You Need Help: I Miss the Social Intimacy of Church
How can I build meaningful and lasting friendships?
You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
You Need Help: Your Friend Takes Everything Super Personally
What I hear from the anecdotes you shared is someone who is deeply lonely and feels deeply unseen, but you can’t be your friend’s therapist, even if you want what’s best for her.
You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?
You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a gift that is exactly what you want.
You Need Help: My Best Friend Broke Up With Me
How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.
You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend
There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has paid off.
The Echo of My Friend’s Casual Biphobia Destroyed Our Relationship
“Remember your bi phase?” my best friend asked when we were in our 20s. I rolled my eyes.
“Yeah. It was never a phase.”
You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Couple Friends To Hang Out With Me One-on-One?
Wanting to hang out with your friends separately as individuals rather than as couples is a perfectly reasonable request.
You Need Help: Do I Owe a Girl From My Past an Apology in the Present?
Treat people better than you did in your early twenties, and eventually you’ll realize that you have nothing to feel guilty about anymore.
You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Has No Friends
Ultimately, you should remember that it’s up to your girlfriend to do the work of making friends, not you. I would encourage you to find a way to cheer her on from the sidelines in a way that feels good for both of you.
You Need Help: How Do I Get My Friend Out of Her Toxic Relationship?
It can be really hard to watch a friend in a relationship that doesn’t seem good for them. At the same time, this situation isn’t entirely yours to fix or even diagnose for that matter.
You Need Help: I Don’t Know How To Be a Casual Friend
It sounds like you want to be neutral with your former friend. That will take some work and some boundary-setting on your part, but it’s doable.
You Need Help: I’m A Teen And I’m In Love With My Best Friend
The line between friendship and romantic relationships is very thin, especially for queer people.
You Need Help: I Feel Left Out By My New Friends
Don’t be afraid to say what you want — meaningful, ongoing friendship. There are people out there who are looking for the same thing.
You Need Help: How Do I Stop Feeling Like A Loser After Rejection?
Mentally replacing “this person rejected me because I’m not enough” with “this person rejected me because we’re incompatible” or “this person rejected me because they have their own shit going on” can be so helpful!
You Need Help: Why Is My Coworker/ Friend/ Crush Pulling Away?
Are you wanting to repair the friendship as it currently stands? Or are you wanting to see if your friend wants more than friendship? Those are very different things!
You Need Help: How Do I Feel More Connected to the Lesbian Community?
This community would be so boring if we all had the same stories. And there’s no such thing as the “right” queer story.
They Planned to Grow Old Together
In upstate New York, a nursing home eviction due to a debt has indefinitely separated two women’s enduring love by 80 miles.
The Bittersweet Magic of Falling in Love with My Best Friend During the Pandemic
“As wonderful as this time together has been, as close as we’ve gotten, we both know that once the world opens up a bit more, we’ll finally get to have a lot of our “firsts” — and that it may be bittersweet to finally have our first date six months into being a couple.”
Love Is Not a Lie, It Can’t Be
“It turns out I’ve been right all along: love is bigger than all that.”