PHOTO GALLERY: Queer in the Kitchen

Sharon / 26 / Peterborough Ontario, Canada / Carpenter

“My roommate isn’t religious, but really likes religious art… so here we are. Also I just got that parking ticket, so I’m pretty pissed.”

Stacia and Izzy / 24 and 23 / Cambridge, MA / Communications; School Psychology Intern

“Our kitchen is a place of creativity, compassionate cooking, salt, and root vegetables.”

Jamie and Hannah / 25 and 26 / Montréal, Qc / Quality Assurance Tester; Grad student and housing advocate

“Thinking about priced items, we’ve got a wicked cool space cats mug where all the cats are wearing astronaut outfits. We cook a lot, but breakfast is definitely extra special at our house: vegan banana cinnamon buns, tofu scramble, egg in the basket, fresh bread and lotsa coffee.”

Sarah and Sheldon / 29 / Denver, CO / PhD Student

“The kitchen is one of the few spaces my academic work hasn’t invaded and many of the items in it were given to me by some of my favorite people, so it’s become a comforting and grounding place for me.”

Chelsea and Amelia / 27 / Paddington, Brisbane, Australia / Mechanical engineer (yay STEM) and PhD candidate

“Our kitchen is a very strange shape, and while it looks quaint it’s difficult to use for anything other than toast. It’s part of a Queenslander, which is a specific type of house from our state that is actually just a wooden box on stilts. Our most prized kitchen item is Chelsea’s coffee machine, because we equate ‘most-prized’ with ‘most used’ and without coffee we are nothing.”

Holly / 27 / Hamilton, Ontario / Grad student

“I like cooking anything that has lots of spices in it, because adding spices to a simmering pot of food makes me feel like a potions master.”

Kate / 28 / Oakland, CA / Clinical Psychologist

“When I’m in my kitchen I feel like I can do anything.”

Hanna / 21 / Vancouver, BC / Gender Studies student

“I love to cook an assembly of whatever vegetables I have in my fridge (like this bunch of kale I am fondling!). I don’t have strong positive feelings towards my kitchen because it’s a shitty student residence kitchen. But at least some delicious things come out of it!”

Lark Malakai Grey / 29 / Ypsilanti MI / Nutritional Therapist

“I’m a food witch, and this food processor is my familiar.”

Alia Allen / 38 / SW Detroit / Academic Advisor

“I love my stove.  Picked it up for 25 bucks off craigslist. She’s a real champ.”

Leah / 30 / Chicago / Theatre Person

“On our first date, my fiancé Katie and I made lasagna together in my shitty grad student kitchen. She still loves it when I make that (and so do the cats).”

Kristi (left) and Grace (counter), Elvis the dog, and Ripken the cat / 27 and 31, 4 and 4 months / Kitchener, Ontario / Runs a home daycare; Business analyst

Kristi: “It’s not my dream kitchen, but I’ve definite had worse. My favorite things to make are chili, gumbo, and pretty much any Italian food. Most prized kitchen item? Definitely our juicer. There’s nothing better than fresh juice in the morning.”

Grace: “Kristi’s the cook. I make the salads.”

Emily / 24 / Saskatoon, SK, Canada / Treeplanter

“My favourite thing about my kitchen is Friday night soup night. Everyone is invited to soup night.”

Dwyn Asher / 26 / Belmont, CA / Artist, VISTA member

“I bought a pressure canner a few years ago and it’s my favorite thing I own. I love looking at all the soups and sauces I’ve canned over the summer and I feel cool and sciencey using it.”

Christine and Katie / 27 and 22 / Ferndale, MI / Environmental engineer; Aspiring physician (fresh UMich graduate)

Megan and Sarah, Mason and Nemo (dogs) / 29 and 26 / Brooklyn, NY / Interior designer; Sexuality educator

“Megan just got into cooking, while Sarah has always loved to bake. The favorite kitchen item isn’t even a kitchen tool – it’s the sign on the wall that says “wine, women, and song.” We also love the wooden ironing board; it hangs out against the wall all day to provide more counter space, and then when it’s time to eat, we just pull it out from the wall and sit on either side. Our stools double as our nightstands.”

