Results for: the real l word
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13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex
“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.
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The Gay B C’s of Sex: G Is for Gold Star Lesbian
Put on your lesbian hard hats — we’re about to enter dangerous territory.
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Lesbian Weddings on TV: From Carol and Susan to Bette and Tina
The history of lesbian weddings on TV: parents refusing to attend, wild ’90s hats, untimely deaths, a weed brownie rave on the Eiffel Tower, an impromptu prison wedding, the union of two solo gems and so much more.
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How to Finger Your Partner When You Have Chronic Pain in Your Hands
A few minor adjustments can make fingering easier, even when chronic pain is cramping your style.
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You Need Help: My Partner Won’t Say “I Love You”
Is it silly to be hung up on this?
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Thank You, Ex: For the Baseball Jersey I Wore Constantly as a Baby Gay
Not everyone was surprised when I came out as a lesbian, but a few people were. Most notably: my boyfriend at the time.
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Homosexuals and Heterosexuals Exist, Says Groundbreaking Study
You have no idea how long it took me to figure out that this was the only definitive takeaway from this particular data analysis.
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You Need Help: I’m Too ‘Old’ for This New Generation of Queers
I’m so sorry the people you’re around have made you feel unwelcome because you don’t follow their narrow definition of what being a queer woman looks like.
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I Confronted My Girlfriend About Cheating On Me, She Responded By Coming Out as Poly
Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 208: When Your Friends Don’t Like Your Partner
Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s become an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Special Episode: 2021 Mailbag
Happy holidays! And by “happy” I mean, things sure feel really bad right now?? But luckily our gift to you is a virtual one AKA our long-awaited mailbag episode!
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 102: The Chart
This episode is all about lesbian interconnectivity — hooking up with friends’ exes, friends hooking up with our exes, and the culture created by all that drama. Come for the gossip, stay for the emotional processing.
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Yes, Some Of Us Use Dental Dams (And They’re Hot)
I attended the Chicago Pride Parade, where safer sex advocates tossed dental dams in shiny squares of plastic from a float. Thrilled, I swept them up, put them in my bag and promptly put them to use.
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 107: Love Is Not a Lie
Wipe away those break up tears because we’re going to show you that love is not a lie! This week we have Autostraddle editor and all around icon Heather Hogan talking about her 11 year(!!) relationship with her wife and all things long term relationships.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish
I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly made sense to me.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 201: Mommi Culture
Honey, we’re home!!!! “Wait, Is This a Date?” is back and we’re talking all things mommi culture! And all things dating as an actual mom!
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#PolyamoryProblems: How To Deal With Jealousy
This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards exploration and growth.
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“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 108: First Dates
It’s a CROSSOVER SPECIAL! We’re joined To L and Back Analyssa Lopez! We’re talking about first dates — the who, the what, the where, the why, AND the how.
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Don’t Let Your Nail Length Stop You From Having Great Sex
1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.