I’ve heard so many times that Asian America is about being caught tragically in the space between, never fully accepted in the U.S. and too Westernized to ever be Asian. Listening to my friends, I thought there was something defiant about singing in languages that we were told would never be ours, languages that this country wanted to force us to forget.
Being focused on women never seemed remarkable to me. I grew up in a household with my mom, my younger sister, and my dad, so even if we were just being fair, 75% of our time was focused on women. And we were not fair.
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“But for change to happen, for the community I want to grow, someone has to stay. Someone has to wear the flannel not just because of its function.”
In which I talk to my asexual brother about what they wanted and what they did when they first came out as ace.
When identity terms get thrown in the pressure cooker.
“At any given moment, you might turn into a rat, a demon, a werewolf, or a lesbian. In Sunnydale, no one was ever what they seemed, and by the time you’d figured someone out, they had already turned into someone else.”
Some have criticized Tarttelin’s protagonist as being unbelievably undisturbed and mainstream, but as someone who actually is intersex, I found his character so believable that I thought for a minute she might have modeled him after me!
Here’s the deal: I both like and am my body. I am a girl, ergo I have a girl’s body. It’s neat. You know what I think helped me to be comfortable with my body more than anything else? The US Army.
“After being mocked by an older family member and packing my Belle Barbie into a trunk forever, mannequins became my only access point to this latent desire to have nullified genitalia.”
Having the blessing – or curse – of lighter skin is a double edged sword. I never gave much thought to the idea that society needs positive cultural images of minorities until I came to embrace my Hispanic heritage and come out of the closet.
This begins with me already being a feminist, but ends with me making peace with being a woman.
“As a queer who spends a lot of time with other queers, rallying around our queerness, am I isolating those who have a more troubled history with the word?”
Sometimes you just want a role model.
“I’m rather tired of people reacting with shock when they find out I dress the way I do and identify as a bottom.”
The eyes are all asking are you in, or are you out?