A+ MEMBER COMMUNITY POST: What Advice Would You Give Your Tween Self?

It’s our 12th Birthday and we are CELEBRATING the heck out of the last of our tween years with quizzes, advice to our tween selves and an A+ AMA!

So, in honor of 12 years of Autostraddle and this bastion of queerness on the internet, we asked you, A+ members, what would you tell your tween self if you could?

Also you all made me cry real tears while putting this together. Thank you for your vulnerability. Reader, buckle up!

Anonymous / whatever / Northern Arizona
Don't dye your hair black because a girl you like says it would look good.

You are going to feel an immense amount of pressure to choose between living a life that feels authentic to you and living a life that others accept and celebrate. You will choose your authentic experience, and while that is the best choice it's also the hardest. Your mom loves you, that's why she is scared for you. I am sorry she doesn't have the same courage you do; I am sorry she doesn't encourage you to grow. She was taught to be s...

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