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+ Scissoring may or may not be a thing that people actually do:
“I make funny remarks about the athletic ability one would need to achieve orgasm in this awkward position, and I joke about how lazy I am and how I’d pass out if I had to hold myself up for that long. Your upper body would have to be killer: arms shaking, nails digging into the mattress, the muscles in your torso stretched until you feel like your body might rip in half like a Barbie doll. As someone who has been to library school, formatting is everything to me, and scissoring puts data into all the wrong categories. Alignment of your clitoris against another clitoris is like inputting information into a bad record field—the results would prove for a faulty data set and subsequently a bad catalog record and/or a shitty orgasm.”
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+ 19 percent of respondents don’t consider themselves heterosexual, according to a new survey:
“When asked directly, 11 percent of survey participants said that they did not consider themselves heterosexual. When asked indirectly, some 19 percent of participants indicated that they did not consider themselves heterosexual. This discrepancy was exposed due to some pretty interesting methods, particularly the use of ‘blind’ questions. In the direct method, which resulted in the 11 percent response, participants were asked to answer a simple yes or no to the question ‘Do you consider yourself to be heterosexual?’ […]
Using the direct method, 17 percent or survey respondents indicated that they had had a same-sex experience. But using the veiled method, the researchers concluded that some 27 percent of participants appear to have had some same-sex experiences.”
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+ Facebook knows who you’re dating and whether you’re going to break up in the next two months.
+ Boobs are fun to look at regardless of your gender or sexual orientation, says a new study.
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via bu photography // Fat Lines // ©BU Photography 2013 // Self Portrait, by Taylor Marie
+ To celebrate Halloween, Tinkerbell made an Autostraddle gallery of girls with candy. It’s full of fun and delight!
+ Literally anything can be sexy, depending on who you ask:
“We haven’t even started talking about knee socks or people who have good watch arms or elbow patches on tweed blazers or the way hair that isn’t supposed to be messy looks when it gets accidentally messy? These things are sexy. You could put all these things in a room and I might never be pulled from that room. The takeaway here is not to send me a care package of avocados and old letters, though you totally can, it’s that sexy is a construct, and unfortunately, in this world, it’s a very very very unimaginative, narrow, boring one that fails to address many sexy things and focuses on other, boring things that have been sexy for so long I’m willing to suggest right here they might have even lost some of their sexy. (Boring can be sexy, truth told.) Maybe it’s all the hot body fatigue, but I’m really looking forward to sweaters.”
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+ Having sex in the ’60s versus having sex in your 60s:
“I am far from the only older woman to have found love and renewed physical pleasure in physical intimacy with another woman. Sadly, in my case, my partner lives and works much of the time in Norway. Yet even though we see each other only every six weeks, she has enabled me to experience more sexual pleasure than I have known before, and to see myself as desirable in different ways. The desire to be desired is always a key aspect of sexuality, and certainly of mine. And when you feel desired, at any age, you are back in touch with all those younger selves you have been across a lifetime.
Despite all the pitfalls of life and love, I find that most of the political commitments I made as a young woman still sustain me in old age. Feminism has given me a language for recognising rather than disavowing the vulnerabilities we all experience, whatever our age. Hope can live with apprehension, in love and in politics, as together we shrink those generational divisions erected all around us.”
+ Mollena of The Perverted Negress has Seven (random) Suggestions for Submissive/Slave types, a follow-up to her Seven (Random) Suggestions for Dominant Types, including Honor Your Dominant’s Humanity and Be Authentic and Play To Your Strengths:
It can be terrifying to say “I need, I want,” but if you do not do it? You have almost no chance of having your needs met. List for yourself what you want, stand by your choices. Don’t let anyone else’s bullshit and posturing interfere with you getting what you need. Be true to who you are. Know that your motives inform your service and being transparent with potential partners means you have a better shot at blending your energy with someone who has motives that align with yours.
+ The conversation about the sex scene in Blue is the Warmest Colour continues with a discussion of prosthetic vulvas, and what difference they make, specifically in terms of what the audience even perceives as sex:
“Here’s the thought experiment: Seydoux and Exarchopoulos then, on a bed and under the gaze of a camera (and a director that neither actress particularly likes any more), proceed to masturbate one another, perform cunnilingus, and analingus as well. All, theoretically, over a sliver of prosthetic that is somehow keeping the whole process from being, culturally speaking, indecent and immodest.
As I remarked to my screening partner when I saw Blue Is The Warmest Colour at the Toronto International Film Festival: if you’ve got your nose right up your co-star’s butthole, honestly – prosthetic or no – what difference does it make? […]
There’s a whiff of marginalization in the whole conceit, because it’s so easy – for heterosexuals who don’t know any better – to calmly assert that in the absence of traditional penetration, nothing untoward is happening.”
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Knee socks + boyshorts = super sexy.
As an Internet dweller with a tendency to read everything that’s relevant to me, and then all the things that aren’t even, and then that onemorethingafterthat, Thank you for all the article links(and that human with the fantastic suspenders OBVS)
The scissoring article has the best summary of A-Camp feelings, ever: “The people around me are so many different kinds of gay that I want to open up my insides and let them bleed out onto the floor around us. I want people to sing queer karaoke and dance together in the puddles of my love-vomit.”
That scissoring article was just wow. I thought it was just going to be funny and light but then it wasn’t. Love that.
“Alignment of your clitoris against another clitoris is like inputting information into a bad record field.” Not the case for me… While the actual “scissoring” position of intertwined legs is pointless for me, having one person on their back and the other straddling on top clit-to-clit is fucking amazing. Definitely not a shitty orgasm, IME.
Boobs are wonderful times infinity.
This is the most eloquently I can possible say this, “Boobs!”
*possibly
I really wish people would talk about something other than the sex in Blue is the Warmest Color. -_- I saw the movie on Friday and enjoyed. It was a realistic portrayal of a regular relationship and caused all the feels (can we please talk about that instead?). It’s REALLY sad that all of the press about the movie is about the sex. I also find it very annoying that it’s caused so much of an uproar while no one seems to bat an eye in regards to Cameron Diaz’s (awkward) sex scene with a Ferrari in The Counselor.
Oh wow, vitiligo. Memories.
So beautiful to see someone (and on top of that, a woman of colour) make it part of their sexy.