You Need Help: How Do I Make Out With My Friend?
“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing with her or anything.”
You Need Help: Making Friends as a Queer Adult
“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”
You Need Help: You Don’t Agree With Your Best Friend’s Advice
I think she’s being the most supportive—and she’s exactly what you want in a best friend, because she’s in your corner and she’s supporting you as a whole person. She’s giving you some solid advice here—this is a bad idea. It is. Darling, this is a terrible idea.
The Gay Community Recalls The Word “Girlfriend” To Describe Platonic Friendships
“Gays exposed to the word ‘girlfriend’ to describe an innocent friendship often experience paranoia, heart palpitations, dizziness, an inadvertent rolling back of the eyes, and mental exhaustion related to figuring out what this person’s deal is.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Audrey Interviews Dana
“Even when we would get really drunk and make out to Ke$ha in front of hundreds of people in our own house, it was never a romantic thing.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Crystal Interviews Desiree
“We both shipped Castle and Beckett. That was a strange time in my life, god. Beckett, what a babe.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Yvonne Interviews Mary
“Yup, we were just lesbians in a library. You know, just hanging out.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Rachel Interviews Laneia and Riese About Their Friendship
“I’m really good at just torching a bridge and not looking back. And you are the only fucking person who has forced me to build the bridge back.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Laura Interviews Kate
“We were like, no, that’s just what people think! Like, very few boys are attractive, and lots of girls are. That’s just how the world is. ‘Isn’t that sad, that there are so few attractive men, and the ones who are just happen to be famous.'”
FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Gaga for Our Gal Pals
I wanna know all about your gal pals! How you met! What you do for fun! Your embarrassing stories! Tell me all about it!
The Speakeasy Presents the Magic of These Revolutionary QTPOC Friendships
Our QTPOC besties are vital to our existence so we wanted to create a list filled with our stories to celebrate just how magical they are.
Interview with My Queer BFF: Maddie Interviews Zoe
You were my queer spirit guide. You gave me a bunch of queer YA books over the first year of our best friendship. You said, “You didn’t have a queer adolescence, this is happening.”
It’s A War Out There: How Queer Female Friendships Can Save Us All
“I’m not sure if there was anything specific that made me feel like I needed other women. Maybe it was moving to LA with no prospects. Maybe it was breaking up with one terrible person for another terrible person. Maybe those two forms of loneliness converged into motivation. Maybe I was just tired. I can tell you this though: Befriending other queer women will save your life.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Chloe Interviews Abby (and Riese)
“If we were straight girls, I feel like we’d be THOSE annoying straight girls, like ‘look at me and my girlfriend!'”
Rebel Girls: 10 Feminist Gal Pals Who Made This World a More Awesome Place Together
As a follow-up to the time I used “gal pals” sarcastically and taught you all about the queer suffragists, and in honor of Gal Pal Week, this week’s Rebel Girls lesson is going to be about good, old-fashioned friendship.
Gal Pal Chronicles: Rachel and Lizz Have Been Obsessed With Each Other Since Roughly 2008
Rachel: “The writing & philosophy class I was required to take freshman year mostly sucked. But there was this one girl, Lizz, who seemed cool. She wore comic book tshirts and had beautiful shiny hair. One day after class, I announced to a friend, ‘Lizz is not straight. I can just tell.'”
Lizz: “There was something about Rachel that I just couldn’t shake. She spent a lot of time quoting feminist theorists who I’d never heard of and she had what I would later come to call ‘Congenital Gay Face.'”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Dannielle Owens-Reid and Kristin Russo
“That’s when we slept in a bed together and when I woke up I said I missed you while I was sleeping.”
Interview With My Queer BFF: Carmen Interviews Soph
“There was a deep sharing of emotion and feelings and we planned the future and organized and then shared opinions about finger-fucking and chlorine you know, very loudly, next to some children. “
You Need Help: When Is It Okay to Unfollow Someone on Social Media?
Where do you draw the line when it comes to unfollowing someone on Twitter or Facebook?
How to Tell Who Your Real True Friends Are
“Go to your pantry and determine which shelf or space in the pantry is the dullest or darkest, ideally both. Remove everything from that space one item at a time. Put the cake mix in the farthest place back in that space.”