The Comment Awards Are Both Fascinating and Slightly Unhinged

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Hi there, bees and butterflies! It’s Friday! After I’m done here, I’m gonna make lox-cucumber toast! What’s for breakfast at your house?

This week, Janelle Monáe guest judged RuPaul’s Drag Race! 

This transported me right back to my grandma’s playroom, watching Nickdelodeon on the tiny TV on the dresser: Nine Boys From 90s Toy Commercials Who Have My Exact Same Energy.

Stef’s getting strong, and thinking about the power of movement. I LOVED this.

Mommi? Sorry. Daddy? Sorry.

Casey helped out a reader who wasn’t sure what to do about their crush!

The Last of Us is here, and already breaking my heart with how GOOD it is, and Valerie Anne and Nic are recapping it together!!!

Drew and Shelli Nicole had these thoughts as Sundance drew to a close.

For Black History Month, Autostraddle is partnering with SAGE to speak with Black elders in the community. Sai spoke to Ray Gibson, a Black trans activist and Air Force veteran. This project is SO exciting!

Vanessa’s getting married, and this week, she’s talking rings!

From Niko: Creating Trans Futures in “The Sims”. It might be time for me to play this game?

And then there were your comments!

On Drew Barrymore and Natasha Lyonne Say They’re Aubrey Plaza’s Mommy and Daddy, I Personally Won’t Recover:

The Agent of Gayos Award to Donna M:

So proud that my wife Natasha Lyonne is fathering children with Drew Barrymore, who has been an agent of queer chaos since she turned Darlene Connor gay in Poison Ivy.

On In 1994, Sky Dancers Informed The Tiny Femme I Was Becoming:

The Aggressive(ly Femme) Award to cleo:

NGL, when I saw the blurb about “aggressively feminine

On Word Search: Hetero Pessimism:

The Maroon Four Award to maybird (help, I am laughing so hard!):

my middle school science teacher was a straight person who was not okay. in the middle of class one day, he announced that his favorite band was “maroon four,

On You Need Help: Should I Tell My Crush How I Feel?

The Disposition and Intent of One Miss Lara Perkins Award to Sal:

This had me flashing back to L Word and the whole crew trying to find out if Dana’s chef crush was queer. :) Good luck, letter writer. May the sapphic force be with you.

On The State of Queer and Trans Film After the 2023 Sundance Film Festival:

The Ever So Fine, She’ll Toe the Line Award to JCF:

It’s evolving to see us as everyday folks who can be terrible, romantic, sweet, murderous — and also just happen to be queer.

On Gillian Anderson Wants To Know Your Sexual Fantasies:

The If These Tattoos Could Talk Award to @caitrw:

this book project sounds both fascinating and slightly unhinged, and while I understand why anonymity may be desirable to many contributors it feels like some form of compensation would be called for. but I mostly came here to say that you and I had parallel teenager diaries, Kayla. (I think even as a 14-year-old I understand that I was drawn to the talking tattoo episode mostly because it was the sexiest we ever got to see Scully.)

And on Blush and Bashful: You’re a Lesbian and You Want To Buy an Engagement Ring:

The Break the Paradigm Award to

I love Haley’s comment that “there are really no rules”. One of the things I love about being in a queer relationship is that we get to decide what traditions we keep and make things up as we go along. And that held true for our engagement rings. No one would look at our rings and think they are engagement rings. But they are and they are meaningful to us. Mine is twig-like with a tiny inset gem and my spouse’s is wooden with inlayed crushed stone.

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