Gilda / 35 / Mexicali, Mexico / Customs Broker

“I’ve made perfect macarons in this very kitchen. That officially makes it a holy place, right? That’s how that works?”

Helen Lockett / 27 / San Diego, CA by way of England / Tutor, recent Women’s Studies MA graduate

“I feel deep feelings about my small, adorable kitchen. I spend my days making soup using my girlfriend Sarah’s immersion blender.”

Mel, Kelly, and Bolin (cat) / 23, 22, 2 / San Francisco, CA / Software Engineer, Software Engineer, Loaf

“We love all the quirks of our 1920’s kitchen, including the ice box which isn’t pictured, and the two dishwashers who are. Cooking has been a huge part of moving in together and learning how to adult; it sometimes seems like the only thing that makes sense in our world!”

Rachel / 33 / Brooklyn, NY / Public Health Professional

“I love trying to bake something that will challenge me, or teach me a new skill. Next on my list: baklava.”

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  1. This is just the best thing ever.

    I whooped with laughter multiple times, alarming Gillian, who just happens to be in the kitchen baking.

    I feel like I have to look at these all over again and make proper notes about the ones I love which I think is all of them!

  2. This made me cry. All these beautiful, fantastic people looking so safe and comfy – I kept scrolling looking to see if I recognized any friends, but every one of these people could be mine. Community is a trip, y’all. I love it so much <3 <3 <3

    Also as someone with a really bad and stressful relationship to food, eating, and bodies who has never been able to cook for anyone or if someone is watching, I drew a lot of peace and inspiration from the messages about the kitchen being a welcoming place and a place that doesn't judge mistakes. I'm going to try harder!

  3. THIS IS SUCH A LOVELY IDEA WITH SUCH LOVELY PEOPLE IN IT. I’m just gonna compile my comments on pictures IN a word doc for this comment so this is probably gonna get long and I apologize. Really I want to comment on everyone’s picture but uuuh, that’s nine pages worth of pics so probs not a good idea.
    Alysia Angel: YOUR KITCHEN IS AMAZING. It’s vintage and perfect and those pastels are killing me aaaaaa
    Megan: you really made the best out of a small space and I really dig the red and black and sun + moon theme you’ve got up. It just looks really witchy and cool.
    Dani Rose: you made that “ugly” wallpaper WORK. I also dig the red and black color scheme you got (am I biased??? maybe)
    Reneice Charles: that picture + quote is perfection. That is all.
    Cole Lu: your mug collection is perfection and so is your shirt.
    Char: I too love your collection of dried bouquets from past dates and actually I like everything going on in this picture, A+ aesthetic
    Katie: those pastel pink accents aaaaaa. Your kitchen is super cute so far, you should totally share pictures if you ever hit your Barbie dreamhouse kitchen dreams.
    Kelsea + Hebe: I ALSO KNOW A BIG ORANGE CAT NAMED SADCAT WITH PERMANENT SADFACE?? But I live in Texas while y’all live in the UK, so not the same cat unfortunately.
    Geneva: UM THIS IS AMAZING? Please come decorate my house
    Sarah and Sheldon: WHAT A HANDSOME COUPLE. Such majestic floof + cat decorations.
    Kristin and Zowie X: alright so everything about these pictures are on point but also IS THAT A REAL CHAMELEON??
    Tldr: everyone is amazing and perfect that is all

  4. Oh wow this is such a great idea for a series, I love it! Really cool to see some fellow Dubliners in here! (Also if there was ever any doubt that these are my people, the abundance of cats in these photos definitely sorted that out!)

  5. Wow! Three things. A) this is awesome! Kitchens and Queers… Two of my most favorite things. B) how the heck did I miss the call for this??? 3) suddenly feeling like I’m one of the few single people on autostraddle! Lookin good y’all!

