneider, also joined the Vanderbilt Divinity School’s faculty this year.

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  1. Mamming? That looks like life for every short, busty lady out there. I can speak from experience.

  2. Unpopular Opinion Time! I will not be participating in Love Your Body Day and here’s why:

    Because of my medical conditions, my body causes me severe pain every minute of every day, traps me in my home, and keeps me completely dependent on my parents for support. I will never, ever love that.

    But even before that happened, I used to get so angry when people would tell me “you need to learn to love your body,” as if that’s a prerequisite for being a “good” feminist or it signals to others that you’re some kind of enlightened being, rising above the societal brainwashing that all the plebs are still laboring under. I’m not interested in gathering Feminist Brownie Points.

    And even still, when that kind of smugness isn’t a factor, even if it’s a genuine, sincere desire for me to love my body: I don’t want to. After battling an eating disorder for half my life (and counting), it feels like all these well meaning “love your body!” things are just forcing me to obsess, obsess, OBSESS over my body just as much as my ED is. Just because it’s pushing in the opposite direction, doesn’t make it okay. For me, all I want is to be utterly indifferent to my body. It would be such an incredible, peaceful freedom to NOT consider or think about my body in any way that it makes me want to cry just imagining it. That’s all I want.

    But as always: You do you.

    • So hey, thanks for saying this. I battled an eating disorder for seven years, and the “You have to love your body!!” stuff always felt like such bs. I’m nearly four years recovered now, and nope, still don’t love it. Sure, I’m grateful most days that I made it through hell and back without dying and that I don’t have major cardiac or GI damage; sometimes I’m pretty satisfied with how my butt looks in a nice pair of jeans; some days I detest it, am convinced I look huge and want to burn all pictures of myself. I think it’s completely freaking insane to expect anyone with an eating disorder history to love their body all the time, and wildly unrealistic. My recovery worked out when my body image goal became “meh, I’m mostly okay with it.” That’s where I still am, and I’m pretty happy with it.

  3. The title of the article pulled me in but I was not prepared to have my day made. I will get some pretty impressive mamming done this month. MAM

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