BlogHer? But I Just Met Her! Internet Worlds Collide at the Blogher ’10 Conference

“Hi, everyone. It’s 2:48. We’re three minutes late and we’d like to start. Hi! My name is Alex. [over-enthusiastic applause.] Thank you. I’m a graphic designer, I’m not a blogger like many of you are. Is anyone not a blogger? Where my non-bloggers at? Probably shouldn’t encourage [that]. I’m a graphic designer, the site I work on is…”

I actually asked ‘where my non-bloggers at?’ in a room-full of bloggers. And here I am writing a blog about the BlogHer ’10 Conference. None of this makes sense! Except clearly the (lack of) timeliness of this here post is pretty telling with respect to my blogging skills.

I WAS ON A PANEL SPEAKING ABOUT DESIGN YOU GUYS. HOW COOL IS THAT? I was so excited. I just wanted to say everything at once!

Our panel was called “Good Blog Design: The Role of Layout in an Online Medium” and I got to join the likes of Grace Bonney from design*sponge and Gabrielle Blair of on this panel who were amazing and so informative about this stuff. I was seriously impressed. Go read their blogs. DO WHAT I TELL YOU – I was on a panel!

This thing was actually liveblogged. It’s hard to believe but 95% of what we said was captured by a unicorn stenographer with a computer and published on the internet immediately as/after it happened. Which for me is a little horrifying because while Grace and Gabrielle provided extreeemely useful information and a cohesive presentation to the audience, I pranced around the elevated platform like a monkey on meth.

BlogHer '10

(I stole this photo from Paris Breakfast which is an art blog by Carol Gillett who was in attendance at the panel wearing cute red-framed glasses! Hi Carol!)

For those of you who are unfamiliar with BlogHer, I found this nifty little description:

“For the uninitiated, BlogHer, founded in 2005, is a network of over 2,500 female-centric blogs, a ‘curated selection of authentic voices,’ according to BlogHer’s About page. BlogHer is also a community for female bloggers, where they can find support, help, and inspiration. And finally, BlogHer is a yearly conference, which this year was held in New York City, August 6 and 7.”


So let’s get on with my

Top 5 Feelings About The BlogHer ’10 Conference:



Free Foodz & Swag

Food tastes better when it’s free, amiright?! No really though, excellent noms were provided. Plenty of coffee was supplied. I am a little bit of a foodie maybe, so this made me very happy.

And there was free stuff everywhere. My fave swag item is definitely a Pur water bottle I swiped off a table that looks something like this:



It was nice to feel like I was celebrating something, even if that meant I was in the hotel bar for the BlogHer Reception alone, drinking a beer I bought with my one-free-drink ticket. (You get drink tickets when you go these cocktail parties!)

Later on the kick-off night of the conference, Riese and myself mosied on over to the Queerosphere cocktail party where we finally met some of our fellow bloggers in person for the first time. Here we are:

From left to right:
Vikki of Up Popped A Fox, Polly of Lesbian Dad, Riese and Alex,
and Grace Yip of Grace The Spot.

Photo by Grace Chu of

I managed to eat every sandwich and dessert twice, which makes me the winner.

Here are some pictures from other fun parties that I somehow missed:



Meeting These People

Ahh the internet became a smaller place this weekend. All of us bloggers and internet personalities brought our relationships to the 4th dimension by congregating in the same room to do what we do best: drink and discuss feminist theories and stuff.

Riese and myself had the pleasure of meeting Deborah of Peaches and Coconuts, which is her own personal blog of lezbolicious awesomeness. Riese and I had a team meeting and we agree: Deb is the funniest person we’ve ever talked to in our entire lives.

Look it’s Deb on the dance floor! (In the white.)
Deborah was actually one of BlogHer’s Community Keynote Voices of the Year, which makes her a big shot because her submission was one of the 15 chosen out of 1,000 to be read at the Keynote this year. Just saying.


Look it’s Deb! Second from the left.

Also, you guys… Riese and I finally met Autostraddle’s Den Mother in person: Up Popped A Fox! Look it’s Vikki! In person, Vikki is vibrant and I enjoy her energy. That sounds mystical and weird but it’s true. I wish she was around here more often to be our den mother in real life and not just on the internet!


Lesbian Brunch

On Sunday, the queers set up a big brunch date. I was up north in the woods at the time. Because Riese spent most of the chain e-mails about said brunch whining about how she hadn’t been invited to speak on a panel and nobody would let her in to see my panel, nobody knew if she’d show up or not, but she did!

