Once I was out of an emotionally and sexually abusive queer relationship, I realized how lesbian memes can support unhealthy relationship dynamics. U-hauling and codependency didn’t feel like a joke anymore. I had to unfollow lesbian meme accounts to heal and learn new ways to approach queer love.
Carmen Maria Machado’s first memoir, a deep dive into abuse between women both in Machado’s past relationship and in our world, is a wholly unique and wholly necessary text.
Kate Brown, Oregon’s current governor, has already made a mark in history; she’s one of the few openly bisexual women in public office in the US. This week, she came out as a survivor of domestic violence during a debate with her Republican opponent, Dr. Bud Pierce.
It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.
Last night, Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson were arrested at their home. Johnson’s sister called the police after a fight between Griner and Johnson became physical.
From girl power to domestic violence, these are the ads screening during today’s big organized athletic event between two teams from I think the United States that have something in them for the rest of us. Mindy Kaling’s in one!
Victims/survivors in general are expected to seek help from law enforcement to escape from abusive relationships, but the police are sometimes the most dangerous and threatening forces in the lives of marginalized folks, even those who have an abusive partner, friend, or relative. For that reason, community support is central to assisting victims and survivors of domestic violence.
“That instinct, to lie or protect the men who abuse us, is hard to explain. It comes from being afraid of the person who is abusing you, of course, but also afraid for the changes that honesty will force. We don’t want to endanger the men who hurt us, because we love them and we don’t think we can live without them… If anything, my identification as a feminist made the idea of disclosing the abuse even more difficult, because I thought it was something I was letting happen to me and it embarrassed me.”
It’s not the focus on male victims of domestic violence that’s “misguided,” but rather fighting each other instead of the men at the top.
Being a survivor has taught me that resiliency is in the marrow of my bones and with it I can imagine a better world.
The second book to come out of the “Attention: People With Body Parts” project invites survivors of domestic violence to heal through discussions with their own body parts.
Organizations around the U.S. understand that the barriers queer people in abusive partnerships face are related to issues that are bigger than the relationship. They envision an end to all violence faced by queer people.
Women in the U.S. who have experienced domestic violence are more likely to have chronic health conditions. Healthcare professionals are still failing to adequately recognise and treat harm caused by domestic abuse.
“She acts like she’s such a victim when obviously there was abuse on both sides.” Awkwardly, I shrug my shoulders and look around the room. My partner doesn’t notice how uncomfortable she’s making me because she’s caught up in her own conjectures: “It’s like how we are sometimes.”
Australian researchers found that gender-based violence puts women at a much greater risk of mental health problems. Hopefully the new guidelines around healthcare for women will help with that.