  6. literally crying at my work cube scrolling through this. thank you laneia and everyone who contributed. this is beautiful and so important and you made my little queer therapist heart feel so held. #youcantdeleteus

  7. Oh! This is lovely. Look at everybody’s faces!! It’s one thing seeing a bunch of happy queers in the A-Camp photos, but it feels so different seeing everyone hanging out in their natural environments, and in the hearts of their homes no less. It’s really, really nice to see the huge spectrum of people all across the lands who gravitate here, and with this kind of intimacy, I guess (even before the partial nudity). The same goes for the ones without a human in them – it’s just a really nice (and kind of anthropologically fascinating) snapshot of people’s lives. Anyway, this has made my day. Thanks to all who submitted for inviting us all in out of the cold, bitter Trumpian winter for an evening. What an awesome idea for a series.

  8. If it’s outside of the US, I’m going to guess it’s a front loading washing machine. Living in the UK, there often isn’t space for a separate laundry area + the pipes are already in the kitchen, so it’s usually an under the counter placement thing.

  9. all of your kitchens are so cute! all of your dogs and cats are so good! (phryne fisher! that is the best name for a cat ever.) all of you are so wonderful!
    i love kitchens. a lot.
    as someone who’s struggled lately with not feeling like i belong in the LGBT community– like everyone else is cooler and gayer and has already established cliques/squads/friend groups that don’t have room for a newly-out-ish baby dyke who looks like a straight girl– it feels warm and fuzzy and validating to have my picture smack-dab in the middle of the rest of you queers like it’s the most natural thing in the world.

  10. 1) I love you all.

    2) Emily in Philadelphia, PA: your kitchen with its newly installed teal backsplash in my kitchen of dreams

    3) Can someone remake The L Word and cast Britt Ransom and Melissa Tran / 29 and 27 / Long Beach, CA as the new Bette/Tina?? (You, your neon sign & jobs are awesome.)

  11. ‘Kelly/25/Vancouver, WA’

    I half expected seeing this header that I see would be a picture of my roommate, Kelly, who is also 25, and lives in Vancouver, WA, in our kitchen.

    Alternate timeline roommate???

  12. This was so interesting.I smiled a lot in recognition of what has been shared, and felt quite blessed to be part of this community being themselves as part of this project. This is one of the coolest things Autostraddle has done!!

    I loved the meal in progress shots, and how the kitchen makes people talk and listen to one another. Thank you everyone for sharing yourselves and where you feed and nourish yourselves.

  13. This is everything I thought it would be! Y’alls kitchens are amazing.
    Also, Autostraddlers have some seriously good hair.
    For the record, my cat Diana (named after the princess) is in my shot, standing on the washing machine and wondering why I’m posing for pictures instead of giving her treats.

  14. I was hovering my mouse (I still use a mouse for my computer) over some interesting ingredients and cooked items and I was hoping my mouse could have told me what the various interesting things were. For another day :)

  15. QUEER IRL this is my hearrrrt. i love every single picture and every single person so much. I want to hangout in all ur kitchens and drink tea and hear about your day and be your friend. I love this peek into your lives so much and my heart especially swelled up for all your queer families. It is so great to see some of the beauty in your lives.

  16. I loved this so much. Everything about it is perfect, and real.

    What a nice anecdote to the depressing state of American politics. Despite it all, real life goes on. Pancakes still taste great. Coffee is just as amazing as ever. Queer chicks are happy and cozy at home. So many feels….

    I love to cook and feel most complete behind the stove. So it was to see so many passionate cooks in the mix. And to see their kitchens as a reflection of who they are.

    I also have to say- wow, so many gorgeous women!

    What’s next for IRL?


