I Talked to Penny Arcade’s Erika Greco About Her Beautiful Coming Out Comic “Mixtape”

by rory midhani

by rory midhani

Erika Greco is a Seattle based designer who works for Penny Arcade, one of the internet’s most popular webcomic companies. She recently published her own short online comic, Mixtape, which uses the format of an Ani DiFranco mixtape to tell her own personal story of how she figured out her own identity and eventually came out as queer. This comic takes us all the way from her childhood as a stereotype-breaking punk, to her teen years trying to figure out what made her happy, to her marriage, eventual divorce and finally finding peace with herself. Along the way, we see how Greco sometimes seemed to sail easily along, and other times struggled to match up her priorities with what society seemed to want from her. Combining powerful visuals, emotional music and superb writing, Mixtape is a can’t miss story for anyone who has ever tried to figure out who they are and what their place in the world is.


Comics are a great way to tell personal stories. Greco has a beautiful way with words and while the story is definitely her own, but there are also parts here and there where my heart ached out of familiarity for what she was going through. The art is also wonderful, with early panels showing the wide-eyed optimism of her early years, and later panels showing the difficulty of her struggles to figure out who she was. The colors, provided by Amy T. Falcone, also provide visual cues for how Greco was feeling, using warmer colors during her happier times and cooler colors to represent her sadness and confusion. By choosing to tell her story through a comic, Greco is able to not only tell us how she was feeling, but also show us in full detail.

I work as a designer at a company (Penny Arcade) whose big claim to fame is a webcomic. My best friends are professional illustrators and cartoonists and so comics in general are an integral part of my life.

When I was struggling at my lowest I was just trying to find any outlet I could to help me express what I was going through. I started writing, drawing, and playing music and it was so cathartic. When I decided that I was ready to tell my close friends about what I was going through I knew there was no more accurate or personal way for me to share that than through comics.

It was a place were I could be as raw, honest, and vulnerable as I wanted to be and when I was ready to share it with others, I had distance from it and felt stronger than I would have if I had talked to each person face to face. It’s like public speaking for people afraid of crowds.


Greco also uses one of my favorite literary devices when she matches up a list of songs, all from DiFranco, with moments from her life story. This gives the comic a very cinematic feeling and puts the reader right into the middle of the story in a unique and powerful way. Really, reading the comic without the music is an entirely different experience from reading it with the songs. Greco does an absolutely spot-on job of matching the music to the mood of the comic. It almost seems as though DiFranco wrote the songs just for this story.

I have been listening to her music since I was a young-lady-teen and it’s always made me feel strong and empowered. When depressed I tend to surround myself in a safety net of nostalgia. So, I began listening to the same songs that I had memorized the words to over 13 years ago only now they spoke to me in a way that I had never heard before. It was like hearing each song for the first time.

Throughout her musical career she shares about learning who she is, what it means to be a “strong” female in a patriarchal society, the trials of being gay, and more so, being queer, what it meant to be married and how it felt to get divorced. I literally related to every single song. I felt like as I grew and learned about myself over the past year, her music grew with me and guided me along. It made me feel less alone and it gave me an anthem.


As if telling her coming out story in the form of a comic wasn’t enough evidence of how much the medium means to her, Greco also stresses the importance of other people’s comics in her coming out story. In one panel Greco says that friends gave her comics to read that helped, I noticed Erika Moen’s DAR, Ellen Forney’s Marbles and the comic anthology Anything That Loves.

Erika Moen is a friend of mine and so I’ve got a her DAR books signed and dated 2011, back when we first met. When I was struggling with my identity I decided to pull her books back off the shelf and they turned out to be exactly what I needed. I went from there to the rest of her online comics, as well as another friend, Amy Falcone’s online work, Cardigan Weather.

It lead me on a path to find more queer comics where I learned about myself through the stories of others. Marbles really spoke to me on many levels as a book that not only deals with identity and sexuality but also the struggles of being a creative dealing with mental illness. Anything That Loves is a book I cannot recommend enough to anyone who is not sure what it means to fall somewhere in between gay and straight.

It’s not a book or comic but honestly, (forgive my gushing) it was during this time of identity crisis  that a friend introduced me to Autostraddle and I read absolutely everything posted under “How to be Gay,” immediately. I fell in love with the positivity and safe space of the community and now nearly 8 months later I am a daily reader, commenter and also looking forward to attending my first A-Camp in May. </gush>

By deciding to put her story up online, Greco knew that she was putting herself out there with the possibility that not everyone would be happy for her. But she was also taking a brave step where she was not only sharing her story, but also letting others know that they’re not alone when they go through similar things.

