I Don’t Wanna Promote My Friend’s Bad Art
Your friend’s art is not great, but they keep asking you to share it on social. Also, a reader is feeling a little too embodied after having a baby.
‘My Gay Guy Friend Is Rude and Blames It on Gay vs. Lesbian Culture’
“I’ve started hanging out with him less because he’s just annoying at times.”
My Friend Expects Me To Hate Their Ex. I Just Can’t Do It.
A breakup within the friend group has spawned a lil’ ethics crisis! Plus, what the f*ck do you do when everything’s changed and you don’t know what you want anymore?
‘I Resent My Best Friend for Moving Away and Having Kids’
“A few years back, my best friend got married, moved to the suburbs, and had kids.”
Do I Have To Tell My Friend I Have a Crush On Her?
“She’s basically my dream girl. We’ve hit it off fast over the past few months, and she’s one of my closest friends here at this point, and I am so incredibly calm around her.”
Is It Creepy That I’m So Much Older Than My Entire Queer Friend Group?
Advice for a 49-year-old who’s anxious that she may not be wanted in spaces and social circles where most people are younger than her.
My Friend Keeps Getting Romantically Rejected and I Think I Know Why — How Do I Break It To Her?
How do you talk to a friend about their messy house and personal hygiene? Plus advice for a therapist who is overstepping, soothing oneself during a friend breakup, and tips for gay stuff in Pittsburgh!
How Do I Re-Friend-Zone My Friend After the Worst Sex of My Life?
Advice on how to stay friends when the friend you hooked up with wants more, flagging with carabiners, and whether it’s okay if your wife is your only IRL friend.
Help! My Friends Won’t Shut Up
Plus advice about leaving a controlling partner and getting second dates.
I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club
I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s been in operation since the 1970’s.
You Need Help: I’m Too ‘Old’ for This New Generation of Queers
I’m so sorry the people you’re around have made you feel unwelcome because you don’t follow their narrow definition of what being a queer woman looks like.
You Need Help: My Girlfriend Struggles With Social Skills
Just because someone operates differently from you doesn’t mean they’re wrong, bad, or need help.
Rules for Being the Gay in the Wedding Party
I’ve been that one single, queer friend in the bridal party countless times.
You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
You Need Help: I Miss the Social Intimacy of Church
How can I build meaningful and lasting friendships?
You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?
I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk that I may as well ask?
You Need Help: Your Friend Takes Everything Super Personally
What I hear from the anecdotes you shared is someone who is deeply lonely and feels deeply unseen, but you can’t be your friend’s therapist, even if you want what’s best for her.
You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?
You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a gift that is exactly what you want.
You Need Help: My Best Friend Broke Up With Me
How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.
You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend
There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has paid off.