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Sometimes I’m really bummed out or heartbroken or anxious or kicking my own self over the edge into a depressive spiral and I don’t want to talk about it but I really want everyone to know. So thank Lesbian Jesus for Facebook. It’s the perfect way to alert people to your very-bad no-good state of mind without actually having to use your words.
There are three categories of these songs:
- I feel sad and I want people to know it but not explicitly, like maybe I just felt like listening to Elliott Smith because I can’t get enough of his exquisite guitar licks OKAY?
- I am very upset at a particular person and I really hope they see this status so they know they are the werewolf/shark in this song; I am literally bleeding.
- I am so mad/sad/weird that I can’t even deal with myself at all. This is usually when I post mid-2000s emo/pop punk or hardcore with nothing but a lyric excerpt in all caps.
I want to be clear that I am not promoting this kind of passive aggressive weirdo behavior, you should probably text your best friend or pet a dog or go to therapy if you are feeling the need to externalize your woes. But as an extrovert with depression, sometimes I do it! I do. You probably do it sometimes to, gentle reader. Maybe instead of doing that we should just listen to this playlist! Almost all of these songs I have actually truly posted on Facebook, and let me tell you!! It didn’t make me feel better. But sometimes listening to them does.
Dear Facebook, I’m Sad
Ballad Of Big Nothing – Elliott Smith
I’m Not Part Of Me – Cloud Nothings
The Pros And Cons Of Breathing – Fall Out Boy
The Jetset Life Is Gonna Kill You – My Chemical Romance
Phoenix In Flight – Converge
Werewolf – Fiona Apple
The Moon – Cat Power
Olvídame – Thalía
Split, Splitting – Mal Blum
Train Under Water – Bright Eyes
Seven Swans – Sufjan Stevens
Get Lonely – The Mountain Goats
Luna – Zoé
It Is What It Is – Blood Orange
I Don’t Want to Let You Down – Sharon Van Etten
Seen How Things Are Hard – Elliott Smith
Mr. Pitiful – Otis Redding
saving this in pocket for when I want to let the world know i’m sad but not LET the world know I’m sad
I usually just obsessively share posts from the nihilism memes page because they also make me laugh
Two Birds One Terrible Coping Mechanism
Two Birds On Terrible Coping Mechanism sounds like a great name for an autobiography/self help book
One!!!
“Two Birds On Terrible Coping Mechanisms” sounds like a vaguely judgemental public access cable show hosted by the great aunts who don’t know you’re Gay
Lolz
I’D WATCH THAT
I have the exact opposite of this problem, I let sad music tear my heart to pieces recreationally, but it’s OK facebook, I’m OK. Nothing is wrong, I’m just cleaning out the ole tear ducts.
ouch! i feel you. adding “everybody hurts” by REM and “nothing compares 2 u” by sinead o’connor to this tearfest.
When I’m in a bad/sad/anxious/etc mood and need to Facebook it out, I don’t post things. I just on my activity history and end up going through 5 years worth of posts/comments/likes and just erase it all piece by piece until I feel like enough of a hermit that I’m good again. This will probably be good to listen to while I do that.
Interesting… Definitely sympathize, though I take a different path: I simply listen to one of my themed catharsis playlists, with songs dependent on just what it is that is getting me down.
Though, I also have to admit deliberately inducing catharsis seems just a little cracked to me, even while I do so.
I still remember when my mom first joined Facebook and I posted lots of song lyrics. I still do, but much more rarely now, and I often attach a video of the song in question so people know what the hell I’m talking about. Anyway, my mom would see these (often terribly mopey) lyrics in my status and go “What’s wrong? What’s wrong? Call me!” all the damn time. I know this is what moms do and I don’t begrudge her the worry, but I was deeply regretting having encouraged her to join Facebook. Anyhoo…
We need to add to this list.
Pretty much anything by Evanescence, but especially:
Breathe No More
Weight of the World
Imaginary
Pretty much anything by Breaking Benjamin, but especially:
Failure
Until the End
Give Me a Sign
I cosign your additions!
omg i just want to hold you.
always and yes please
You can just go ahead and keep being the best!
Today I learned that I cannot access Autostraddle while connected to my new job’s VPN. So besides listening to display my post camp blues I’ll use this music to mourn all that time I should have been working but could have been on this magnificent site.
OMG! I happened to have “It Is What It Is” stuck in my head as I came to this page. Fabulous recommendation. Somewhat bitter, resigned, yet knowing and strong. Dev Hynes is just the best.
YAS! Fiona Apple~!!!!!!!!!!!!! <3
Good choice! :) A