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How Social Media Fucked Up Lesbian Breakup Culture

Breakups are so often garbage and hard, and managing the social media that surrounds it is just another gross layer that makes them even more garbage and even harder.

By Rachel| March 4, 2020 | 2 Comments
Herstory

PERSONALS App Brings an Old School Dyke Dating Format Into a Hot New Future, Thanks Instagram

Your favorite queer Instagram dating account has changed its name to be more inclusive, is creating an app just for you, and is hosting a party in NYC to kickoff its crowdfunding efforts Wednesday night, June 13! Read our interview with creator Kelly Rakowski for all the hot details!

By A. Tony Jerome| June 12, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Your Guide to Writing the Perfect Gay Personals Ad and Finding Lesbian Love, Thanks to Herstory Personals

We asked Kelly Rakowski of Herstory Personals for some of the tips and tricks she’s gleaned about writing a good personals ad from playing matchmaker to the queer lonely hearts Instagram crowd, and she was happy to oblige.

By Vanessa| February 13, 2018 | 4 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Internet Haikus Written by a Person Who’s Maybe Been Watching a Little Too Much “Black Mirror”

This round we cover Benzos, google doodles, tide pods, venmo emojis, and more!

By Erin| January 29, 2018 | 12 Comments
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How to Keep Seeing Autostraddle in Your Facebook Feed

Facebook’s new algorithm has the potential to badly affect us; here’s how you can help!

By Heather Hogan| January 29, 2018 | 32 Comments
Geekery

Mastodon 101: A Queer-Friendly Social Network You’re Gonna Like a Lot

Trolls on Twitter got you down? Tired of Mark Zuckerberg’s Real Name Policy? Looking for a social network not owned by a massive corporation? Mastodon may be your next haunt.

By Creatrix Tiara| October 11, 2017 | 17 Comments
Society + Culture

Mommi Is the New Daddy

Take it from two experts.

By Erin| June 1, 2017 | 184 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Wondering Who’s Up: More Internet Haikus

This round we cover reply alls, netscape, deactivating, coffee pics and more!

By Erin| April 19, 2017 | 14 Comments
Society + Culture

“I Want to Be Visible”: A Queer #DisabledAndCute Photo Gallery

When I saw the hashtag #DisabledAndCute gaining steam on Twitter last weekend, I felt an immediate tug of recognition. Disabled folks were here, owning our bodies and looks rather than trying to cover up, slink away, or downplay.

By Carrie| February 20, 2017 | 9 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Cher’s Best Tweets of 2016

We learned a lot from Cher this year, specifically about how much she hates Donald Trump.

By Erin| December 22, 2016 | 21 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

The Sims For Twitter: More Internet Haikus

This round we cover unfriending, chatting with bots, wacky 404s, the #UNameItChallenge and more.

By Erin| December 8, 2016 | 25 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Name A More Iconic Pair: More Internet Haikus

This round we cover accidental likes, likes without following, the death of vine, and more!

By Erin| November 4, 2016 | 5 Comments
Society + Culture

Public Personals: A Peek Inside the Queer Instagram Dating Experiment

An homage to all the unique ways queer women have marked themselves and dog-whistled each other throughout the decades, the witch bitch switches and the techno hippie hyperdykes from the queer classifieds of the 80s, only this time it’ll be instant and without the anonymity.

By Erin| October 20, 2016 | 11 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Sometimes We Have Fun Online: More Internet Haikus

Grandparents getting catfished, subtweeting, Brangelina memes and more!

By Erin| September 29, 2016 | 21 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Biebs Could’ve Turned Off Comments: Another Round of Internet Haikus

Digital cleanses, penguins in backpacks, Denny’s tweets and more.

By Erin| August 22, 2016 | 8 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

How Do You Stop from Scrolling: More Internet Haikus

Featuring the raya app, Trivago dad, and Carrie Bradshaw hiding from an email.

By Erin| July 28, 2016 | 11 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Lindsay Lohan’s My Avi: More Internet Haikus

Life is but a meme.

By Erin| June 22, 2016 | 28 Comments
Music

Playlist: Dear Facebook, I’m Sad

Super bummer songs: a way to externalize how shitty you feel without having to use your words!

By Adrian| June 6, 2016 | 18 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

I Can’t Figure out Snapchat: Some More Internet Haikus

truly feel blessed that / i’m hard to find on facebook / shout out to my name

By Erin| April 15, 2016 | 29 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

I Still Don’t Get The Cat Thing: Some Internet Haikus

curious to know
how many other people
fav’d their gyno’s tweet

By Erin| March 11, 2016 | 29 Comments
Geekery

Here’s How to Outsmart Twitter’s New Algorithm

Twitter released its new algorithm, which means it’s the perfect time for you to take back control of what you see in your feed.

By Heather Hogan| February 20, 2016 | 11 Comments
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