If the performer had known that I write about the horrific violence against my community by day and process the trauma of that work in my journal by night, maybe he wouldn’t have made that joke. But I bet you he would have resented the implication that he shouldn’t.
“I remember everything: what normal felt like all through college in my relationship with her — an attractive and charismatic woman who was also a compulsive liar and an abusive lover. Of course it didn’t start out that way. Insane realities rarely do.”
Last night, Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson were arrested at their home. Johnson’s sister called the police after a fight between Griner and Johnson became physical.
Victims/survivors in general are expected to seek help from law enforcement to escape from abusive relationships, but the police are sometimes the most dangerous and threatening forces in the lives of marginalized folks, even those who have an abusive partner, friend, or relative. For that reason, community support is central to assisting victims and survivors of domestic violence.
“That instinct, to lie or protect the men who abuse us, is hard to explain. It comes from being afraid of the person who is abusing you, of course, but also afraid for the changes that honesty will force. We don’t want to endanger the men who hurt us, because we love them and we don’t think we can live without them… If anything, my identification as a feminist made the idea of disclosing the abuse even more difficult, because I thought it was something I was letting happen to me and it embarrassed me.”
Rape culture dictates that along with proving that they were raped, survivors must also prove that they fought “hard enough” to stop it. This bill could help.
On their Facebook page, the creators of Undercover Colors say they “hope to make potential perpetrators afraid to spike a woman’s drink because there’s now a risk that they can get caught.” But what about creating cultural shifts so that people don’t become violent assailants at all?
“The report reads like it comes from someone who just recently encountered the idea that sexual assault is a problem on college campuses, and was told to solve it in the most economically efficient way possible… “This is some bullshit,” an advocate told me anonymously.”
Being a survivor has taught me that resiliency is in the marrow of my bones and with it I can imagine a better world.
Organizations around the U.S. understand that the barriers queer people in abusive partnerships face are related to issues that are bigger than the relationship. They envision an end to all violence faced by queer people.
Women in the U.S. who have experienced domestic violence are more likely to have chronic health conditions. Healthcare professionals are still failing to adequately recognise and treat harm caused by domestic abuse.
Today the House of Representatives has finally passed the Violence Against Women Act – and it includes expanded protections for Native women and survivors in same-sex relationships.
“How do I deal with an assault that wasn’t rape? How can I keep from feeling like my assault is being minimized?”
“The further away I got, the clearer it became. She had been my first serious girlfriend after a succession of boyfriends, and I was more in love than I had ever been before. But the relationship stretched and accommodated behavior I likely would have never taken from a man.”
Republicans may have succeeded in making sure the Violence Against Women Act doesn’t have any protections for LGBT people — unless Obama vetoes it.
The Violence Against Women Act was going to be updated to include protections for gay people, undocument immigrants, and Native American communities, but House Republicans are doing their best to make sure it isn’t.
“Is the violence any less real, is the danger any less real because you happen to be gay or lesbian? I don’t think so.”
Ohio judge Paul Spurgeon ruled that because same-sex couples aren’t legally married, they aren’t entitled to protection from domestic violence.
Australian researchers found that gender-based violence puts women at a much greater risk of mental health problems. Hopefully the new guidelines around healthcare for women will help with that.
The State and Justice Departments are teaming up to give you kind of a nice Friday – it should now be a lot easier for trans people to get accurate passports, and new guidelines on partner violence are also going to apply to queer relationships. Also, gay Republicans at LA Pride, angry gay Bostonians, the superstar teen sailor is missing, Exodus International wants you to know it’s sorry but you’re still going to hell, and a Jewish/Arab lesbian feminist has some thoughts to share.