She has left me the following notes from which I am supposed to make into a paragraph but you know, it’s easier not to:

– Riese WOKE UP MOTHERFUCKERS and went to brunch at Cafe Forant b/c it is owned by LESBOZ and Riese wrote about it for GO! Magazine, you should read her article

Jess was there and we had a lot to talk about w/r/t the Real L Word

Deb on the Rocks amazingly made all this shit happen, sent emails and is clearly magical and very responsible, also was funny and I think is how alex got on the panel to begin with, says she reads AS on Sundays LANEIA WRITE THAT DOWN and has no issues with our navigation

-people asked Riese questions about Autostraddle and California she didn’t know what to say b/c our hands are tied until the redesign is up gahahhh need xanax

Grace Yip but her real name isn’t Grace, she’s super cute also

Grace Chu our weirdo friend from AfterEllen was there with her giant camera, she was on a panel btw,  look she took an AMAZE photo of tinkerbell

Lesbian Dad, Polly, has a photo of Riese in which Riese did not even recognize herself and also is going to find Riese a house in Berkeley and take care of her when she’s sad and sleep on her couch

– Alex, write words about the funny Peaches and Coconuts recap of BlogHer and how she read our palms BUT DON’T TELL THEM ABOUT MY POWERS ALEX – also mention that she is one of the funniest people I have ever talked to in my life k?



BlogHer ’11 is already set to take place in the fine city of San Diego, which is SO convenient for Autostraddle because most of us will have relocated to the West coast by then! This is especially perfect because I am scared that Riese will get violent if she’s not invited to be on a panel next year, because apparently she loves being on panels.

See you at BlogHer ’11?

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Cofounder and Design Director of Autostraddle. Professional web/graphic designer. Whiskey enthusiast. Drumming hobbyist. A past speaker at the 2010 BlogHer Conference ("Good Blog Design: The Role of Layout in an Online Medium"), 2013 Salon LGBTQ Conference ("Innovative Best Practices for Brand-Blogger Campaigns") and featured in the Los Angeles Edition of Refinery29's 30 Under 30 in 2013. Co-owns and manages Tully's Training, a dog training company in Los Angeles. Twitter: @a_ex Instagram: alexxxvegaaa

Alex has written 100 articles for us.


    • That’s so sweet! I think I look kind of menacing in that photo. I think there was dancing involved which is probably why I look like that because Den Mother’s don’t dance! Ok. I did dance but fortunately no one saw it.

      I’m hugging you all.


    also re: vikki — i mean, i’m almost always jealous of you guys? b/c here i am in AZ and there you are NOT IN AZ. and now you’ve hung out with vikki and really, my #1 feeling is that one day, i will meet our vikki. and it will be lovely.


    so proud of vega. SO PROUD!


  3. “most of us will have relocated to the West coast by then”. If this is true, it ups my chances of being besties with all of you by a lot, which makes me incredibly happy.

  4. Deborah from Peaches & Coconuts did a palm reading for me during brunch at Cafe Forant and it basically changed my life forever.

  5. Also, I would like to publicly malign Deborah because I want to be the funny one with skills but I’m the one with the good energy. Damn you, Deborah! Damn you! Let me just say that I have tricks too but they involve cooked spaghetti and a lot of gagging but someday, people, someday…

  6. One more thing…Alex – you were awesome on the panel and you were a rock star. You had all those straight ladies eating out of the palm of your microphone holding meth monkey hand. You were great and now I know I need more graphics in my posts and a footer and probably a professional design that I can’t afford!

    • it’s ok, i live here and they wouldn’t let me in, i had to sneak into the cocktail party using charm and wit

  7. Part way through reading this I went to make a cup of tea cos I thought ‘hey I really need to enjoy this properly’ and when I got back my dad was sitting in my chair browsing through Autostraddle.

    I just gave him the tea and left, figured he’d be there for a while.

  8. Mmm, that food looks good, and like there may even have been enough from all food groups to form a composite meal, which is so hard to do with conference snack foods.

    Anyway, enough preamble, I have an important issue I need to raise. In fact, I’ve been meaning to bring it up for ages, but you know, been busy and all, and I’m rambling because this is causing me anxiety and if my brain had lungs it would be hyperventilating, but the issue is this:

    The Redesign.

    I mean, I trust you guys, I really do. I trust you with my feelings, my heart, my semi-naked photographs.

    It will probably be fine. It will probably be more than fine, the site might even become one big interactive infographic and I’ll die in euphoria, melting in one big techno-orgasmic puddle.

    But what if it isn’t? I mean look what happened to AfterEllen.

    I guess it could just be like if your gf came home with a dodgy new hairstyle, and you’re taken aback at first but you know that eventually you’ll grow to love it, and even if you don’t, you still love the person underneath (but you secretly don’t fancy them quite as much).

    Please assuage the fears of this humble, concerned and ultimately very shallow fangirl.

    • Good questions, Sally. LETS TALK ABOUT IT.

      It’s as simple as this: it’ll be the same shit, just better organized. You’ll see pretty much the same exact things, you’ll just know how to find things better and hopefully faster.

      :) Does this calm your fears at all?

      • This sounds fine, I never navigate the site anyway, just have all the articles in an rss feed, because, you know, the internet should come to me, right?

        I think I am calm now, thank you. Just promise me the background will stay white.

  9. Ah, the love. It’s true that I can read palms and change lives and do amazing party tricks with my tongue. But, it is also true that Vikki makes me laugh until I dribble…and not from my mouth, pee-ple.

    Such a treat to hang wichall because it reminded me that I had a life before children…and that I probably shouldn’t have given it up. Ok, well, too late now.

    Love the photo of me with My Little Mormon (Sarah-amazing keynote speaker and adorable geek).

    Next year in SD, mo fos!

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