A+ MEMBER COMMUNITY POST: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self?

It’s our 12th Birthday and we are CELEBRATING the heck out of the last of our tween years with quizzes, advice to our tween selves and an A+ AMA!

So, in honor of 12 years of Autostraddle and this bastion of queerness on the internet, we asked you, A+ members, what would you tell your tween self if you could?

Also you all made me cry real tears while putting this together. Thank you for your vulnerability. Reader, buckle up!

Anonymous / whatever / Northern Arizona
Don't dye your hair black because a girl you like says it would look good.

You are going to feel an immense amount of pressure to choose between living a life that feels authentic to you and living a life that others accept and celebrate. You will choose your auth...

You've Reached A+ Content!

Autostraddle cannot survive without reader support. That's why we have our A+ Member program and A+ content like this, as thanks to readers like you who keep Autostraddle here for our whole community. Will you join A+?

A+ members keep this site majority free-to-read, so sometimes we have bonus content for members as thanks! A+ membership starts at just $4/month or $30/year. If you can, will you join? You get access to bonus content like this post, insider information, behind-the-scenes laughs, and the singular satisfaction of knowing you’re helping to pay it forward for other readers and that you're keeping this bastion of queerness on the internet here for everyone.

99% of our readers do not support. That means that less than 1% of our readers are keeping this site running. Will YOU be one of the people who helps to keep this indie queer media site here for everyone?

We don't need one person to do it all, we need many people each doing a part. Every member makes a difference!

Join A+ Today!

Already a member? Sign in


Before you go! It costs money to make indie queer media, and frankly, we need more members to survive 2023As thanks for LITERALLY keeping us alive, A+ members get access to bonus content, extra Saturday puzzles, and more! Will you join? Cancel anytime.

Join A+!

Nico Hall

Nico Hall is Autostraddle's A+ and Fundraising Director, and has been fundraising and working in the arts and nonprofit sector for over a decade. They write nonfiction and personal essays and are currently at work on a queer fiction novel. They live in Pittsburgh with their partner, Sadie. They are also a gardener, project queer, witchy/wizardly human and are currently mourning their lovely senior rescue dog. Nico is also haunted. You can find them on Twitter and Instagram as @nknhall.

Nico has written 128 articles for us.