FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: The Editors Have Some Questions For You

HELLO MUSKETEERS. We are coming to you live from Big Bear, California, where all of the senior editors in addition to Alex, wood sprite and also design director, are working together and occasionally eating string cheese. It’s our annual editorial summit, informally called Big Bear Shakedown, in which we get some time to work on big-picture stuff about what we want to do with this website of ours and also get to watch animal odd couple youtube videos together. Yesterday morning Heather showed us all a video of a cat getting its teeth brushed that her girlfriend sent her, and that was just fucking delightful.

Here is Riese making plans to change the world

Here is Riese making plans to change the world

I feel like Laneia didn't want me, Rachel, to take this picture, thank you for putting up with it Laneia

I feel like Laneia didn’t want me, Rachel, to take this picture, thank you for putting up with it Laneia

We’re all so so thrilled about how Tell Us Everything Week is going — there’s nothing better than seeing a gravatar face we aren’t familiar with comment with thoughts and feelings that we would never have known about otherwise! Please keep it up, and thank you so much for reaffirming this day and every day that we have the best readers of anyplace on earth.

Heather is in her natural habitat, behind a vase of zinnias

Heather is in her natural habitat, behind a vase of zinnias

Yvonne and Alex are handling taco night and they would prefer that you not put peas in your guacamole please

Yvonne and Alex are handling taco night and they would prefer that you not put peas in your guacamole please

In the spirit of telling us everything — everything! — we’ve decided to structure this as a chill, casual interview. It’s totally not a big deal, don’t get nervous, we just have some questions for you. Answering them is optional, but also encouraged.

Riese: What would you title your memoir? (Optional follow-up question: What chapter would be the funnest to write?)

Laneia: The first thought you had this morning — how will it affect the rest of your day? Are you taking it with you for later or changing your course today or was it nothing?

Heather: What fictional character reminds you most of yourself?

Yvonne: What’s your favorite alcoholic beverage? What alcoholic beverage actually represents you? (Or non-alcoholic beverage!)

Alex: If you could have ghost sex with any dead famous person, who would it be?

Rachel: What’s one thing about your life today you wouldn’t have believed five years ago?

You are free to answer all of these or none of them! Or like two of them! It’s a free world. At least here inside this one very specific post it is.

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Also though, please don’t stop there! Like seriously tell us EVERYTHING. Did your dog eat anything weird off the floor this week? Did you find your favorite outfit all over again because you did laundry for the first time in a while? Did your baby do a dance to a Tegan and Sara song for the first time? What’s the best color to paint one’s toenails?


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  1. What would you title your memoir?
    “I Better Be Making a Lot of Money for This Shit Because It Was Hella Boring to Write”

    The first thought you had this morning?
    “What time is it? I should get up.” I did not get up.

    What fictional character reminds you most of yourself?
    I just finished watching Freaks and Geeks. I feel like I’m Nick but am externally probably a combination of Lindsey and Ken. I also relate hardcore to Peggy Olsen and somewhat to Liz Lemon.

    What’s your favorite alcoholic beverage?
    I’m only a year into actually being able to order drinks at bars, so I’ve selected rum and coke as my drink and stuck with it because god what if i screw up at ORDERING A DRINK

    What’s one thing about your life today you wouldn’t have believed five years ago?
    I cannot believe I’m this queer. I cannot believe my heart and mind have been cracked open this wide. I cannot believe I want to work in the nonprofit/social justice sector for the rest of my life. I cannot believe I still only know how to cook 3 things.

    • Rum and coke is my go-to bar order. Hard to fuck up. Once my friend got one where it was almost completely white rum? Like it was almost clear. It was awful but we finished it together #teamwork

  2. Riese: Tales Of The Annoying Prick With Too Many Questions

    Laneia: Damn that was a good dream… what was it again? And I will probably spend the rest of the day trying to figure out what it was.

    Heather: Bette McRae.

  3. What fictional character reminds you most of yourself?
    This may seem like a weird answer, but Leo Bloom from the Mel Brooks movie “The Producers”. Leo’s crazy anxieties and fear of trouble and other people totally relates to me. I just saw this movie 2 days ago and said to my friend, while watching it, “Never have I ever related to a character more”, so this was a perfect question for me.

  4. What would you title your memoir? What chapter would be the funnest to write?

    Toast, Tea and the BBC: The uneventful life of a conventional weirdo.

    Funnest chapter – one in which my friends contribute random anecdotes about various (mostly drunken) fun times

    Most Sentimental chapter – “A piece of my heart stays here” about living various places around the world

    The first thought you had this morning — how will it affect the rest of your day? Are you taking it with you for later or changing your course today or was it nothing?

    First thought – what time is it? ooh 7.15, I can go back to sleep for however long I want (This is the first day a I’ve had for an unrestricted sleep in for ages, I was super excited).

    It affected the rest of my day in that I didn’t get up til 12.30 and proceeded to faff around and do essentially nothing except watch the Wimbledon replay and that it’s now 8pm and I still need to do my weekend laundry.

    What fictional character reminds you most of yourself?

