How Do I Re-Friend-Zone My Friend After the Worst Sex of My Life?

How do you let her down easy when you never planned to for this? Because if the sex wasn't so bad, you'd probably still be hooking up...


So, there’s a girl in my friend group who I was getting closer to around the time that she and her ex broke up. We kinda started flirting a little bit but like, harmless flirting (we’re both queer and party a lot what are you gonna do). This eventually lead to a hook-up after we were the last people left at the bar after a group hang. We were drunk, it seemed like a fun idea. But actually it was not fun. It was some of the worst sex of my life and I don’t really have any interest in hooking up again. She sexted me the next morning about how hot it was and I agreed just to be nice, but have ...

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