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You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
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Rules for Being the Gay in the Wedding Party
I’ve been that one single, queer friend in the bridal party countless times.
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You Need Help: I Miss the Social Intimacy of Church
How can I build meaningful and lasting friendships?
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Help! My Friends Won’t Shut Up
Plus advice about leaving a controlling partner and getting second dates.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.
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How to Talk to Your White Friends and Family About Racism
As annoying as it is, probably, to hear it, you really have to lead with love. It’s not our responsibility to love people who hate us or wish us ill, but if those people are your friends or family, it is yours. If you genuinely care about your family and want them to be and do better, let that ground your conversation.
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Finding Friendship Between Past and Present
She is living her best life. I am living mine. It is as though we released each other.
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How to Make Adult Friends
“One thing most people don’t remember when approaching these kinds of situations is that the other person is likely terrified and nervous as well, worried about vulnerability and compatibility and wanting something too much.”
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Poly Pocket: Queer Platonic Love
How a a 28-year-old Chicana pansexual cis woman living in the Midwest, working in the sex industry, and in a long-term queer platonic relationship does poly.
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You Need Help: Making Friends as a Queer Adult
“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”
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Interview with My Queer BFF: Maddie Interviews Zoe
You were my queer spirit guide. You gave me a bunch of queer YA books over the first year of our best friendship. You said, “You didn’t have a queer adolescence, this is happening.”
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Gal Pal Chronicles: Rachel and Lizz Have Been Obsessed With Each Other Since Roughly 2008
Rachel: “The writing & philosophy class I was required to take freshman year mostly sucked. But there was this one girl, Lizz, who seemed cool. She wore comic book tshirts and had beautiful shiny hair. One day after class, I announced to a friend, ‘Lizz is not straight. I can just tell.'”
Lizz: “There was something about Rachel that I just couldn’t shake. She spent a lot of time quoting feminist theorists who I’d never heard of and she had what I would later come to call ‘Congenital Gay Face.'” -
The Speakeasy Presents the Magic of These Revolutionary QTPOC Friendships
Our QTPOC besties are vital to our existence so we wanted to create a list filled with our stories to celebrate just how magical they are.
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Interview With My Queer BFF: Laura Interviews Kate
“We were like, no, that’s just what people think! Like, very few boys are attractive, and lots of girls are. That’s just how the world is. ‘Isn’t that sad, that there are so few attractive men, and the ones who are just happen to be famous.'”
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Interview With My Queer BFF: Yvonne Interviews Mary
“Yup, we were just lesbians in a library. You know, just hanging out.”
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Interview With My Queer BFF: Dannielle Owens-Reid and Kristin Russo
“That’s when we slept in a bed together and when I woke up I said I missed you while I was sleeping.”
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How to Tell Who Your Real True Friends Are
“Go to your pantry and determine which shelf or space in the pantry is the dullest or darkest, ideally both. Remove everything from that space one item at a time. Put the cake mix in the farthest place back in that space.”
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Dear Queer Diary: On Pens As Secret Handshakes
According to one of my favorite children’s books, “The ballpoint pen has been the single biggest factor in the decline of Western Civilization. It makes the written word cheap, fast, and totally without character.”
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Dear Queer Diary: Friends That Journal Together
The briefest safari through the overgrown pathways of the fearsome Amazon indicates that there is an entire genus of the journal family that is marketed towards journaling partners—of both the platonic and romantic varieties.