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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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How to Have Gay Sex for the First Time: A Workshop with Luna Matatas
From owning your erotic imagination to navigating your anatomy and someone else’s, here’s your intro to having gay sex for the first time.
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Don’t Let Your Nail Length Stop You From Having Great Sex
1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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Allison Moon’s “Getting It” Is the Casual Sex Guide You Didn’t Know You Needed
Allison Moon’s Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex is about more than scissoring strangers — it’s about cultivating self-awareness and sexual self-esteem. Hookup culture might look different right now, but communication and boundaries are perhaps more important than ever before. The skills outlined in Getting It will help you navigate virtual slutdom in this challenging new era of distance. And if you want to gracefully transition into a post-pandemic world of IRL sexcapades, then you better start studying up now.
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Watch All About Masturbation with Shelli Nicole: Recording and Transcript
Thank you so much to everyone who came to the live facilitation of this educational workshop led by Shelli! If you missed it, you can watch the recording here and refer to the provided transcript!
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How and Why I Wrote Bang!: A Masturbation Sex-Ed Book for Everyone
I made Bang! Masturbation for People of All Genders and Abilities because it profoundly made sense to me, because there was a gaping hole in that plastic wall where there should have been some acknowledgement of pleasure, consent, or the emotions of sex. Bang! was designed to fill this gap with emotionally-aware, positive sex-ed. While we had been taught about the vas deferens and fallopian tubes, we had never been taught how to even talk about sex with a partner. I made Bang! because I thought it needed to exist.
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Merry Fistmas and a Happy New Transcript!
We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped up for you right here!
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish
I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly made sense to me.
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So You Want to Try Sex Therapy
Sex therapy is one of those things that sounds simple on the surface, but is really much more widely encompassing that one might originally suspect.
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How to Write a Really Hot Sext in 5 Easy Steps
Here is a beginner’s guide to sending really hot sexts to your casual date, your girlfriend, and every babe in between. You’re welcome.
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How To Negotiate Better Consent: An Asexual Perspective
Most consent conversations are based on the assumption that everybody experiences sexual desire and attraction — but asexual people don’t.
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Stay Home and Squirt: A Preparedness Guide
Please, help me help you. Push your puzzles aside. It’s time to squirt.
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You Need Help: Why Don’t I Like Going Down On My Girlfriend?
“I really really want to like going down on her, but I don’t. It feels overwhelming — the smell, the taste, the trouble breathing.”
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Here’s Your Roadmap to Finding Your Authentic Sexual Self
Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!
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Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch
How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that feel and what did it bring up? How do you ID now, and where do you see it as part of that ~ journey ~?
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S L I C K: Lesson Learned
“Ms. DeLovely, will you please stop by during my office hours?” Your voice stern, but laced with sweet concern. I’m already dripping. Clearly this is a role you were born to play. “Yes, Professor Luna.”
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S L I C K: Raincheck Part 1
You are just picking up Naomi. Your very good friend, Naomi, whom you have only not-so-jokingly offered to take up on her not-so-joking offer to fuck for a decade. She literally just got emotionally gut punched by some fuckboy. Don’t be another fuckboy. Not today. Unless she initiates. Fuck, she always initiates. Fuck, I missed my exit.
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A Quick and Easy Guide to Making Consent Exciting, Not Scary: An Interview with Isabella Rotman on Her New Book
Rotman’s comic A Quick and Easy Guide to Consent is a fun, well-written, and much needed refresher that I strongly recommend to anyone with a body that wants to connect with others and their bodies.
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S L I C K: Jesus Is; A Love Song Part 2
Finally, Danielle and Joanna are reunited are years of radio silence. Will Joanna’s voice still move Danielle as strongly as she remembers?