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Sex

How to Have Phone Sex: A Detailed Guide

Here’s a very thorough how to guide for approaching phone sex, from a chatty Capricorn slut whose greatest (PG-13) talent in life is never shutting up.

Vanessa December 19, 2019 32 Comments
Literature

Lez Liberty Lit: The Word of the Year

“They” is the word of the year! Plus: when languages die, when bookstores unionize, when Hilton Als writes on Joan Didion and more.

Ryan Yates December 19, 2019 4 Comments
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

What We Love and Hate About Dating Scorpios

“As a Scorpio that has dated other Scorpios, I can state definitively that we are excellent at sex and secrets and not always great at other parts of relationships.”

the team December 19, 2019 10 Comments
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Hallmark Accidentally Started a Lesbian Christmas Movie Avalanche

That Hallmark debacle made for some good tweets and content, Mia Kirshner says Jenny Schecter’s not dead (but there’s a podcast you need to listen to if you want to know more), return dates for Sabrina and Grace & Frankie, Disney+’s new Star Wars series will reportedly have a lesbian character, and more!

Heather Hogan December 18, 2019 37 Comments
Issues

Summer of 1990

I remember it all because for that one hour of that one day in that horribly long summer, I could see part of myself reflected in someone else and I felt less alone.

Vikki Reich December 18, 2019 22 Comments
TV Show Recaps

Christmas at the Coterie: “Good Trouble” Celebrates the Holigays with Stef and Lena

While the return of Stef and Lena Adams Foster to our TV screens was always going to be a cause for celebration around here, their presence — and the presence of six (!!) other LGBT characters — on Good Trouble’s two hour holiday special seemed particularly poignant in the wake of Hallmark’s bigotry.

Natalie December 18, 2019 2 Comments
Music

Queer Your Ears: The 50 Best Albums Of The 2010s By Queer & Trans Musicians

The 2010s was an incredibly gay decade in music. Queer and trans musicians gained more visibility and success than ever before over the last 10 years! Here are the best 50 albums of the decade, according to me.

Abbie Jones December 18, 2019 23 Comments
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Welcome Our New Autostraddle Deputy Editor, Kamala Puligandla!

I just want a gay utopia, okay?

Kamala Puligandla December 18, 2019 40 Comments
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Foolish Child #61: Cousin Penny

Oh boy!

Dickens December 18, 2019 3 Comments
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No Filter: Bella Thorne Knows Her Boobs are Big, Thanks!

Janelle Monáe loves being black, Cara Delevingne loves “flowers” and Amber Heard and I take a new, startling turn together!

Christina Tucker December 18, 2019 4 Comments
Money + Work

Queered & Careered: 5 Ways You Can Use Tarot at Work

Just because, let’s be honest: your workplace could use some queer witchy energy.

Tiara Dee December 17, 2019 4 Comments
Movie Lists

The 50 Best Lesbian, Queer, and Bisexual Movies of the Decade

The fact is most of the films about us — and especially the films by us — do not get the attention they deserve. But nobody is better equipped to tell our stories than we are.

Drew Burnett Gregory December 17, 2019 44 Comments
Christmas Sex

The 12 Queer Sex Positions Of Christmas

Try these positions to add some spice (ooh, is that nutmeg?) to your sex life this December.

Ro White December 17, 2019 48 Comments
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Music

Queer Your Ears: The 20 Best Lesbian Love Songs Of 2019

Valentine’s Day is coming up in only two months! This is my holiday gift to those of you who struggle with gifts: make her a Spotify playlist! And guess what, I’ve already done most of the work for you.

Abbie Jones December 17, 2019 15 Comments
Christmas

How To Be The Estranged Gay Kid This Holiday Season

Because you’re gay — and maybe a host of other reasons — you and your family don’t speak. Get through it by exclusively listening to music from your parents’ era and try not to have a meltdown.

danijanae December 17, 2019 26 Comments
Culture

17 Very Good Queer Meme Instagram Accounts to Follow

Good queer memes will make you smile and laugh and cry and accept the mortifying ordeal of being known.

Vanessa December 17, 2019 8 Comments
Book Lists Holigays

8 Cute Queer Holiday Romances to Snuggle up with this Holigay Season

More than one book involves lesbians falling in love while bonding over a cute festive pet.

Casey December 17, 2019 6 Comments
Gender

You Need Help: How To Be A Trans Lesbian

Make sure to be kind and generous to yourself, give yourself plenty of time to process all of these important feelings, and don’t rush it!

Abbie Jones December 16, 2019 11 Comments
The L Word: Generation Q

The “To L and Back” L Word®: Generation Q Podcast Event Was So Much Fun

You all looked GREAT!

Riese December 16, 2019 7 Comments
The L Word: Generation Q

“To L and Back” Gen Q Podcast Episode 102

“Do we discuss issues of representation around trans lesbians, trans sex, and Latinx families? Yes. Do we discuss high-waisted pants and threesomes? Also yes.”

Drew Burnett Gregory December 16, 2019 4 Comments
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