Results for: be the change
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I Wish I’d Medically Transitioned Before Giving Birth
Less than a year after giving birth, I decided to medically transition. I wish I’d done it sooner.
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I Met My Sperm Donor’s Mom and It Changed Everything
As the daughter of lesbian mothers, I always knew I had a sperm donor, and that I could meet him when I was 18. I loved my moms; I loved my queer family. Still, I had always wondered what part of me was cut from a different cloth.
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You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
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The Illusion Of Safety
I don’t want to be caught parading around in last generation’s false sense of security. I’m kicking off Autostraddle’s first Asian Pacific Islander American (APIA) Heritage month by exploring the values my own South Asian and Japanese American parents and grandparents imparted to me, to learn to carry them forward.
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Queer Sex Coven: Protect Yourself From Homophobic Parents
Queers, allow me to introduce you to Saint Martha.
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How These Lesbian Couples Decided to Get Pregnant
For queer couples, deciding to get pregnant often involves a lot of planning, money, and time.
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She Never Liked Me Anyway
Dementia used to be called madness, I was told.
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Six Tips for Dealing with Your Difficult Family Members Over the Holidays
I’m sharing tips and techniques that have been useful to me in the face of conflict for those of you who’ll need to advocate for yourselves in difficult conversations and fight the good fight this holiday season. We can do this. Hopefully one day we won’t have to.
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Raising Baby T-Rex: My Mom Says We’re Exactly The Same
I wasn’t at all ready for the feelings I’d have about being adopted and queer and raising a toddler who still isn’t as old as I was when I came to the United States on an airplane.
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Making a Home in the Closet
I was a newly minted queer and everything I knew about queerness was rooted in coming out. I’d heard about the relief that came with coming out from everybody. If TV was to be believed, I would feel free even as my parents stopped looking me in the eye.
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Queer Crip Love Fest: Nana’s Stories and Ginger Loaf
“I think for many of us as disabled folk, we’ve come to terms with what we experience — but Nana’s experience of dementia is sort of different in that she doesn’t always know what’s happening or who and what she can trust. We can be empowered about disability at the same time as acknowledging that some of it really, seriously fucking hurts.”
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Y’All Need Help #16: You Can Do Things About You!
Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!
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You Need Help: Do I Really Have to Go to My Biphobic Brother-in-Law’s Wedding?
When an in-law has a terrible reaction to your coming out, do you still have to go to their wedding?
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Donald Trump Is President and I’m Adopting My Own Daughter
I choose her every minute of the day, and I will continue to choose her regardless of what the future brings. I choose her. For her, I will play the game and sign the papers, and ask the court to bless what we know is already true.
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Queer Crip Love Fest: I Wanted This Country to Be Better
“After any terrorist attack, we’re all sitting on the imaginary couch together being like, ‘Please don’t be brown, please don’t be brown, please don’t be brown.’ And it’s not even a joke.”
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Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family
“I sent a short, simple message saying that although I didn’t realize it fully until recently, I was indeed bisexual, that this was an undeniable part of my identity, and I could no longer comfortably hide this fact.
He never responded.”
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Countdown to Baby T. Rex: The Non-Gestational Parent Perspective and My Enduring Love for Pickles (37 Weeks)
“I think you underestimate the amount of time I spend thinking about Remi.” – Waffle
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Countdown to Baby T. Rex: The Seven Stages of Waiting (41 Weeks)
Our Leo/Virgo cusp baby is definitely moving into Virgo territory.
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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Countdown to Baby T. Rex: Crying Over My Multigrain Waffles and Whimsical Onesies (31 Weeks)
I started the 31st week of my pregnancy crying over the kitchen sink as I crammed my gestational diabetes breakfast into my mouth. It wasn’t the pregnancy hormones this time. It was the overwhelming grief and the sudden realization of what it means to be a parent.