It seems fairly evident at this point that “ex-gay therapy” is a) ineffective and b) a traumatic way of addressing what’s actually a totally normal and healthy identity. But there was a time when that wasn’t the case. Back in 1970 when Kirk Murphy’s mother entered him into ‘treatment’ by George Rekers, it seemed like the responsible thing to do. And as Gabriel Arana discusses in his fantastic piece “My So-Called Ex-Gay Life,” there were “sympathetic cover [stories] on change therapy” and full-page ads for it from Christian coalitions in the New York Times as recently as 1998. People could no longer really ignore the reality of homosexuality, but they were still able to hold onto the hope that it could be, if not cured, then at least mitigated; at least it could be successfully relegated to a corner of one’s life where no one else had to confront it.
A large part of that conviction was a study conducted by a researcher named Robert Spitzer in 2001. It didn’t claim that ex-gay therapy worked, exactly, but after interviews with 200 ex-gay patients, it came to the conclusion that “at least for a highly select group of motivated individuals, it worked.” Whereas most of the ‘research’ around ex-gay therapy was easily exposed as junk science or was clearly conducted by biased researchers, Spitzer had actually led the charge to have homosexuality declassified as a mental illness by the APA. It seemed like a study from Spitzer, of all people, that validated anything about ex-gay therapy was beyond reproach — and so the specter of “conversion therapy” was propped up for perhaps much longer than it would have been otherwise.
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But this week, Robert Spitzer has spoken out to retract that study. When Arana contacts him as part of his essay researching and deconstructing his own history with ex-gay therapy, Spitzer says that “the critiques are largely correct” of the study that has been cited so enthusiastically by so many anti-gay organizations. Ultimately, he says, his study only speaks to how (some) ex-gay patients speak about their own experiences. And as we’re well aware, ex-gay patients who report complete success in repressing their sexual orientation aren’t particularly reliable — Arana points out John Paulk, Richard Cohen, and Michael Johnston as a short list of examples. Spitzer says he’s tried before to speak with journals about publishing a retraction, but was declined; now he’d like to put the study to rest once and for all.
So far, only four months in, 2012 is a year of blows to anti-gay rhetoric and organizations. The revelation of NOM’s shockingly nonchalant race-baiting tactics lost them a lot of credibility with anyone who still believes they’re a credible organization. While ex-gay therapy has already experienced a serious decline — Arana notes that even Exodus International is now “encouraging its ministries to promote celibacy rather than change” — it’s now lost the most successful piece of “evidence” it had going for it, and it doesn’t have anything to replace it with. While some people still resist a shift in thinking — Arana (who has spent time institutionalized and suicidal) reports that his former “ex-gay” therapist asked him, incredibly, “For all this concern about how I damage people, where is the damage?… don’t you think there’d be a busload of people who are damaged?” — it feels like for most rational people, an acknowledgement of the facts as they now appear is obvious. If Arana talks about a sort of “golden age” of mainstream acceptance of the logic behind anti-gay rhetoric, we may now be seeing its end; an inevitable collapse of something that never quite held up under scrutiny in the first place. And while it may not have come quite in time for some, like Arana or his cohort of ex-gay therapy ‘graduates,’ it’s better late than never.
Life is like an April fool’s joke.
Most people just don’t realize it is April 1.
Ummm…. I don’t know if you guys have control over this (maybe it’s Google ads that determines this), but the ad in the top right-hand corner of the screen right now (where the o.b. ad usually is!) is for traditionalvalues.us and says “Homosexual sex acts taught in elementary school? Say NO! Sign the petition.”
Because, ya know, we’re all about the recruiting in the elementary schools. Very scary bunch, we are.
thats funny. My comp displayed a dating site for gay men. I guess both ads are relatively interchangeable.
OMG! I had to take a double look at that. I’m not sure if the ads are controlled or not.
Editors, in case the google ad disappears or whatever here is the info:
The ad is from traditional values.
Here is their website: http://www.traditionalvalues.us/SNDAbannerpetition1.aspx?pid=002a&gclid=CLGwq86Usa8CFWuHtgodBUlgFw
Oh lawd, you gals should see their petition…
I might shoot that lady an email:
Dear Ms. self proclaimed public advocate of the U.S,
I’m a radical whiskey drinking homosexual who rides on a rainbow spotted unicorn across the U.S promoting sexual promiscuity.
That is all.
Signed,
Your worst nightmare.
or
Your secret fantasy.
Definitely sign out as “Your secret fantasy”, it’s probs more accurate
I was looking up names for a character a while ago on a baby names site. Google ads has been convinced I’m pregnant ever since. Baby scans! Pregnancy clothes! BABEISSS EVERYWHERE!!
Ted Haggard just needs an apple in his mouth and he’ll be ready to “get porked” at the luau.
I dunno. For all I joke around with others here on this website and in real life, the truth is that I still struggle (a lot!) with what I “learned” in reparative therapy. Sometimes I still feel like since I didn’t change, God must hate me. And when God hates you, what’s the point, y’know? Of anything. It’s a rough rodeo to be in.
I guess what I mean to say is, yeah, the article is totes right. This stuff is a load of crap and it doesn’t change you, it just does its best to break you.
