“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
When you want your partner to be strong, dominant, demanding and strict, “What do you need right now? Can I make you a sandwich? Let’s watch your favorite movie!” is not a sexy reaction.
Happy Fisting Day! Celebrate by fisting. Also celebrate by voting no on Proposition 60.
Here’s how a single 20-year-old Latina queer polyamorous femme who works as a nonprofit employee and fetish model does poly.
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?
That’s what’s tricky about disabled sexuality: most people, disabled or not or anyplace in between, have no idea how to discuss it. So fear of “saying the wrong thing” takes over instead and the problem feeds itself. We never talk about it because we don’t know how to start.
“I’m not saying the only time you should play with safewords is in consensual non-consent. But to me, it’s the only time they’re really necessary.”
Oh, it’s definitely hot in here. Because of ~*lesbians.*~
“Being queer, Asian-American, femme, and gray ace — this is my identity and I get to choose what that means to me.”
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
A pile of gigantic, fiery-hearted monsters sleeping sweetly together is a good metaphor for this month. Even the gruffest, most cynical, and most wounded amongst us should be able to find some kind of sweet solace this month. But that doesn’t mean all our problems will disappear.
Using the Bouncer dildo is like fucking with kegel balls you can actually feel.
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
Josie Kearns is a 33-year-old queer, polyamorous, white, trans woman living in Chicago. She has been married for 12 years and also has a long-term girlfriend.
Be the daddy you want to see in the world.
“How could an incapacitated person feel let alone be sexy, I catch myself thinking. Now, when I have those thoughts, I take out my camera.”
The Unbound Box is a curated subscription box of sex toys and accessories that arrives quarterly.
“I want my friends to know who I belong to now,” rife said. “I want everyone to know I am taken.”
“Not leaning into change is a lot like staring at your house while it’s on fire.”
Welcome to Poly Pocket, a new series showcasing polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous relationships. Here’s how a married kinky butch/femme couple does poly.