    Lindsay from Freak and Geeks. Most recently, Patrick from “Looking”.

    What’s your favorite alcoholic beverage? What alcoholic beverage actually represents you? (Or non-alcoholic beverage!)

    Favourites – Margaritas, gin, beer

    If I was a drink I would be a gin & tonic (Schweppes only) with lime.

    If you could have ghost sex with any dead famous person, who would it be?

    I don’t know???

    What’s one thing about your life today you wouldn’t have believed five years ago?

    My life at the moment is a direct continuation of a path I started on five years ago, so nothing’s too unbelievable. Myself 10 years ago would be pretty surprised that I had ever deigned to live in a regional city for four years, rather than somewhere all bright lights and metropolitan.

  5. 1. Better out than in (family motto & multiple meanings!). The funniest chapter would be travel stories. So many misadventures. I got locked in a toilet at the Vatican, for instance.
    2. ‘No! No! I’m not ready! She’s only just gone back to sleep! Are they awake yet? Are we going to be late?’ My family had to get somewhere across town by 9am and getting them anywhere remotely on time is very stressful. I need to deal with that better. We made it, btw.
    3. Hmmmmm I’ll go with Richard MacDuff, Dirk Gently’s sidekick.
    4. I love Bailey’s. I really love it & think it’s me all over. Also a nice glass of Sally’s Paddock. Oh and a MASSIVE prosecco fan thank you Italians!
    5. Bette Davis circa All About Eve.
    6. Um – EVERYTHING. Not in my wildest dreams did I think I’d be shacked up with a great lady in the country being a parent! My life has completely changed in the last 5 years. A full 180. I have done a lot of growing up. Woof.

    This was fun! Thanks!

      • Sorry to leave you in suspense! Ok so I was in Rome with my best friend in the middle of summer. I asked her how hot she thought it was – she said ‘Oh about 25’ (it was 38, sorry for Celcius!) and I asked how far the Vatican was ‘Only a couple of kms’ (it was 8kms). So off we set in the middle of the day for some holy appreciation & unintended heatstroke.
        I was feeling a bit dizzy & lost her in the basilica which is usually quite hard to do as she is a 6ft rather striking lady of Indian descent. Couldn’t find her anywhere, and thought I could use a comfort stop so went off. The toilet doors had proper handles rather than the usual thingies with ‘vacant’ & ‘occupied’ on them. As I closed it behind me the handle came off in my hand & I couldn’t get out. It was so hot in there! I was banging on the door asking for help but the Catholics weren’t terribly inspired by Jesus that day because I was in there for ages before a cleaner came & then got a maintenance worker to get me out.
        Of course my best friend is beside herself because I wasn’t at the agreed meeting place. In the end we both got back to the hotel & she was proper furious with me but cracked up laughing when I said ‘Well if it makes you feel any better I was locked in a toilet for an hour.’ Then we had some prosecco & I went back the next day to see all the stuff I missed.
        All this was terribly amusing to my extremely Catholic parents who claimed I needed to pay for my sins. I consider them absolved after that.

  6. I love all the comments on the site this week! It’s like frolicking through an outdoor library in a grassy field! (I hope this dream-library idea makes sense ahah). Delightful. Everyone has cool and interesting and kind things to say.

  7. Rachel: What’s one thing about your life today you wouldn’t have believed five years ago?

    That I would’ve moved out of my hometown and be living on my own. To be honest I’ve wanted to move away for the last 10 years, but the thing that gave me the push I needed was my Mum passing away suddenly in February, and the fact that I literally couldn’t afford to stay without her. I also never would’ve imagined she’d be gone, but that’s another entirely more gloomy story!

    My week has been a little annoying… I discovered that, while it has the space and seems to have all the components, my new house doesn’t have adequate plumbing to support a washing machine. As a massive nerd who LOVES doing laundry (try not to judge me too harshly) this was quite a blow and I spent the rest of the day in a sulk. Since then though I’ve pulled myself together and started hand washing my laundry instead! It’s a lot more enjoyable than I first figured, if a little tiring, so I can see it becoming a habit if my landlord doesn’t fix the issue (I’m not holding my breath)!
    The dogs have been thoroughly enjoying not moving this week. Bonnie’s had to pester me to put her quilt outside so she can make the most of the weather, but other than that a nice chilled time for all. C:

  8. Favourite alcoholic beverage is Baileys. I could drink it by the gallon! Finding the other questions hard to answer. Especially the ghost sex one. So many beautiful ladies that are sadly no longer with us. Lauren Bacall was a stunner. I’m a big fan of old movies. Also I love animals which I feel is important information :)

  9. Laneia: The first thought I had this morning was “did I really sleep all the way to my alarm today? That’s awesome!” I thought this before rolling over and going right back to sleep because I wasn’t done yet and I have the day off. I’m holding onto that thought because things have been hard lately and when things are hard I don’t sleep, so me sleeping well leads me to believe I’m going to be okay.

    Yvonne: I generally think of myself as a Hefeweizen kind of person, but lately I’ve been head over heels for the Amaretto Sour. It’s everything I need in a cocktail – it’s sweet, it’s the right size, and it comes with a cherry to I can try to tie the stem into a knot in my mouth in between sips.