    And aww, my kitchen looks really boring compared to you lot. No fridge magnets, for one – I should really get some magnetic poetry. And I don’t get visitors often enough to do a group cook – I think that’s only happened once?? Which is to say, if you are in Melbourne, please hit me up because I would love to have you visit and we can make something together.

    I missed out on the submissions party, but wanna share, so here you go:

    It’s not actually bendy, I just suck at panorama pictures. And yes, those are potatoes in the butter cookie tin.

  18. amazing. beautiful, fascinating, perfect. this brings so much joy

    i’m also in love with all of those cats and dogs. wish i weren’t too shy n closeted to also send something in, but i’m so looking forward to the rest of this series

  19. You all look amazing, thank you for sharing! All these wonderful warm pictures left me feeling very warm and happy. And, seriously, your fashion game is A+ – loved to see all those wonderful shirts and flannels, dressing gowns and slippers, super cool boots and awesome hats and Beanies. There’s some real dedication right there – keep on rocking, keep on using melons for very good things and fondeling kale.

  20. Wooo it’s me!

    The sheer amount of cats in this gave me life. I literally went through this excitedly yelling CAT! every time a cat showed up. I especially loved the cat names Roofcat and Pesto. Those are amazing cat names.

    Some day, when I have my own cat, I want to name them VCR Player. or Episode Six. Or Croissant. I don’t know, I have a long list of absurd cat names saved up. I can’t wait.

  21. Can you fall in love with a woman based on their kitchen? And their adorable smile?
    If so I am respectfully in love with Alysia Angel and her amazing pink fridge.
    We could bake together and be best friends and it would be amazing!

    • Hey! :D I was surprised/pleased to see that there’s actually a few of us featured here?! Are you Jen with the cat poking around in the cupboards (that was one of my favorite pictures!)? Or Lauren or Faith with the gorgeous kitchen with an awesome purple wall? Or someone who didn’t post a kitchen pic?

  22. I was waiting for this for what seems like forever!!

    This made me super happy! Loved seeing everyone in their “natural habitat” :) and I’m super proud to see my kitchen there!

    Thanks AS can’t wait for the next one!

  23. this is the cutest best thing! Everyone is so adorable in their amazing perfect kitchens! and all of you are having such great hair days! I am bummed I missed the submission deadline, but work got the best of me. I will try better next time!

  24. There is so much creativity here. I am in awe of everyone. Thank you and thanks Laneia for putting this together.

    Seeing how amazing some of these shots are I wish I put a bit more effort into mine, but then wrangling a dog and a baby is a feat in itself.

  25. Sophie from Ishikawa–this is Leah of Leah-and-Chelsea. WE MET IN ISHIKAWA! ON JET! NO JOKE! We even had a Statistically Important number of bisexuals back in the day. Sending love to the Rock River!

  26. I forget all the things I wanted to say about everyone’s pictures, all I remember is that you are all so freaking cute and your kitchens are so unique and fun! Thank you for sharing! It only took me 2 days to get through :)

  27. 1. I want to marry all of you.

    2. This should be a Taschen coffee table book already.

    3. I wish I had a time machine and could go back and give small-town baby dyke me a copy of this collection of images. It would have been so comforting. It still is; aside from direct action (which I know we are all participating in), the most radical act we can all engage in in the face of our current political reality is to live, work, love, and thrive in spite of those who hate us. These images are a rich and beautiful tableau of the act of resistance that is choosing to exist.

    As an aside: This is a powerful and important document, and a snapshot of a community and a moment in time that has historical value. As you continue this series, I hope you will consider ways in which in can be published or formally added to one of our LGBT archives to be a primary source for future generations.

    • yes yes yes. i vote for a coffee-table book. a more labor-intensive alternative: all of us submit a recipe for a thing we like to cook in our queer kitchens and somehow assemble a massive cookbook/kitchen gallery tome.

  28. Finally got around to looking at all of these, and I am so glad this exists on the internet. This collection is fantastic, inspiring, and surprisingly cathartic. I’m really looking forward to the bedroom gallery!

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