God doesn’t hate you because you didn’t change. God just wasn’t going to let them take away something He gave you. <3 Hang in there, Ar.
Same story here. We’re part of the busload I guess.
God doesn’t hate you. *hug*
God is a cultural construct, but we are real, and we love you!
It’s reasonable to suppose that God is *more* loving, understanding and compassionate than the average human being, and many human beings, straight and queer, recognise that there is nothing wrong with being LGBT. I can’t believe in a petty, hate-filled God, because that wouldn’t be ‘God’. Why would God forgive a mass-murderer who repented at the last moment, but have no place in his heart for an LGBT person who lived a loving, giving and caring life? It makes no sense.
The people who say that God hates and judges us say so because *they* hate and judge us, and they are projecting their own response onto God. They lack empathy, so they assume God does, too; that S/He is no better than they are.
Does God hate and judge the bonobos? Of course not. S/He made them that way. S/He made love and sex beautiful and joyful. It’s the haters and the fearful who try to make us think it is a bad thing, rather than a sacred gift.
You may like this article, if you haven’t seen it before: http://www.practikel.com/2012/01/27/christian-group-shows-up-to-chicago-gay-pride-holding-apologetic-signs/
“…full-page ads for it from Christian coalitions in the New York Times as recently as 1998.”
Yep, and how about there very NEARLY being giant ads on London buses for something similar, as recently as … this week! It’s 2012 FFS! How did this nearly happen?!
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/apr/12/anti-gay-adverts-boris-johnson
I was wondering when someone was going to post it – I was going to myself otherwise!
On the plus side, Stonewall has the London bus adverts at the moment and I saw one today and it was massively cool.
Opinion on the anti-gay counter adverts?
I’m a bit disgusted that the journals didn’t allow him to publish a redact.
I’m getting an ad up there for marylandmarriagealliance.com.
It says:
“Should the people of Maryland decide the definition of marriage? Click here to get your petition”
I clicked it because I wasn’t sure what it was about, but determined it’s definitely an anti-gay site.
Staff, please look into this – looks like Autostraddle is being targeted … makes me want to punch someone in the neck!
Thanks,
Jaime
Opposing marriage (equality) can be a queer stance as well:
http://behance.vo.llnwd.net/profiles16/257005/projects/3215301/hd_368f00beb4c16afadee0936d8c907dff.jpg
See, I think it’s fine to oppose same-sex marriage *for yourself*, but as soon as you try and limit what *other people* can do… gtfo.
Also, I find it highly suspect that Google brings up 0 hits for a “Gays Against Same-Sex Marriage Coalition”…
There is a range of grounds for opposing marriage, including nonsense as well as compelling arguments.
You know what, I think this topic would make an excellent article!
http://www.againstequality.org
A lot of those arguments are very sound socio-economic arguments, Dina, and hardly a question of infringing your personal right to partnership.
What I’m seeing there is actually something I support – defacto rights. I’m lucky enough to live in a country that has them! Australia extends defacto rights to all couples (but marriage only to opposite-gender couples, which obviously I don’t agree with). People who don’t want to get married don’t have to in order to secure rights for their partners and families.
But I do think there is value in having an institution as well for those who do want it.
I’m glad you see the similar goals of our two stances, because protecting rights are at the center of both (only, I would say the marriage-equality movement isn’t doing enough to protect *everyone’s* rights).
I am curious about where you see the value in the institution of marriage, when the oft-cited ‘redeeming factors’ such a commitment or social recognition can be equally obtained outside the institution. In other words, what does marriage give you that a contract or commitment ceremony does not?
Bhan,
I would say something very similar: I don’t care what you want for yourself, but don’t deny others their rights.
We both, I believe, want to protect rights: rights to medical care, adoption, custody, hospital visitation, inheritance, immigration rights, etc. Perhaps we can also agree that some people should not be given special privileges denied to others: tax incentives, banking privileges, societal recognition even.
You object to those rights and privileges being limited to heterosexual married couples, because you think same-sex couples deserve those rights too.
I object to those rights and privileges being limited to married (whatever their sexualities) couples, because I think everyone deserves basic rights.
Marriage as an institution excludes nonmembers from accessing civil rights. Everyone deserves civil rights, and marriage should, in Dina’s locution, “gtfo”.
Notice the name George Rekers in the beginning – one of the fix the gays people, and of course a baptist minister.
Cutie Georgie last year got caught taking a college student he rented from rentboy.com on a trip to Europe for 2 weeks.
The bullshitter claimed he needed someone to carry his baggage and apparently paid about $15000 for the rentall, the approx cost of a male escort for two weeks from the rentboy website.
As usual – its just a scam, but the big deal is the money these people fleece out of parent terrified by hateful churches that their kids are gay.
Bernie Maddoff comes to mind.
BTW Rekers also founded the hate group FRC. Showed the pix of the head, tony perkins and his sidekick peter spriggs to several gay friends.
Their conclusion – queer as a 3 dollar bill.
From the guardian article, in opposition to the homophobic advertisements:
“The emotional damage that is done to the individuals who try to suppress their sexuality, the WOMEN they marry and the children they might have is immeasurable,”
Is it just me or gay women frequently overlooked in these conversations?
It’s not just you. I think people frequently see ‘gay’ and think ‘gay men’.