    Rachel: Five years ago I wouldn’t have believed that I would be out and proud to almost everyone (in July 2010 I was still somehow operating under the assumption that I would develop a taste for men). I also wouldn’t have believed that I learned to like both coffee and beer, cut my hair short, moved 13 times (twice out of the country), learned German, and only dated one person in that timeframe.

  10. I would have ghost sex with one of those delightfully queer flapper ladies of the 20s. This is when my favorite poem (by Daphne Gottlieb) comes in handy – “It’s on but I don’t know whether I want to be her, fuck her, or borrow her clothes.” All of the above please?

  11. Life update: breaking out like crazy, accidentally cut off bit of middle finger tip, really wanted a raspberry muffin but they were out. Want to go to Holly’s and binge watch Fringe but can’t until after work, and there’s definitely going to be traffic. Got some new lipstick this morning but it’s only okay. #feelingblah

    finger hurting makes it hard to type but doing some extra hunt-and-peck to make up for it. Time for some gif reactions because I’m sick of typing!

  12. Laneia: “DON’T BE LATE” – I wasn’t but I dreamed I went swimming instead of going to work. That would have been nice.

    Heather: The main character in a book called The Best Way You Know How by Christine Pountney

    Yvonne: Espresso martini is the answer for both. Because I am delicious, will keep you up all night and rarely on the menu. That sounds more sexual than I intended. Oh well.

    Rachel: I don’t think any part of my life now is anything I’d recognise 5 years ago.

  13. Riese: “I tried to be cool but my glasses were too thick”
    Chapter 11: Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me

    Laneia: I really want some coffee right now. I hope Beth didn’t drink all the cold brew. (She did). I made an iced latte and carried it around with me. It made my day better but I really wanted that cold brew.

    Heather: Avatar Korra (The Legend of Korra). Very much a leap before she looks kind of person but she evolves into somebody a lot more zen. She also figures out she likes hot engineer chicks.

    Yvonne: Bourbon. IPA Beer, because Geology is liquor and guessing but Geologists are made out of beer.

    Alex: Vivien Leigh for sure. She can arch that eyebrow at me any day. Also Whitney Houston pre-Bobby.

    Rachel: That I let someone pick out my clothes in the morning.

    I know this was a friday thing but I saw it today and couldn’t resist.

  14. Like @kristana, I too, am a vodka girl though rum is the drink of choice for my peoples [a.k.a. Cubans and Puerto Ricans]. I usually just tell bartenders “give me your fruitiest, girliest, froofiest drink. If someone’s embarrassed to order it, I want ten because I will love them.” Pour the juices in there, pour the sweet liqueurs, the wild-flavored vodkas that come in “cupcake” and “marshmallow,” the alcohols with names like “Kinky” and the drinks w/ actual glitter in them. Otherwise I keep it simple and refreshing with gin and tonics :) A drink that would be representative of me is a tougher question…hm… It’d be sweet, definitely, but edgy somehow, and it would have a high alcohol content because I don’t mess around. It would be colorful…layered probably?

  15. I know it’s Saturday morning but:

    Riese: What would you title your memoir? (Optional follow-up question: What chapter would be the funnest to write?)

    Title: The Girl Who Wouldn’t Go Away. Memoir: Funnest chapter would be about the Slope in the 90s, which was a wonderful place to be.

    Laneia: The first thought you had this morning — how will it affect the rest of your day? Are you taking it with you for later or changing your course today or was it nothing?

    My first coherent thought is often, “Where is my phone??” since I listen to music or podcasts to fall asleep, so sometimes it gets lost, occasionally for a day or two. Drama ensues, so when it’s that, then my day starts off, um, poorly.

    Heather: What fictional character reminds you most of yourself?

    Wow. That’s tough. I guess I wish it was Steph, the hero of Assigned Male Comics, this very political and fearlessly out kid (entering HS this year, strip has chronological development instead of static ages of characters, which is harder to write). It’s by Sophie Labelle of Montréal and it’s also funny. At least I think it is.

    I happen to have started participating this week in a program called Unstoppable!, which is meant to change the way we see ourselves and let out our inner happiness. You may have heard of it. So maybe by the end of it I’ll feel more like a Steph.

    Yvonne: What’s your favorite alcoholic beverage? What alcoholic beverage actually represents you? (Or non-alcoholic beverage!)

    Red wine, especially old vine stuff, the less tannins the better.

    Alex: If you could have ghost sex with any dead famous person, who would it be?

    Audrey Hepburn. When I was a kid I thought she was beautiful.

    Rachel: What’s one thing about your life today you wouldn’t have believed five years ago?

    That I’m an out transitioning trans woman again, taking estrogen again and a lot happier, much less that I’d be writing again and involved in one of those programs (Unstoppable!). I wouldn’t have believed it six months ago either. The U! thing, six weeks ago. But I’m happy being a part of something bigger than me, for lack of a better term, and I actually didn’t expect it. New Yorkers don’t usually do things like U!, although that’s changing slowly.

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