The reaction has been 100% positive. Honestly, I could not be happier with the response. I was very nervous putting myself out there in such a big way and was prepared for judgmental, negative comments since the internet can be so volatile at times. Instead, what I received was an outpouring of support from the community and messages in my inbox with personal stories from others that are strikingly similar to my own.

It’s incredible how much others will share with you if you choose to share with them. I wanted to show that I wasn’t ashamed of who I was and that I didn’t feel that I needed to hide in my community. I want other people to read this and know they don’t have to hide, either. I want them to be able to take a piece from my story, no matter how small and apply it to their own journey. I’ve now received messages from people echoing that very sentiment and so I couldn’t be more humbled and thankful for the feedback I’ve received.


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Mey Rude is a fat, trans, Latina lesbian living in LA. She's a writer, journalist, and a trans consultant and sensitivity reader. You can follow her on twitter, or go to her website if you want to hire her.

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  1. I remember seeing Erika on Strip Search and then the Penny Arcade TV series and thinking ‘she’s so cool and attractive and has such amazing hair’.

    Mix Tape is incredible and the way it’s laid out with the music seems so perfectly Erika. I’m so happy for her, and everyone else who has identified with the comic, and I’m excited that she’s going to A-Camp in May.

    Hope you love it, Erika! Congratulations on everything!

  2. It’s so incredible to read someone’s story that is so similar to mine, especially in this day and age when I feel really retro for having married young and then come out. So often, that narrative is the story I encounter when reading queer histories from the 1950s-80s. It didn’t help that everyone in my small town learned the story as it was happening, and I got a lot of weird comments (“so are you a lesbian now?”) and judgments (“you need to take some time to pull things together, given the direction your life is going…”). I think one of the most hurtful things has been queer people who are advocating for marriage equality saying things that are deeply anti-divorce. I understand the rhetorical point they are trying to make, but the splash damage affects a lot of queer people as well as straight allies in addition to the straight people who oppose marriage equality.

    But enough about me! This really spoke to me and it means so much to have my story reflected in contemporary queer media. Best wishes to you Erika! (And remaining best friends with my ex-husband has really helped. Best wishes to you for preserving that connection while living your new, fabulous queer life.)

    • Thanks so much! Divorce was one of the things I didn’t see very frequently when I was reading other peoples coming out stories. It’s usually only thought of as this horrible thing in society. Don’t get me wrong, divorce is sad, unfortunate, and difficult. But without it, I wouldn’t have been able to move on and stay friends with someone who was the most important part of my life for over six years.

      It’s also difficult getting people to understand that in this “unconventional” situation, we are not sworn enemies, and I in no way regret being married or any part of our relationship. (I personally will never use the phrase, “ex husband” because it sounds so negative.) I hope people see that good can come from many different angles and that it’s ok when things change.

      • This: “I hope people see that good can come from many different angles and that it’s ok when things change.”

  3. This gave me all of the warm fuzzies, thank you for sharing your story with us, and thanks for the article Mey!

  4. The last panel of tape 1, side A where she thinks everyone must feel this way about girls. I must admit I believed that too all the way up until I came out in 2011. My whole life I thought everyone must like to look at the ladies because they’re so pretty!

    The shame and guilt about not understanding why you can’t just be happy with this amazing man like you’re supposed to. It takes a lot of strength to accept that you are not actually broken, just queer.

    I needed this, thank you.

    • Its funny what we assume is a universal experience. I also assumed I was straight and that everyone felt that way about girls.

      I also didn’t realize I had food allergies for many years – it was normal to me to be sick all the time, I didn’t realize that it wasn’t how everyone else felt.

      • I did the same thing with asthma. I just assumed I was “out of shape” or that everyone had a hard time breathing. All the time. Turns out, talking to other humans about the things you think and feel makes life a whole lot easier!

    • Likewise. That part resonated the most with me when I read Erika’s comic for the first time.

  5. First of all, I LOVE the comics!!! Second, I’m excited to meet this human at camp!!!! =) OMG CAMP. ♥

  6. I think it’s irresponsible to describe Penny Arcade “one of the internet’s most popular webcomic companies” without mentioning their rabid love of rape comics. I hope anyone reading this article doesn’t provide support to Erika through supporting Penny Arcade.

  7. What an amazing comic. I can relate to so much of her story. Divorce truly sucks, and I was heartened to see that her and her ex parted on tender terms. The pressure we feel to conform the marriage/kids/house checklist thing is tremendous, and getting out from under that is a painful, confusing process. Dealing with that AND coming out is… whew. Living this reality right now. You gotta remember to be so kind to yourself and, like Erika wrote, remind yourself you are not broken.

    I first saw this posted on Oh Joy, Sex Toy, and I’d like to point out there is another superrr (informative) comic on the front page. Just sayin’.


  8. This comic means a lot to me. It’s everything I needed to read tonight. Thank you for sharing the interview.

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