“People grew up in church, so a lot of us lived in shame. What did we do? We wandered around lost. We married men, and then couldn’t understand why every night we had a headache.”

“It’s a tiny tiny tiny fraction of our population, one or two percent has this particular orientation and they dominate, dominate, dominate the news, it’s amazing.”

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gays! We love our villains!

Surprise! An extremist right-wing group is trying to strong-arm Jerry Brown and Arnold Schwarzenegger into defending Prop 8! But nobody has stronger arms than Arnold, don’t they know that? Also: international gay news including gay adoption in Australia and your Gay Republicans update.

There is no television character that gives me greater joy than the mean mom. I could blame it on many things: mommy issues, the fact that I started watching CBS primetime dramas when I was like nine, general homosexual unwellness — the list goes on.

There are so many myths about why lesbian bars close and/or don’t survive.

“I know, now the thought of sleeping in is just as exciting as a full blown affair to me.”

Lady gays abound on this week’s episode of Top Chef! Plus updates on: the season finale of This Is Us, Nancy Drew, Charmed, All Rise, and All American. Also, the trailer for the new gay Gossip Girl is here, you know you love us, XOXO.

Let’s sing about rainbows, follow @autostraddle on twitter, appreciate jezebel, party in who-ville despite the Mormons and start all over again with “How do You Like Us Now.”

Hawaii’s governor vetoes civil unions bill, Today Show excludes gays from its Modern Weddings contest and a lesbian is denied the malpractice settlement from her deceased ex-wife — seems gays can’t get a break in the US these days. It’s okay though, because new studies show that straight people are married & have kids & they HATE IT. But also there’s the super-cute new issue of gay wedding mag EquallyWed… gawd, it’s so hard to choose a number one feeling today!

According to the Victory Institute, there are 843 LGBTQ+ elected officials nationwide. But there’s so much more to us than just the numbers. Here’s your 2020 Voting Guide with every LGBTQ woman and non-binary person running for federal offices or seats in state legislatures, plus the statewide ballot measures we don’t want you to miss!

“It took me a very long time to come to terms with what I felt for girls. Not because of my own religion, but because of the religion and judgment of others, and because growing up in such a small town greatly limits what you see as viable options for yourself.”

“My Staff Pick today is ME. More specifically, my name — it’s not really Green. My name’s Laneia. Hi! I’m Laneia.”

Take a gay road trip to all 50 states right on your couch with queer fiction, memoirs and graphic novels set all across the United States.

Two queer American expats want to tell you everything that made them fall in love “Gay Paree!”

Closeted gays play basketball, lesbians play softball, gay boys rank each other on websites that get startup funds (bah!), Constance McMillen has her day in court and the school officials whipped out some doozies, a good lesbian suit is hard to find, Elisabeth Hasslebeck and Whoopi fight about health care, also wait ’til you see these portraits of soldiers affected by Don’t Ask Don’t Tell!

A 28 year-old closeted lesbian and married mother of three, and a token gay friend who’s feeling quite encroached upon. Calling it like I see it!

I started the 31st week of my pregnancy crying over the kitchen sink as I crammed my gestational diabetes breakfast into my mouth. It wasn’t the pregnancy hormones this time. It was the overwhelming grief and the sudden realization of what it means to be a parent.

So you’re gay and you’re getting married and, oh yeah, you’ve never come out to your grandmother. Do you invite her? How?