Results for: Feel good
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You Need Help: I’m A Teen And I’m In Love With My Best Friend
The line between friendship and romantic relationships is very thin, especially for queer people.
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You Need Help: How Do I Know If I’m Really Non-Binary?
There is no “solution” to gender identity.
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You Need Help: Can I Kill Queer Characters As A Queer Writer?
If queer creators are so worried about backlash from the community that we begin to self-censor, then the only interesting queer work will be made by straight people.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #24: How to Have Your Acrylic Nails And Do It All, Too
“THIS STEP IS VERY IMPORTANT, DO NOT PUT THE BOILING HOT TEA BAGS ON YOUR EYELIDS!!!” Queer advice on breaking up with someone over social distancing opinions as well as advice on pressure from friends to hang out in-person instead of staying home (during this here pandemic), returning to writing after a betrayal, recovering from a good cry, and more!
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You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder
We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #16: Your Ex Is Getting Married, Closure is a Myth and More!
Worries about a roommate’s mental health, thinking of dating after almost a decade of being single, evangelical parents and bisexuality, what to call your girlfriend when she dominates you, and more.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #28: Coping with Trumper In-Laws, Dating as a Demisexual, and More!
Advice for coping with a parent who’s an addict, being accountable to people you’re dating, and more!
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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?
I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to have so many areas in your life where coming out simply isn’t an option.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #14: What to Say to a Friend Proposing 6 Months In?
What do I say when I think my friend might be rushing into marriage? Trauma and opening up a relationship, exploring sexually with a long-term partner, feelings about a (possibly straight) quarantine crush, and more!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t
Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #22: Dating an Older Person, an Untenable Murder Cat Situation, and More!
Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!
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16 Really Nice Things You Said About the A+ Advice Column!
“The advice helped me so much and also was so caring it made me cry? But in a good way.”
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A+ MEMBER COMMUNITY POST: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self?
sometime this year you are going to steal your first pack of cigarettes from *redacted*’s mom: please don’t ? you will like them far too much and also will feel bad forever for stealing
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A Very Sensible, Queer Guide to Sending the First Message on Dating Apps
14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
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Into the A+ Advice Box #19: Credit Card Debt, Potentially Moving with a New Partner, and More!
Stating your needs around masturbation in a relationship, moving on from an on-again-off-again relationship, your dad hasn’t worked through his homophobia, and more!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #26: Working Through Shame Around Kink
Grief is not linear, finding help for your top surgery recovery, ways to alleviate feelings of isolation while staying home, and more!
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Queered & Careered: In the Meantime (Or Things to Do While You’re Unemployed)
One of the most insidious effects of unemployment in a capitalist society is that we start to doubt our worth if we are not tied to a job. Our daily resilience IS productive and we deserve to celebrate ourselves, employed or not.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?